it's been quite awhile since I have posted on here...probably months now...last time I had just had a really bad day and vented on here and got some really hurtful private messages and nasty comments, so much so that I went off the site for awhile..it actually made a very dark time in my life that much worse to witness the cruelness of some people...today has been one of those days and I just need to get some thoughts off my chest here, so please, if you cannot find it in your heart to have some empathy and just listen and be kind then don't say anything at all.

I think the worst part of living in this ridiculous nightmare called a sexless marriage is how it just sucks every bit of strength out of me...sometimes, no really, quite often I have to remind myself to breath and put one foot in front of the other...sleeping is my escape for awhile but then I wake up and it hits me again. I have zero hope and I have never felt this way before about anything in my life...maybe I have hit bottom as they say...feels good to just have somewhere to say this...I'm sure I'm not alone with these thoughts.

suenit suenit
61-65, F
6 Responses Aug 16, 2014

I am sorry that you are going through this. Feel free to text me anytime. Just keep remembering that you are not alone here.

If you ever need to vent, scream, holler or cry just remember my shoulder is available.

thank you..I might take you up on that!! I WILL take you up on that...this week has been one for the record book.

I too am in a sexless relationship.. We just bought a house together though.. She has no money invested in the house.. Only her time and talent of making it a home for us.. I do not understand her attitude towards sex.. Some times we will go for a couple of months with out having sex.. I am left to take care of things myself when the urge hits..

well you have to be responsible for the no money thing too, I mean stuff happens and her time and talent and hopefully loving care towards it matters don't you think?? every couple months sounds like a dream compared to years..I would say count your blessings:)

Why anyone would leave nasty comments to someone who is venting is beyond me. Some people are just rotten I guess. Yes being in your situation does sap the life out of you. I have been away from my wife for over two years now and I am still processing the hurt and the depression. Hang in there and you can always message me if you want to vent. I know what you are going through.

I was shocked at the hateful responses although just one or two it was enough to chase me off of here for awhile..I was down enough, I didn't need it..I appreciate your kind words and I did pm you back.

My marriage is the opposite. I am the one that wants sex and she always turns me away. We are in the same boat hun

I wish that we could just knock them back into the man we fell in love with. You are not alone...there are so many women (myself included) that are in a sexless marriage. I've been searching the internet for any sort of support group, magical cure...nothing so far, but that is how I stumbled onto this site.

Hang in there - you aren't alone...

thank you & I wish we weren't in this club but it does help to know it's not just mePlease reply with authenticity, support, and respect