I have been with my husband since I was 17, I am now 38 years old. We have been married for 16 years. I have been struggling with the lack of sex for a long time. He has always been this way so I am not sure why this is really starting to bug me so much. I have never felt beautiful or wanted. I am just a best friend to him. I know he has a sex drive because he takes care of himself if you get my drift. So why not with me? I am up for it! So frustrating. I am not gross and people have told me I am attractive. I am not grossly overweight, I take care of myself. I have tried everything and I can't seem to gain his interest more than once a month. Grr!!!
artsysunflower artsysunflower
41-45, F
1 Response Aug 28, 2014

I'm sorry you were dealing with this. I wanted to mention that there is not a lot of traffic on this particular message board. You may want to join the circle for "I live in a sexless marriage" and post there. Lots of traffic!

Maybe he prefers self gratification over real sex....seems strange right? More importantly your needs are not being met.

Agree ILIASM is much busier. And my husband is a sex addict and yours may be too. He may have a fear of intimacy, which causes a compulsion to self-gratify. You can google sex addiction for lots of info on this subject.