Married and Husband Won't Touch Me Unless He Wants Sex

I am a 35 yr old married woman whose only been married for alittle over a year.  My husband and I had a wonderful sex life before we got married we would at least have sex twice a week and we lived at least 2 hours away from one another.  He went to Afghanistan for a year and came home and in the beginning we had sex at least once a week and now its to the point he makes excuses every time I touch him.  We now only have sex maybe once a month or every 3 1/2 weeks.  I know he loves me and I love him but in the past we did have trust issues with me not trusting him because he was cheating on me.  I don't know if he is cheating on me now that we are married, but sometimes it feels like it.  I think he values marriage enough thought to not cheat but now he's not really into sex with me and I have tried just about everything to get his attention and it doesn't seem to be working.  I feel like he only wants sex on his terms and that is the only time he starts feeling all touchy feely with me and that turns me off because I don't think its fair for him to deny me but almost demand that I please him.  Of course this hurts me because its not that he really demands it, but its just that he gets angry and upset if I act like I'm not in the mood.  During this whole time he has denied me I am having to satisfy myself to avoid having thoughts or urges of wanting to cheat on him.  What should I do?

athrower athrower
31-35, F
Mar 16, 2009