when my husband and I get physical, I feel like he's not really paying attention to me. More like, he just wants me to *** so that he can *** without feeling bad. There's no real foreplay. There's no talking dirty. Rarely a position change. Rarely a natural, unforced ******... I can't handle it, it's draining me - in all the wrong ways!
I wish I could explain all of this to him without hurting his feelings, but it always ends up that way. After we've 'talked' about it, I might get one night of something a little different, but after that it's same old again. It's making me so sad.
I hope there are others out there with this same issue I can talk to! I've tried changing it up by purchasing the karma sutra and a tantra guide, but we've had them for a month now, and he hasn't even looked at them!
So, because of all of this, sex is a rare thing in our one year old marriage.... Why should I want it? It doesn't change, there is no connecting, no passion. I feel used, despite my best efforts to change this. I've even come to realise that I have been lying to myself by trying to tell myself that sex is great, but, it's just... not.
I am 23 and my husband is a sweet man most of the time... But, I am so sad to think that my sex life is at it's end, when really I feel like it should just be beginning.