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Just An Army Girlfriend?!

When I talk to different people about the current state of things happening with my boyfriend and our plans for the future both near and far, so many people look at me like I am crazy!!! They will say I am crazy to move for a guy or to move again if he is re-loacted. They will say how I am just an army girlfriend. JUST?!! We go through so much, being strong for our boys and getting used to new ways of life and worrying about our mans job, losing holidays with him because he needs to work, not always getting to talk to him because he is doing something bigger than anything imagineable. JUST an army girlfriend, or even any branch of the military!! Does anyone else get really bothered by this?! I feel like if you love someone, especially if you plan to marry them, what does your title matter?!! You care and love someone that may be in a dangerous position or simply a time consuming one. You love someone and you will do anything for them!

Jaredsgirl37 Jaredsgirl37 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 10, 2011

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That's upsetting, but how it is. Until you're married to a soldier and having his children you don't really count for much. But really you should only worry about counting for something to him/her. That's what matters in the end.

I think a lot of people get the attitude of "just" because of the fact that that's really how the military views us. As a girlfriend, we don't really count where the military is concerned, we're not family...not legally anyways. I've learned to just ignore it, let the comments float right on by. Unless they've been there, they won't truly understand what it means to be in our spot.

I know what you mean, I always said I would never be strong enough for this, then I fell for my Army man. Im currently on my 2 week notice to move down to him...people think I am crazy to just pack up and move to be with him but I would do anything for my soldier! Even though I am ONLY a girlfriend. Not being with him breaks my heart, so I CHOSE to be with him. NOONE will understand that unless they have been through it!

People who have never loved a serviceman will never understand. A lot of them are ignorant to the things we go through simply because they have never been in the situation. I married my soldier when I was 18. And we just made six years and I have people telling me I'm wasting my youth on uncertainty. But hey, our men nd women defend ther right to say that. Don't let it bother you. People fear what they don't understand.

my father was a loader on Guam and Midway during the Vietnam war..they loaded materiel 24/7, bombs, guns, ammo,napalm, medic, everything we had!!
Also was an "identified individual" bc of national origin..

That's cool

I relocated with my boyfriend and was having problems finding a place to live. I went to the housing office yesterday and the lady looked at me and told me to go home because the only thing a girlfriend does out here is cause a distraction.

I'm sorry, but just because we don't have rings doesn't make us any less special to our men! It was probably one of the hardest things I have ever done to be polite to that lady after she said that! Ugh!!

What an ***. I'm sorry that happened to you.

i'm a soldier along with my guy and i get the "oh you're crazy" looks but idc. i love my guy and i love my country and by doing what we do we're protecting each other and everyone else around us. i wouldn't let what people have to say bother you, they only wish they had the courage to do the things we do and handle the things we can.

The sad thing is when you marry them the military owns them first and you own them second. It really is true :( I am a navy wife and I realize I don't have much of a say on what he does or what he has to do. But I love the man I married so much so he is def worth it! But I know what you mean. Ive been a navy girlfriend fiancé and wife so I know all about the titles lol.

I was told I didn't matter because we weren't together while he was at basic and ait! I just laughed it off. They won't ever get it if they haven't lived the life

Don't let them bother you, They don't know what we go through until they have gone through it. I look at it this way, we are the strong one who stay strong for our selves and our mans. The ones who are telling you stuff are not strong enough to go through being with someone in the military.