I Am a Young Military Girlfriend Or Wife
My boyfriend's name is Josh and we have known each other since I was 12 and he was 13...we are 22 and 23 now. I had the biggest crush on him for a long time, and I finally got the guts to tell him. We were together for about a year in high school, but it was really rough because we lived about 100 miles away from each other and my parents were extremely strict. They would never let me go see him, and if he came to town to see me, they constantly watched us and Josh wasn't allowed to stay over. We decided to break up because it just wasn't working. During that time, we both dated other people and went on with our lives.
When I was 18, I decided to text Josh out of the blue one day. To this day, I'm not even sure why I did that...it really doesn't make sense to me. I figured that he would tell me to hit the bricks or leave him alone. What he did instead was have a conversation and start flirting with me. Major shocker for me, but I was pretty excited. I realized that I still had feelings for him, so I invited him to come hang out with me for the weekend [he lived about 80 miles away at this point].
From there on out we were inseparable. Josh came down to see me every single weekend and we would spent two to three hours a night on the phone with each other. He always showed up at the door with flowers and even drove 120 miles through a blizzard to come see me. Josh had told me that he decided to go into the military and had signed with the Air Force. He would be leaving for Basic in March. This was in October...he asked me if I wanted to be a soldier's girlfriend - I said yes, not realizing what that even meant.
As we got closer and closer to him leaving for Basic, I started to panic. I realized that it could be weeks or even months before I heard from him again, and I put it into perspective for me. I was 18 years old, in college, and had no idea what I wanted to do with my life, and wasn't even sure if I wanted to leave my home state of Montana. I made a rash decision and broke up with him two weeks before he left for Basic.
It was awful for him and for me. Josh begged me to reconsider, told me how much he loved me, that he would be faithful to me, he would do anything to get me to stay, etc. I ignored it all and cut him out of my life. It was terrible...I cried for the first two months, and was pretty depressed for the next three or four. I realized that I had made a mistake, but it was too late to fix it. I had told him that the only thing I wanted him to do was stay out of my life, and he listened.
During the next year and a half, we both dated other people. For me, it was nothing serious. I was in one of those "temporary" relationships - they're fun, but you know that they aren't going to last in the long run. Josh was with someone who was pretty head over heels for him, but he didn't feel the same about her, so he broke it off before he deployed to Iraq.
By the time I heard from him again, he was a little over halfway through his deployment. One day I checked my e-mail, and there was one with the subject of "Hey" from Josh. I opened it up and it was basically just a note saying hi, asking me what I had been up to, asking how I was doing, telling me he was deployed, etc. I was shocked to hear from him, but I thought it was really great that he was so civil with me, even after as nasty as I was to him when I broke it off.
We chatted back and forth via e-mail for the last few months of his deployment, and then started talking on the phone and texting once he returned stateside. We both realized how much we still cared for one another and decided to get back together. We have been together happily ever since, although it hasn't been easy.
That's been almost a year and a half, and we have only been together for nine days of it. He was stationed about 2,000 miles away from where I was living, so I decided to transfer with my job to be closer to him. That put us about five hours apart...however, about three weeks after I moved, he was deployed again. He's been gone ever since, but I can [happily] say that he is heading home tomorrow. :]
The life of a military girlfriend is not easy, but I've very proud of my boyfriend, and we're proof that time and distance can't keep people who are meant to be apart.
When I was 18, I decided to text Josh out of the blue one day. To this day, I'm not even sure why I did that...it really doesn't make sense to me. I figured that he would tell me to hit the bricks or leave him alone. What he did instead was have a conversation and start flirting with me. Major shocker for me, but I was pretty excited. I realized that I still had feelings for him, so I invited him to come hang out with me for the weekend [he lived about 80 miles away at this point].
From there on out we were inseparable. Josh came down to see me every single weekend and we would spent two to three hours a night on the phone with each other. He always showed up at the door with flowers and even drove 120 miles through a blizzard to come see me. Josh had told me that he decided to go into the military and had signed with the Air Force. He would be leaving for Basic in March. This was in October...he asked me if I wanted to be a soldier's girlfriend - I said yes, not realizing what that even meant.
As we got closer and closer to him leaving for Basic, I started to panic. I realized that it could be weeks or even months before I heard from him again, and I put it into perspective for me. I was 18 years old, in college, and had no idea what I wanted to do with my life, and wasn't even sure if I wanted to leave my home state of Montana. I made a rash decision and broke up with him two weeks before he left for Basic.
It was awful for him and for me. Josh begged me to reconsider, told me how much he loved me, that he would be faithful to me, he would do anything to get me to stay, etc. I ignored it all and cut him out of my life. It was terrible...I cried for the first two months, and was pretty depressed for the next three or four. I realized that I had made a mistake, but it was too late to fix it. I had told him that the only thing I wanted him to do was stay out of my life, and he listened.
During the next year and a half, we both dated other people. For me, it was nothing serious. I was in one of those "temporary" relationships - they're fun, but you know that they aren't going to last in the long run. Josh was with someone who was pretty head over heels for him, but he didn't feel the same about her, so he broke it off before he deployed to Iraq.
By the time I heard from him again, he was a little over halfway through his deployment. One day I checked my e-mail, and there was one with the subject of "Hey" from Josh. I opened it up and it was basically just a note saying hi, asking me what I had been up to, asking how I was doing, telling me he was deployed, etc. I was shocked to hear from him, but I thought it was really great that he was so civil with me, even after as nasty as I was to him when I broke it off.
We chatted back and forth via e-mail for the last few months of his deployment, and then started talking on the phone and texting once he returned stateside. We both realized how much we still cared for one another and decided to get back together. We have been together happily ever since, although it hasn't been easy.
That's been almost a year and a half, and we have only been together for nine days of it. He was stationed about 2,000 miles away from where I was living, so I decided to transfer with my job to be closer to him. That put us about five hours apart...however, about three weeks after I moved, he was deployed again. He's been gone ever since, but I can [happily] say that he is heading home tomorrow. :]
The life of a military girlfriend is not easy, but I've very proud of my boyfriend, and we're proof that time and distance can't keep people who are meant to be apart.
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Age:
22-25
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Female
