End Of Deployment Issues
So my boyfriend and I have been dating about 2.5 years. We have always been long distance. We were best friends all through elementary school, he moved away, we met up at the end of senior year of high school and started dating. I went to college that fall and he left for basic the following February. We were last together the beginning of March 2012. He should be home from his 9 months over seas sometime in the upcoming month. We were both in a tough spot with our lives personally last spring we broke up for about a month right before he deployed. We then quickly realized we still wanted to be together so we started dating again. Things were better than ever. But then around the holidays recently he started becoming depressed. It got really bad and he didn't want to talk to anyone. Well, that got better but not for long. He is now basically sitting around over seas waiting to be told he gets to leave. We have had a few disagreements about when and where we will see each other for his month of leave he gets after his deployment because I still live 4 hours away from his immediate family and where all his hometown friends are. We worked out some of it. However the last week he has been so disconnected from everything and everyone back here in the states. To me it's difficult to get him to say more than two words in his responses back to me. He doesn't say 'i love you' anymore and he has no interest in anything. He is like that with his friends sometimes but then other times they get him to talk more. My friends at home say I shouldn't put up with how he treats me, and then one of our mutual friends basically doesn't have much hope because she expects the worst. I don't know if I should push him to deal with his feelings or whether I should just try to wait it out and give him some space. What I'm most worried about is that he will give up on our relationship before we even get to see each other and try to make things work. Anyone ever had to deal with something like this before??