Recently Widowed

I lost my husband of 14 years on june 26. He was 36 years old he went in for ankle surgery and died a week later. I am left with 3 beautiful kids. I am not sure how to deal with  this. I am full of sadness, anger, frustration and I can keep going on. I am not sure how to deal with this he was my best friend and my soul mate he was an excellent father. If anyone can give me advice I would greatly appreciate it.
connor8898 connor8898
31-35, F
6 Responses Jul 12, 2010

i am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband on August 10th, 4 days after he had ankle surgery as well. I would love to hear more of your story, we seem to have a lot in common. I am also left the single mother of three beautiful children. My husband was 41 and I am 35, we had been married for 13 years. I also know for certain that I will see him again one day, but that seems awfully far away right now.

I am so sorry for your terrible loss. I lost my fiance 6 months ago and for me it has only got more difficult I have become a shadow of my former self and I am constantly frustrated and angry. My advice to you would be to try not to let the anger control you because I have let that happen and I worry that the sympathy has maybe run out for me. I hope you find some peace and if you do, let me know how you got there

I don't think it gets easier anytime soon. I take meds to to cope. I know we have to let our emotions out and I know we have to talk about it but it gets harder and harder. I barely have strength for myself let alone strength for my children. I am told take every minute and every day at a time. If you want to talk I will talk. I am very strong in my beliefs so I do know I will see Mike again just not as soon as I want to. My life will never be the same.

I also lost my husband on June 3,2010. He was working for the post office as a mail carrier when he was attacked by a dog on another carrier's route. He suffered a traumatic brain injury. He was in the ICU for 9 days until he passed away. I also have 3 kids. The youngest being 6 months old. I am only 31 and my husband was only 33. I am having a harder time coping now then when all of this all started. I became depressed and started to have anxiety attacks when he was in the ICU. When I don't take my meds then things started feeling worse. I don't know how to cope anymore. I have been strong for the kids but it has taken a toll on me.

I realize I need to go on and I know that my husband would want me to continue to raise them the same way as when he was here. Even though I am a strong believer I feel that the hospital that you put all you trust in would not over look common things that took his life. I don't know if the anger that i have is towards any certain person or thing. I feel like my world has crumbled and I have no way out. I start one on one councilling to see maybe if that will help. I know or I am hoping I will see him again and he will remember me as he did on earth.

I feel sorry for you! It happened to me 6,5 yrs ago, as my wife died. I wasn't sure how to deal with it either, as I found out that I wasn't the only one, that had to deal with it, also my 3 daughters had to deal with it. Soon I discovered that we could help each other. And now I realize that my daughters helped me to deal with it, simply by showing me that life goes on...