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 F.P.A.Q. : Frequently Privately Asked Questions.

I receive a LOT of questions in my mail that would be really helpful for y'all, but I realise that sometimes a question just feels to sensitive or silly or embarassing to post publicly as a comment.  I've scrubbed these questions and made sure they aren't revealing in any way, and I'll continue editing this post to reflect the answer that seem relevant.  Keep the questions coming, even privately!  No questions have been reproduced here without the permission of the original asker.  

Q.    My girlfriend is scheduled for a spa service.  She has decided to go fully nude and the attendant is male. From your own experience how likely is he to see her fully nude/breasts/vagina?  On a side note the place I go for my massages (rmt) allows me to go fully nude without draping and it is very professional. Just great to be able to relax nude without towels and sheets moving.

A.  Some of you have asked this question with fear and great nervousness, hoping that no one will ever, ever, ever see any more of you than the palms of your hands and the soles of your feet.  Others have been hoping for some excitement, wondering if there will be stories to be told when your partner comes home.  It's true that massage combines pleasure and medicine in a way that can make some people very unsure.  

For those of you who are hoping for misbehaviour, I have to deflate your illusions just a little.  The fact is that an ethical and responsible therapist, properly trained, is just not that interested in seeing your nudity.  When we are looking, it's fairly clinical.  The skin is an organ like all the others, and offers a great deal of information on what's going on inside you from an evaluative perspective.  It's true that there are some places where nudity without draping is allowable or even encouraged.  I never worked in one of those places, and to be honest, I'm sort of glad:  Keeping a massage room warm enough for the client to be nude makes it awfully hot for the (fully clothed) therapist slaving away over your body!  In private practice, I have worked with clients in a lot less draping than I would in a spa setting, so it's not about skittishness.  There is an issue of control, though.  Should a confused receptionist or overzealous manager accidentally open the door, you'll be much more thankful for that sheet.

For those of you who are hoping to remain as hidden as possible, please know that your therapist is looking for YOUR comfort, not theirs.  It's not about us.  So if you want to be fully clothed the entire time, we may suggest some bodywork in the areas of shiatsu, Thai massage, or Reiki.  If you're comfortable being on the table in underwear or in panties and socks or if you want to wear a hat, just say so.  We'll work with you.  The idea is to access the muscles efficiently, not to take voyeuristic advantage of your nakedness.

Q.   My significant other and I like to give each other massages, and we would like to hire a massage therapist to give us a lesson or two (so we can get better at it). Do you have any suggestions for how we can find someone to do this? 

A.   I have never given a " lesson " the way you're describing, not for money. I have coached friends informally. I can't think of any reason not to do it; it just hasn't come up. My guess for the sake of both safety and everyone's comfort would be that you should ask around for a therapist who teaches. This is obviously easier if you live near one of the schools, but don't go thinking that just because your town isn't renowned for massage like Sedona or Phoenix that there ISn't a school. There might be. Start at the top, because it sounds like you're looking for genuinely professional advice: Ask at the local community college, check with your chiropractor. At the other end of the spectrum ( but still respectable ) have a look at your local free press newspaper. The schools often advertise there. Having found someone who teaches, even if they don't practice regularly they may be interested. Also you may be eligible for some of the continuing education courses offered for massage therapy graduates. Not all of them have prerequisites, but of course, call ahead for information. 



Q.  What are your favorite parts of the male anatomy? You said "My personal preference runs toward the weekend warrior dads. I do my best work on guys who aren't too 'ripped' but do actually use their bodies as tools." What body parts are you 'into' ?

A.  It depends what kind of work he typically does. I like forearms and hands... they are sort of unexpected places to spend a lot of time, but they can offer a lot of relief. People don't usually realise how much tension they carry in their hands, and when that's been worked out well, people find they relax a lot. Guys who drive for a living appreciate work to the hamstrings and calves; driving is sitting with enforced muscle tension. The base of the skull gets a lot of attention, and the muscles in the scalp... very helpful for the worriers. 

Ah, but if you're asking a much more personal question, I love working a nice abdomen .  Not too cut, not too swollen ?  Stretching hip bones away from ribs is fantastic.  For my own (sadistic?) pleasure, I guess I like touching lower backs, upper thighs... I'm a fan of places where the blood comes up to the surface.  So ...  backs of knees, edges of armpits. But that's really more masochistic than sadistic.  Because it's me that 's being tortured.  They feel great and have no idea what's going on in my ... erm..  head.  not pants.  I was not going to say pants.



Q.   How much can a perceptive massage therapist tell about a guy's 'equipment' when he's draped under a sheet and blanket (pulled out 'flat' for instance, not 'bunched'). If the draping is a sheet only, can you tell more, and how much more?

A.    Everything. We know everything. Just stop trying to hide and it will all go much easier. Okay, seriously: it really is a lot. If you're under a sheet and a blanket together, you can hide a little, but we're going to have to move the blanket eventually. Don't think it changes anything to wear underwear either. Go by what your therapist requests: me personally, I tell my clients I prefer them as naked as possible. It's just easier for me to drape them than to try to work around elastic and seams.. but then I'm very professional about how I describe the process, and I don't seem to leave them feeling insecure. The relevant thing about our knowing as much as we know is .. well, not to spoil anything for you, but we rarely care. Not don't care as in we're callous and disregarding you, just... we see an awful lot of them. And we're not working ON them, just... around them, so.. it's pretty matter -of -fact. If there's one that's particularly odd, I'll admit we may smirk, but likely only when you cant see us.

RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 231 Responses Mar 12, 2011

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I live in a small town so there are not spa quality massage therapists. I often go on vacation and always treat myself to a massage. This last time I really enjoyed the therapist I had. I knew the name and tried to google for a linkedin profile but was unsuccessful. Contacting on Facebook seems very unprofessional but that was the only profile that came up. I would like to be sure to locate the therapist when I return in case they are no longer at the spa I was last at. As I only go 2-3 times per year but it is always disappointing when the massage isn't great. Is there any other way you suggest to locate or contact therapists? I should've asked before I left! However now I just don't want to make it weird. Thanks for your advice.

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Hi I am a massaje therapist and in my salon the client is naked. The massage is sensual because it is very slow and flowing like lomi lomi but Spanish style and exotic because the therapists are all from different countries and are very beautyful and very attractive. I have been looked strangely due to this but I stand my ground it is completely a non sexual service and I also.do energy healing on my clients But my partner doesn't like when I massage them ontop when they are face down I do this coz when massaging them standing you must stretch the arms and it can start to get quite painful so I have more strength when I'm ontop in your expertise do you see this wrong would like your opinion thanx

Beauty4Body,

No, I don't see anything wrong in getting on top of the client. Maximising your body mechanics to create longevity in your practice and to give the most effective massage is just good business practice... But I can certainly understand where your partner is coming from. Especially if your client is naked, it's very important to have clear boundaries and to be extremely specific if the work you do is non-sexual. To be honest, though, I wonder why your partner even knows that that is a technique you use. Not that you ought to hide it, but if it's genuinely something that is a matter-of-fact tool in your metaphorical toolbox, then it probably shouldn't be worth bringing up. Now that it's a topic, though, you really can't just shut it down. You might want to ask your partner what specifically disturbs him/er about it, because perhaps it's not what you think.

Hi thankyou for your reply,
My husbands disturbed with being ontop of the client when massaging him because he is fully naked and massaging him from the front even though I do not get close or touch his private areas he believes that due to the clients penis erected it can touch my body whilst on top... IN MY OPINION it was much easier for me to massage the way I massaged before ontop and I ALWAYS make sure the client knows it's a non sexual service

I Forgot To Add One More Thing... I believe if your a therapist professional you see a client as a client and it's just another body but in saying that I do not allow a client to touch my breasts or any part of my body while massaging them its respect to me and also it's putting a boundary between the client and myself. letting a client or a masseur touch is something else and leads to something else coz you have crossed the boundaries If a male massuer massages a female clients breast it's the same as a female massuer massaging a males private areas and if you are married or in a relationship this wrong and disrespectful to your partner You might aswell be single coz there's no respect between the both of you. I have relationship of honesty we tell each other everything so I don't hide anything from him I tell him exactly how the massage is performed so there's no doubts

My wife goes to a male therapist, that doesn't bother me at all. The other day she asked me about some sitting issues she has, something I have known about for years, since she spends a lot of time on a bicycle. I have even rubbed her fanny out for her, probably hundreds of times now.
What she wanted to know if it was all right with me if Hal, the person she sees could work that area out for her? She didn't want me to not be aware or take a chance of my being upset.
I told her it should be OK if she was OK with it, but after the fact I had second thoughts. Now I am curious, since the area is going to be EXTREMELY personal, some male I barely know will have his hands down THERE? We are talking about the Perineum, the pelvic floor muscles?
I thought about telling her no but then at the last couple of sessions she told me he did and it really helped? She is 44 and athletic, attractive, But I doubt Hal who is perhaps 30 is interested in her that way and likely really is just trying to help. He also massages her bust, she asked me for permission for that, also and it was NBD.
She did say that to do the work he undraped her completely and that does bug me a little bit. My wife has always been very open and honest with me, so that part is good. She knows I write naughty stories for fun, and as a result we usually can talk about anything. But my concern over this happening, and me not being there or even knowing for sure bothers me.
What do I do or say without sounding stupid or putitanistic?

magmaman,

I want to be unprofessional and say that I simply love that you want to support your wife and not sound stupid or puritanical, but ...hunh... i just did, didn't i? Let me resume my professional face.

I think you're going to have to rely on the trust and open communication you've already established with your wife and believe that you will not sound stupid (or that if you do she'll forgive it). As to sounding puritanical, I think you probably crossed that bridge and burned it behind you when you realised that it was genuinely helping her and were happy for her holistic health.

You're right that most likely Hal is not interested in her in "that way" because doing that kind of work requires a lot of focus and is not actually very sexual for the therapist. It's actually quite difficult and can even be painful to provide.
You're definitely going to have to do some introspection, as uncomfortable as that might be. But I will throw one idea in your general direction: when I work on children, I encourage the parent or guardian to take a seat in the room, and there is often an ongoing dialogue between my client (the child), the adult in the chair, and myself. If you can't seem to get past your discomfort or the fear or whatever else it is that's going on for you, maybe it's worth asking them if they'd be willing to let you sit in on a session. Actually seeing what it's like may take some of the mystical pseudosexual undertones out of your head.

So for sometime now I've been visiting an asian massage centre. This is a very legit place by the way. When I enter the room I always get asked to undress and cover myself with a drape. As soon as the masseuse enters however, the first thing she does is undrape me. And I have to admit that laying there on the table butt naked is a turn on. Anyway, she'd usually start off by rubbing my back, and work to the rest of my body. The best part is when she focuses on my buttocks due to the fact that it would usually cause me to climax. I don't react when I climax, and the masseuse never notices. Is this normal to climax when getting a buttocks massage? Or am I just too sensitive? Anyway I always get asked to turnover, and I always say I prefer to remain in this position, as I'm embarrassed to expose my erection. I do feel sometimes that I offend the masseuse when I prefer to not turn over. The reality is I'd really like to, but i'm just a little too embarrassed. Do you have similar experiences with clients climaxing, do you ever notice? (p.s. I now bring a sock so I don't leave a mess on the table like the first time). The staff there are very friendly and I get along quiet well, I don't think they know of about my climaxing, or they could just be pretending.

mrwonder,

it's a little hard to answer if i've ever not known about someone climaxing, as i wouldn't know i didn't... but i'd say it's pretty hard not to know. It's much more likely they're pretending ... or that they just don't see as it's anything to make a big deal of. it's considerate of you to bring a sock, though I'm surprised the spa doesn't provide towels for you. It's not "too" sensitive of you to have a strong reaction to touch! If it's unusual, so are plenty of other sexual proclivities.

Hi I am currently 17 and will turn 18 in late June. I do a ton of running (about 10 miles a day) and some days I'm sore in my legs near my groin and thighs and on my back. and was wondering if there are age limits and if it is different for every state? Also would I need parent permission? Would I have to be covered? I'm very shy but after reading the above questions I could definitely get rid of the drape for a better experience and more relaxation. Also I am 5'10" and about 110lbs. Is it more difficult to massage people that are bony? And are massages easier to give when the client is shaven?

Hi. I'm a guy and my Nighbor (also a guy) once gave me a mini massage for a few seconds. Today he calls me if I remember that massage he gave me, I said yes then he says he wants to come over and give me a normal massage. I really don't have a lot in common with that Nighbor and it was kind of funny that he called me. Is it possible that he really wants to only massage me? Or there will come out sexual activity? Basically, is it possible not to have sexual activity?

Is it possible not to have sexual activity? Yes. If you say no, there won't be any. If you're asking what your neighbour (?) is intending, I think he's the one you'd have to ask. If no money is involved, then really it's just a question of what you (and he) want or are willing to allow.

Whould u massage the penis

Not for money. Massaging the genital areas is illegal in the state in which i practiced.

My fiance's mom is my massage therapist. Ive always been worried about getting overly aroused while getting a massage. Im comfortable with full nudity even with her but Im not sure if she would be ok with it. My question is, if I wanted to ask her about a possible non draped session, how would I do that without sending her the wrong signal? What could I say to her to let her know that it isnt for an inappropriate reason and that its an innocent request?

This is a bit of a tough question, 2332. I've no wish to imply that you want anything other than what you've said, but why, exactly, are you looking for an undraped session? If she's a professional, she's capable of looking after her own professionalism. As far as signals are concerned, I would have a few questions for my potential son in law if he wanted to be naked on my table.

do you ever answer your questions?

Sorry! yes, yes, i do. I got busy and I haven't got internet at home, so sometimes there are gaps. My apologies.

I do not know if you're still answering questions, but here it goes. I have been a licensed massage therapist since 2009. I have tried to be self employed from time to time. However, I stopped about a year ago due to having trouble with advertisement. I used to advertise on craigslist and it just got so old dealing with men asking for sexual favors. Then, I decided to start a different career. However, recently I decided that I just do not want to deal with a boss or manager. I want to go back to being my own boss. My question is; is there any other place, besides craigslist, to advertise legitimate, non-sexual massage? I understand that from time to time, I will get a perv, but I need to know if there's a way to advertise without getting so many sickos. I live in Phoenix AZ. Thanks for your response!

Absolutely! YES.

One thing we don't tend to do as therapists is enlist the services we really need from others. Do not be shy to talk to the people who market. I went to one seminar at an event sponsored by the AMTA which was literally all about this sort of specificity.

One suggestion right off? Be quite clear about who you mean to attract. If you're looking to work with nurses, advertise at the hospital. If you want office workers, put your ad up in coffee shops in the business district. Go where your target audience is.

Craigslist is a bit of a shitshow, and honestly, sometimes the local free press is no better, but you may do better if you're willing to write an occasional article for them. You may be able to advertise without ending up in the back pages.

what is your reaction when you go to give me a message and all i'm wearing are some super hot sexy panties, an obvious nice hard **** inside, a nice body and funny and friendly? do you go ahead and play along and enjoy it? do you ram my *******, rub my **** thru my panties? nothing feels as good as a womans hand caressing my panties till I blow my wad!

My reaction is to cover you. You may either keep or lose your underclothes, that's to you, but I will cover you with a sheet and you will never even know that that was noticed.

Is it possible for a woman to get a sensual massage? I really need it and want the relaxation and release. I don't know where to get one around me.

Yes, it's absolutely possible. If you're looking for a sensual massage in the strictest sense, you probably can find one as you would any other type of therapeutic service. If you mean a sexual one, you'll want to look amongst the redlight ads near the back of your local free press paper.

Have you had guys get hard well giving them a massage? Do therapists consider it weird when that happens?

Happens all the time. Not weird at all. Promise.

I have a question if someone could help me,
I have had hundreds of massages in various countries and I have just seem a local therapist who is very nice and seems friendly, I can relax in her company which is good.
In her advert she offers the option of undraped massage, I went to see her and as I was getting undressed in an anti room she asked me if I wanted covers or not, well Im not fazed by being naked in front of strangers and to be honest I prefer undraped massage anyway, so I told her undraped.
I got on the table and to be honest she gave me a first class massage for 2 hours, nothing inaproppriate happened when I was laying on my front, she did go quite a way up my inner thighs but made no contact with my genitals, but it was sensual somehow, when I turned over she did the front of my thighs up to my hips and on the right leg my penis was laying over to that side, when she stroked up my thigh her hands did lightly brush my penis but Im sure it was unintentional, she also bent out my legs like butterfly position and massaged my inner thigh, again no contact with genitals but she did run her hands up close, as when I was on my back she did my bum but not between the cheeks but very close.
In her advert she advertises relaxing or theraputic massage, so my question is, I am getting the wrong signals here?, she left thhe room to wash her hhands after the massage and locked the door behind hher saying no one can walk in, there was no wash hand basin in the room by the way, did she leave too left me **********?
maybe I have an over active imagination. This is in the UK and also in all the massages Ive had I never get and erection not this time either.
I would love to hhear your comments and opinions please.
Alan

Sounds like if you wanted to she made sure you were in a safe environment. Relaxing and therapeutic don't mean sexual release, though i know that a lot of people mistake it for such. But it might have been nice of her to leave you a towel or something if that was her intention. In either case, it sounds like she gave you a completely appropriate and an appropriately complete massage.

Rabbit,

I just recently got a massage, and I loved it. I haven't found a massage therapist who has provided such a great massage in my area. I was so happy I found a great therapist, and am considering being a regular client.

Unfortunately, I don't want to see a massage therapist regularly, if they do not enjoy working on my body. I'm not in the best shape, and am a little insecure about my fitness level. I know she's seen several different bodies, some probably worse than mine, but after the massage and during our conversation, I couldn't help but feel that she was 'pushing' me out, and didn't exactly want me to come back. In a previous post you mentioned that there are some people that you just don't want to work on, or don't have that connection. I'm wondering if she felt that away about me.

So here's my question(s).

1. How do I know if my therapist wants me to return, and enjoys working on me? I don't necessarily want to go see a therapist, if they are not enjoying their work with me.

2. Is it okay to ask a therapist how they feel about working on me?

The answers to both questions are really the same: communication. The relationship between client and therapist has a lot in common with the relation between patient and doctor, but it's also a very intimate situation. It is absolutely ok to ask how your therapist feels. Really, it's ok to ask your therapist anything. The onus is on them to be professional and handle the question with grace and dignity. But please don't let body issues be the reason you run away. Massage is one of the places that should really be getting healed, not exacerbated.

hey rabbit- what an interesting group you started. Thanks for sharing. I've never had a massage, but have been thinking about it a lot lately. I do believe it's time!

I have had massages overseas in Asia before and I like them, particularly anything that is full body. I live in a small, very conservative town which does have massage spas, but I worry about getting anything more than that. Can I request that a masseuse come to my home? Also, can I get a complete full body massage this situation, without worrying that the person is a police officer? My wife is gone for two months to her home country and I would like to relax in this opportune time. I don't want sex. I like a pleasant experience and if a happy ending should happen to come with it, that would be nice. What is the price in the U.S. in the southwest and do I have to pay extra here for a happy ending? Thanks!

I'm sorry, I don't know if I know the answer to your question. In the US, standards of massage allow for home visits absolutely, but it is considered illegal and unethical for any sexual activity to take place along with the exchange of money, and unprofessional for it to take place within the context of massage.

Once when I was getting a nude massage the masseuse began concentrating on points on my upper thigh and backside. Are these points of tension?

Yes, indeed! The pelvic girdle holds the tension of the entire hip joint. There's much work to be done there.

So i've been a massage therapist for about a year, I can never seem to get the motivation to give my boyfriend a massage. And when i do i half *** it, i dont mean to but i just cant see him as a client. how can i change that? how can disconect the relationship part out and see him as a client?

It's entirely possible that you can't. That's why we refer. But if you're committed to the effort, you might find it gets easier when he falls asleep or if he's face down. Focus on very technical work instead of relaxation strokes. The more involved you are with muscle stripping, the less time you have to feel tired and annoyed. Also, make him pay you. * grin*

I herd my massage theripist smirk a bit. I was soft it must have looked so tiny.sorry too cold she asked.so matter of factly .its a penis ive seen them.. ive seen yours before .just gotta watch out if the theiripist leaves the room and her teenage desk girl checks it out and giggles.i actually have a very small penis about 2in soft. Its nice to be comfortable with someone seeing how tiny you are not even flinch and keep it cool.thanks massage lady you might he the only women that doesnt just giggle or laugh at it.good job

When i had massage theripy done on my back it was a rather pretty blond women she left the room i got naked and under a towel.i got a bit aroused and she giggled dont worry.i have a rather small penis maybe 3in hard so it was sticking up .when you go to roll over she lifts the towel still hard she smiled.its ok realax its just your body ive seen many . I realaxed then tuurned around again she lifted the towel boom .erection.thanks for the complement.she laughed i guss to realeve the tension.she lifted the towel looking at my penis ok little buddy you gotta calm down so we can fix him.i actally continued to go for 6 months till my back was fixed but felt totally confortable with her after that knowing that if it humped up or she seen something she was just doing her job.soo cool

I 'm doing market research. Is doing massage seasonal, i.e. do you make more money in the winter or summer or is it about the same. Is the market consistent or is it growing. This is from your point of view. Any answer would be very much appreciated.

groovinstein,

doing private massage i didn't find much difference. in spa settings, if it rains, we'll be booked solid.

i'm curious about your research... what are you aiming toward?

RascallyRabbit

I have been reading your entries and I am very impressed with you candor and practical attitude. I really have enjoyed your well thought out answers and your professionalism.

I'd like to throw in a little background before I get to my questions. Up until recently I could never understand why people got massages. It just didn't make any sense at all to me. I knew that it must be a pleasant experience, but I thought that it would get boring pretty fast.

A few years ago I had an explosive muscle separation in my lower back and spent 2 years in pretty bad pain because the doctor assigned to me (military) was an idiot. When I was finally given an MRI, it was shown that his diagnosis was ludicrous. So I was sent to a physical therapist that helped a lot to break up the scar tissue that had been building up for 2 years from the lack of exercise I should have been doing since the doctor told me to not do any. However, over the years the stretching exercises I had been doing were no longer enough to keep my back mobile and pain free.

Instead of fighting my way through the near endless maze of appointments to get a referral, I decided that maybe a therapeutic massage would be an appropriate way to treat the problem and it would be a lot easier to just go and do that myself. Thus began an eye opening experience for me.

I did a lot of research on the internet to make sure I was getting into a legitimate massage and ended up going to one of the chain store places. While doing the research, I found a lot of other men complaining about the use of sheet and blanket draping. I dismissed their attitudes as people who were looking for the other type of massage. When I went in for my first massage, the technician was a friendly and very nice young lady and I thought that all would go well. All though it was not an bad experience it did turn out to almost stop me from getting another massage. The young lady seemed to be uncomfortable for some reason. She explained the procedure to me and, as standard, told me that I should undress to my comfort level. Then she immediately added that most of their customers preferred to leave their underwear on. This was in conflict with what the company's website stated which was that about 50% of their customers preferred to completely disrobe. So I took her comment to mean that she preferred that I leave my underwear on and I was fine with that if it made her more comfortable.

When she came back into the room and started the massage, she started talking and didn't quit until it was over. She may just have been talkative, but it seemed to me to be nervous talking. I also found out what the other guys were talking about with the draping. The only exposing the part that was being worked on became irritating. I realize that it is done to increase the client's comfort level, but it had the opposite affect on me. She would only uncover the leg to just above the knee. When she was done with it, it was meticulously covered and tucked (both times). Then she moved to the back. But, only the upper back even though I had told her about the lower back problem I had. After I flipped over, the front of the legs were done again just as before and then the shoulders. The chest was never uncovered or touched.

This all had the effect of making me feel like an untrusted vile object that had to be feared and handled with extreme caution. I would not have been surprised to see here suit up in a HazMat suit before it was over. I never expected to feel like that from what I read of the described draping procedure on their site. I wonder if this is how it affected the other guys that were complaining about it.

About a month later I decided to try again at another massage establishment. I am very glad that I did. I found a wonderful lady (in the most sincere use of the word lady) who is very caring and not afraid to work on someone as needed. Not only did she fix my back so that it is better than it has been in many years, she has given me a sense of peace, relaxation and happiness (not that kind of happy) that I have never had before.

In my state, there is not a state massage law yet so it is regulated by the cities. The city she works in has an ordinance that addresses draping. She prefers to use the minimum draping allowed by law if her client is comfortable with it. She also prefers the client to be completely undressed if comfortable also. I decided that I would try it to her preference the first time and if it was uncomfortable that I would change the next time. This also had an unexpected effect on me. I found that her displayed trust made me completely relax and the peace I received from it has given me something more valuable than the relief from pain that she has also given me. I now understand the full benefits of massage.

I also have noticed something else. We are almost to my question. Have you ever had the experience of shaking hands with someone and instantly knowing whether or not that person was a good or bad person? That has happened to me many times in my life and I think it may be related to what seems to be happening during my massage sessions now. From the first time my therapist started working on me, I have felt an inner peace and happiness coming from her and going into me. You may think that I am insane now, but I think there is a communication from the touch that allows us to feel the character and personality of the person touching or being touched. Her gentleness and kindness has helped me to be a much calmer, more relaxed and overall better person. Have you ever felt this type of connection with people during massage or am I crazy after all?

Sealgair,

You are absolutely not crazy (at least in this regard; I can't speak to the rest of your life!) . There are clients I have hoped and hoped to see again because working with them felt like getting a massage in return. There were others for whom I did only a small amount of work and wished never to see again. And even there were some whom I referred out, because working with them was bad for me. In the end, it all comes down to the energetics: I know they have a sort of bad reputation vis-a-vis that airy-fairy stuff, but any body that can be electrocuted has an electric field, so enough of that trash-talking. I am particularly sensitive to the way that people's energy impacts mine, but I know that for some people that's too ephemeral. I am so happy that you found a therapist with whom you connected well before giving up! These are the kinds of experiences that help to legitimise massage in the eyes of the (sometimes Puritan) law.

RascallyRabbit

Thank You for your understanding reply. I find myself to be extremely fortunate to have found such a wonderful therapist so quickly.

As I read your comments; in many ways you remind me of her in spirit.

Thank You again.

I accidentally ********** while getting a nude massage once. I was on my stomach and the masseuse was working my inner thigh and just hit a spot. I suppressed it so I don't think she realized it. Has that ever happened to you? I'm just wondering if it was obvious to her.

chester59,

yes, of course it happens. I would like to say that your therapist knew, but over the years I have become much more aware that not every therapist is paying attention to their surroundings, their client, or themselves. If you were on my table, I'd have known. I would likely only have indicated to you that anything was amiss if I feared you might be uncomfortable, as no one likes sleeping in the wet spot... But it is likely that she knew and chose to move forward without addressing it, which is probably for the best.

Please give some good massaging method for me and my wife. All weekend we do some massage for each others and make a good shower together. But we d'nt know how make a good romantic massage.

thanks for the question, tanoos. there are some excellent step by step instructions available in book form. One recommendation is "An Introduction to Tantric Massage." I'm not currently sitting in my library, so I can't give you the author, but any reasonably commercialised bookstore should have some!

Thank you sir for your great replay. I will try in google or some other site. I have one more doubt, that she feel back pain after long walk or in periods time. so there is any good massage for this particular time. please advice me..

you might try heat applications: warm baths, a hot water bottle wrapped in a towel, or a sock filled with raw rice grains and heated in the microwave for a minute and a half... never apply heat to an area that is currently inflamed, but if she seeks just some relief particularly from menstrual pain, these can be helpful. you might also check at your natural foods store for tisanes. I find some of them distasteful but they do help.

Hi
After reading questions and answers. My only question since I don't mind she touch male private area, wouldn't she not mind touch private area?

massagelover 10

i'm afraid it doesn't quite work that way.

I am looking for a massage therapist that goes by Gravely for last name. I owe her money which is why I am looking for her. Is there any way you can help. She wasin Brazoria tx and now somewhere in east tx

U R A ******* MORON *****

Pamela, do you not know your gender or do you have a female name but are a teenage boy?
Who are you calling a moron? One of the commenters or my very good friend, Rascally Rabbit? I hope not her!

I'm in the beginning stages of massage therapy for animals. Right now we're just learning some basic techniques. What I wanted to know, for my own benefit was a muscle that didnt feel hard but I felt it 'popping' or 'crunching' under the pressure I was giving it while the muscle was taught. I didnt know what that meant and my instructor wasnt around to clarify at the time. I havent been able to find much on this except that it might have been a tight/knotty muscle? If this is true, should I continue with basic techniques or do something different?

redrose7007,

the popping crunching sounds are totally normal.

the best way i can describe it (to be sure we're talking about the same thing) is that it feels as though there's a sheet of cling film between the layers of the muscle, and as you proceed through petrissage, it doesn't even really seem to go away?

i find muscle stripping is particularly useful for this; i also favour myofascial strokes. go slow, let the tissues melt, and the crackly sounds will go away. (it's tissue wastes that haven't made it back to the lymph yet.)