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I Am A Toy Boy, Ask Me Anything

At least that's what my friends call me because my wife is nine and a half years older than me (I'm not allowed round it up to 10 as that would put it into double figures).

Rugbylover Rugbylover 31-35, M 24 Responses Nov 15, 2009

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My baby's daddy is 7 years younger than me. Just so happened that way, not even intentionally... I liked your story, thanks for sharing it. And trust me, when you've got a good looking lad that much younger than you on your arm, we don't care WHAT anyone is thinking of us anyway ;) x

thats nice atleast your still together and that boy needs both of his parents, i have a cousin with the same situation, they are both 10 years apart except they both look like their the same age so no one ever notices unless you ask them. but keep working on your relationship and love each other and love your kid too because children need affection and love in their life, and teach him well so that he can be a great kid in the future.

Could she possibly be a cougar? ;-)))

so both of your parents are ok with your mairrage? have they always been so accepting? i ask because i met an awesome guy who just so happened to be 16 years younger and we really hit it off and had an amazing connection. however he was 19 and still lived with his mom. he said he couldn't take me home because his mom would kill! him.probably cause we are almost the same age. good for both of you for following your hearts and getting what you wanted.

Awe cute. People really do put too much on age; I mean there is a base reason for it but it simply gets blown out of proportion. I applaud her for asking you to wait until you were 21, because sometimes in the younger years it's hard to tell what is what, but I am glad you are together.

good for you to not mind about the age differences and still be together after all those years. :-)

You're the envy of every guy who had fantasies about his hot high school teacher.

I don't think I consciously set out to fall for an older woman, nor she for a younger man. It's just how it turned out because of our similar sense of humour and other things we had in common.

I'm a member of a website called which is specifically for younger men to meet older women and vice versa. That type of thing seems quite popular these days and it total opposite of the normal 'older man / younger women' thing. I'd certainly consider becoming a toyboy lol

I'm dating a man who was my teacher too! :)

That is so cool, because I too am nine-and-a-half years younger than my wife (almost to the day). It has never been an issue with us. What makes it especially interesting to me is that because she has siblings who are much older, I now have sisters-in-law who are old enough to be my mother, and I have nieces and nephews who are older than me!

As a mate of Rugbylover I'm now able reveal that he was inadvertantly inaccurate when he said he had one kid. A second is now on the way:-)

In the first couple of years when we were finding our way she could seem a bit bossy and I had a couple of tantrums, which she just found funny, but I don't really think we've had a serious argument. I think that could be because we know how to talk to each other. We don't make rules for each other so nobody can complain the rules have been broken, though we both avoid deliberately doing something that might annoy the other too much. We've kept our own circles of friends, though neither of us is barred from the other's circle. I suppose we have slightly disappointed each other a couple of times but we tend to keep quiet about it because we know that the disappointment will seem silly soon enough. Anyway, she likes me to be a bit naughty sometimes... :-)

Too sweet t be true, RL. I bet you've had some wonderful arguments you're not telling us about.

That is a sweet story.

I'm saving all that for when I write about my horrendous friend Iggy:)

This just won't do. When you come on EP you're supposed to slag off your partner and concoct a sob story that will get you *hugs* and replies of 'you deserve better'. Your description of a well-adjusted and humorous marriage breaks all the rules. Tch, tch, Rugbylover, tch,tch.

Thanks. At first other people did treat us a little differently because of the age gap. A few months after we were married some mates of mine called and when she answered the door they asked her if it was okay for me to go to the pub with them. It made her think she was my mother and it made me feel about ten. We laughed about it but I think she makes an extra effort not to be like that.

It sounds as though you are both intelligent people with a good sense of humour. That makes all the difference.

She once told me that when I was sixteen, long before we started dating, she was impressed by my smile and thought that if ever she had a son she'd like him to look just like me. So you could say she saw me as good breeding stock:)<br />
I think it's a fairly equal relationship. We both work though she does still earn a bit more than I do. She's from a posher background than me but her parents and mine get on really well and her mother tells her off if they think she's being too bossy to me. When we're out people might think she treats me like the elder of her two sons rather than as a husband, but that's a sort of running joke between us. She's actually quite liberal and even allows me to go out drinking with my mates without moaning about it.

So you're still happily tegether nearly twelve years after you first had that crush on her? That's impressive. What do you think attracted her to you? And do you feel it is a broadly equal relationship?

When I was 16 she was a teacher at my school. I had a crush on her and masked it by being totally irritating. I met her gain about a year after I left school when I was about 19 and we began seeing each other then. About a year later I asked her to marry me and she cooled things off, telling me to go out and enjoy life with my friends for at least another year, and not to ask again until I was at least 21. I left it a few months after I turned 21 as I wanted to start working before I asked again. We finally married just before I was 22. We've been married for six years and have a little boy of 5.

Do you want kids someday?

How did you meet and how old were you when you married? How long have you been married?