I Am A Single Woman Living A Swingers Lifestyle

I don't remember what  I was looking for online but I found a swingers web site. That was over 2 and a half years ago. I have been living the lifestyle ever since. I have gone through personal changes and manage my swinging lifestyle differently in this brief time.

I started meeting people on line and now I attend a club, run and event and that is where I meet my play partners.

I have had some great experiences and I have definitely had 'learning' experiences.

I am even learning some about the Kinky lifestyle as well.

Ask me anything!!!  About the lifestyle!!!

GabrieleAngel GabrieleAngel
41-45, F
7 Responses Feb 20, 2010

Most times when women disagree with the lifestyle it is because they aren't really informed about the lifestyle. Sometimes they have fears, doubts (especially if they are in a relationship and the guy wants to go) etc.<br />
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Often times, though not intentionally, men create a feeling in women that we are ob<x>jects and there to satisfy them. Some women have never felt part of the sexual relationship. They haven't been given 'permission' to be sexual, express themselves, etc. <br />
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Most religious upbringing has come down very hard on the women to 'not' do things. Even men encourage the belief blaming women for being distracting, enticing, etc. etc. and when women 'do' that, bad things happen. <br />
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Thoigh the women/feminist movement may have given women more power and more say there are still many women (and men) that haven't really grasped the full possibility.<br />
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What do I say... the first few months were really cool because I found out I could say NO. True, wometimes guys can still be a little persistant (I hear women can be too...). However for the most part, if you don't like what is happening, that is it, it is over. Especially if it is more public. The guy especially wouldn't be welcome back.<br />
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As for the BiSexual question... I hang out at ClubM4 in Toronto. It is open 6 nights a week. I run the Tuesday events but I attend several of the other evenings. My favorite nights are the Bi friendly nights. Yes, I have seen men with men. Personally, it was really hot! I like seeing people that are in to each other experiencing passion and joy like that!<br />
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So, off to the club! Bi Friendly night tonight!!!! Maybe something really interesting will happen to share!!!!

What would you say to women who reluctant or disagree with the lifestyle?<br />
Also, have you seen any amount of bisexual men in the groups?

Just realized I may have missed answering something...<br />
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Swinging is not just about couples playing with couples these days though it may have started out that way.<br />
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I am a single woman in the swinging lifestyle and there are plenty of single men in it as well.<br />
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Though not every one views it this way, I see swinging as a valid means of exploring and expanding my awareness and knowledge of my own sexuality.

The benefit of going to a swingers club is you will find people that are sexually open as a rule and they are at different levels of comfort, experience, and knowledge.<br />
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The other option is to sign up on the swing sites online. Many people create profiles there, chat with people, share pics perhaps, meet for a coffee or drink. You get to feel each other out.<br />
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I started online meeting people but I definitely prefer the Club now. Whether I connect with anyone or not I can still have fun. The club I go to has a dance floor with a great DJ, is constantly getting new people and is keeping a regular crowd as well.<br />
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I also like the convenience of the club. The play space is right there if you want to act on your desires. You don't have to but you can. You have options. This club also has three rooms that can be absolutely private if that is what you are looking for.<br />
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I third option is to go to house parties. Generally, you need to be on the invite lists. Know someone that refers you to the hosts. I did attend a few via people I had met online.<br />
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Hope that helps!

Never swung before. My wife wants to have a girl on girl experience....possibly a ********* with me and another F.<br />
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Would this kind of thing be a breach of swinging etiquette? On the surface it seems like a swinging club/group would be a more appealing type of proposition than going to a bar and trying to find someone to play with. <br />
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Your thoughts?

Plenty of condoms! Regular play, we get tested. You can't get tested once and expect that things will always be fine.<br />
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If the person has no concern about being clean, about using a condom, about talking about any of those things, we don't make it much farther.<br />
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I like to talk with people first. Sometimes it gets forgotten until we are actually up close and personal but I have walked away from that as well. That kind of excitement I don't want in my life!<br />
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As for pregnancy....not going down that road again. Two already, no more thanks. So, yes, protection.

You obviously must make sure you protect yourself from STDs and pregnancy. Do you make the people you play with get tested for diseases? If they don't want to and insist they are clean, does that break the deal if they won't get tested?