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I'm A Married Woman Whose Husband Wants To See Me Have Sex With A Black Man

I unfortunately allowed a black friend of ours to seduce me at a convention last summer. He and his wife are very good friends of ours. He is 61 ane I am 32. He admitted to his wife that we had sex one night and she told my husband. My husband asked if I enjoyed it and without thinking I said yes. Long story short, now he wants to see why I enjoyed it so much. He wants to pick out black guy and have him do me in front of him at a motel like James did me that night. I don't want to. If anyone here has had similar experience I would like feedback. positive or negative. Please don't be bashful!

beth1977 beth1977 31-35, F 65 Responses Mar 6, 2010

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Would adore you were my wife darling!

I have always had this Fantasy but never told anyone! I finally told my wife one night and she didn't make me feel like I was weird but definitely blew the idea off. Months later several friends went out and afterwards they all came over to swim. Well all of us ended up naked and my best friend, who is black started eating my wife out as she was sitting at the edge of the pool. I was shocked and super turned on. After everyone left my wife and I had crazy sex for hours!! Seeing how turned on this made me she agreed to try having sex with my friend. We have done it twice now and it has made our sex life unbelievable!! Now we have no trust issues and are honest about our feelings so if that is a problem I don't recommend this. If you have that trust go for it!! Its my top sexual experience in my life!! Even more than having two woman at the same time!!

would so love you were my bolowed wife! To kiss and to **** sloppy seconds your ******, *** filled holes by your black lovers would give we both the most exquisite emotions!

Did you do it?

I don't get it. How can white society be so hostile towards Black men, yet, at the same time they want to give their precious little White women to Black men to have their way with them?

The people who are hostile towards black or other races than their own don't want that. It's the people without racial hangups that do. I would love to see my wife having sex with a black man. I think because of the contrast of the skin tones, the "taboo" of the situation (or at least what was more taboo in the past) and the whole mystic of black men being very well endowed. It make it more exciting. And I would love to see her being penetrated by a very large black **** and just going crazy with enjoyment. Another reason it would work for me, is that I know my wife finds black men attractive, so it would really turn her on (and therefore me too). Also most whites and black have some cultural differences and less in common so maybe it seems safer that it would just remain sex for enjoyment and not grow into something else. My wife has sex with other men, but they have all been white so far. We are in a pretty white area and are pretty busy and don't get out a lot, so that's been the opportunities she has had. But she is now very excited about a black man moving in three houses down from us. And he is single. She's hoping he doesn't have a serious girlfriend and will be willing to have a NSA sex relationship with her. We saw him. He is big, handsome, and built. She's guessing he might be big and built down below too. LOL. And she's been really screwing my brains out since she saw he was moving in. I'm average sized but cannot make my wife ****** with intercourse. I have to do it orally. When she is being ****** by a big ****, she does ***. Sometimes more than once. I few times I have been there to see that and it was incredible. She's cute a **** and the faces she made when she came with a stange man drove me wild. Her dream, she told me, would be for the new black neighbor to have a huge **** and a vasectomy so he could have sex with her unprotected (she hates condoms) and *** inside of her on a regular basis. I've seen the way she looks at me and face she makes when another man **** in her. I'd like to see that on a regular basis too.

I love the idea of a guy ******* my lovely wife while I watch ,but no she has stopped sex with me not remotely interested ,but just lately she through Facebook got in touch with a female friend from years ago ,and they went out together ,now she is chatting to an old male friend ,and asked me if she can go see him one night for a cup of tea with him at his flat ,seems odd as she would not go anywhere before without me ,and she shields the ipad from me . Any thoughts on this please ,on this site or to . Don't get me wrong I find it strangely sexy ,and I get a massive erection when she talks about visiting .

I see You said "I don't want to." Is it because of fear that Your Husband will see the real You? You should be very careful. As He (Your Husband) may not be able to handle it emotionally. I remember the first time My Husband saw Me get down & dirty with a Very Well Hung Black Man. It was weeks before My man could even talk to me about.

I like the fact that you can talk about your sex life an be open about it maybe I can get a chance to **** u if im that lucky guy

If u want to have some fun get at me bmaxwell385@gmail

I think that that is very sexy and will strengthen your marriage. Denying your husband will only lead to problems and will alienate him from you. Obviously you enjoyed the experience with the older black man.
Tell him what you liked about your black friend. Having a black man meet with you and your husband at a motel will be great fun and fulfill you both!

I have read all of your questions and answers and note the last entry was several months ago. First, did you do it? And, if yes did you enjoy it? Please give us the details.
Second, did he want you to do black or big? Third, did he or does he want to select your stud? What size did he get you or does he plan for you to take? Forth, could you handle his size without problem or how much do you think you could do? If you **** another stud would you select him or how hansom he is or large he is. If you are not comfortable answering these questions in public please answer at

If you were my wife I would want you to **** black men

Is is so lucky

Actually, I'd just like to **** you.

I'd want to watch you sucking your dad's ****.

I have always had a fantasy about my wife with another man. Oddly enough, when we stood at the alter to get married, I inwardly smiled and thought to myself, now I have someone who I can take with me to swing parties.
Since then, over thirty years now, I have asked my wife only three times if I could watch her have sex with other men. Each time she said "no.' I haven't pushed the issue but nshe knows that it is something that I want. I believe that if I pushed the issue, she would go along with it, but I want it to be something that she wants, not something that I make her do.

Right now as we speak, she has been away from home all morning getting her hair done. It is now 3:00 in the afternoon. I know it doesn't take her all this time to get her hair done, and I am thinking, she is probably out gettine laid. The thought does not make me jealous. It actually makes me horny.

She walks around the house exposing herself to me a lot and she only have sex with me once or twice a month. I look forward to those once or twice occasions. I stay horny for my wife because on those couple of occasions, she really makes it good for me.

I guess what I am trying to say is, whoever she makes love with is her business and whatever and whenever she wants to do with me or whoever is her business. I appreciate her for who she is and for what she does to and with me when she does it. Your husband should learn to respect your wishes. It might make him a happier man.

Beth sweetie since you have had a black man **** you already and both your husband and his wife know you had his black **** in your white ***** and you admitted to hubby you liked it maybe you should talk to the black friend and maybe his wife and the four of you could get together and have hubby watch as James ***** you again maybe his wife might want to try and see what it is like to **** a white guy and you could share each others spouses.

Beth, do you feel more fulfilled now as a woman and lover? or would you change your history if you could?

I am tired of you white people using us black men for stud service.

It\'s not like you wouldn\'t get a little something out of it!

LOL you must like it if that's what you are doing I'm sure nobody is forcing you to be a stud to white people.

He seduced me.

lmao! yeah me too! :)

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My husband and I have very good sex, but he knows what gets me to *** so hot and fast--he whispers to me that black men are looking at me, touching me, doing me. Well that just does so hot and hard. We have made love like this for 10 years now. So what's the problem? He wants to make this a "real part of our love life." I am not sure about that. I enjoy what we call "the other world" but I am not sure about making it reality. I want to please him of course, but ...

So what is the rest of the story. Were you able to continue seeking black men so that your husband could watch or did you see them solo? or did you pursue a different path?

Do it! U will enjoy it!!

hi beth I am mixed race male that *********** regularly watching interracial ****
Well if your husband wants to watch you, and its a turn on for you both why not. What I don't like is if they start meeting secretly. Your husband should ********** while he is watching you, but caution about stds. Perhaps you can post a video online to view so we can enjoy our ************ periods

I have been cheated on by practicly every woman I have ever loved. And I suspect my wife is cheating on me. I haven't been totally faithful myself. What the hell? We are all looking for happiness. I don't think anybody should do anything that is going to make them uncomfortable, but if your husband wants to watch you have sex with other men, sit down and ask him if he would mind if you choose who you can have sex with. If he says that it is OK, than take your time and tell him that you haven't found the right person YET. Keep him waiting until you find the right person or not.

I had a girlfriend that I let **** one of my black friends . She said it was okay but the same. We had just moved in together. Another buddy said he saw my friend leaving my apartment while I was at work.
I ask my girlfriend if she had anyone over. She said no so I dropped it. About a week later I came home early and she was ******* him and wanted me out. We finally talked and she said she could never go back. So I don't know if I could go though that again.
But I think about it.

Honey, Get that black ****. He wants to breed a white woman. Let him breed you Dont tell hubby.

The problem is I let the black man **** me already

Has he bred you yet?

Since you let the black friend seduce you and have sex with you and also told hubby you liked it why don't you want to do it again and let hubby watch. ?
Any particular reason why not.?

I don't feel comfortable with him watching another man **** me, black or any color.

Understandable, not everybody is comfortable being watched while being ****** by someone else. . . Are you getting more at ease being ****** by other than hubby and telling hubby about it after.?

I haven't been with another black man.

You mentioned not having been with another black man does that mean you have been with one or more white man since.

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You answered yourself "I don't want to" says you or your husband should not. The fact that he has not communicated enough to you to be willing to just feel out the possibility or meeting is a reflection of your relationship and needs more time. It could truly be awesome for both BUT it will FAIL to be if you both are not ready. I can tell you this planning the first "outing" rarely goes correct. You can't force this I promise. The best way is for it to be spontaneous and when it's right it will be right. You can every now and then plan a party or whatever with prospects. But don't have a mind set of doing it. But that's not even close to a step you can take until you both communicate and bring understanding that brings you both security. Know boundaries and expectations first when you find yourself ready.

He is a lot calmer now, but asks for specifics of the experience from time to time to time and I tell him almost all.

That sounds like you are doing alright hubby is getting to hear your experiences which is not what he wanted but should fill some of his desire to know you are sexually pleased by someone else.

Things are more calmer now.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a consenting married couple inviting black guys into the marital bedroom to pleasure the wife. Providing that everyone is in full agreement and understand the situation, where is the harm ? As a woman, you need to be excited by it for yourself and not just trying to please your husband, so take your time and really think it over.

Trev and I are both white, have been married now for 21 years, we still love each other deeply and are still very together as a couple. He is my complete soul mate and just the most loving, considerate, understanding person that I have ever met.

We have also been proud members of the so-called hotwife lifestyle for the last 4 years and for us, my having sex with select black guys has been a roaring success. As a direct result, we are both happier now, we love each other more, we have shared some truly amazing experiences and just live a more open & complete life together. We actually believe that “hotwifing” has been the secret to our own marital success and has kept our maturing marriage so strong. The success or failure depends on the strength of your marital relationship and the various motivations behind the whole thing.

Firstly, you must love each other deeply and only be looking to enhance your sex-life as an improvement to your marriage not as a replacement for something missing. A white wife having sex with black guys will not fix a failing marriage but when handled correctly it can transform an already good marriage into something really special.

Secondly, you must not be in a rush, invest the time to discuss everything in great detail beforehand and resolve any issues, jealousy or feelings of insecurity. Then lay down some detailed ground rules regarding what is Ok and what is not, try to share in all of the action and keep evaluating your progress as you go. Like many things with relationships, the real secret to this potentially exciting lifestyle is full and open communication between husband and wife which unfortunately is often lacking.

If you talk it over with your husband you may decide to give it a try.

I am not interested in this life style although I know he has cheated most of our marriage.

Beth, You say you are not interested in this lifestyle but are doing it to keep hubby happy by him knowing you are doing it for him I asume then, but you mentioned you had enjoyed it the first time James took you to bed, and are you still enjoying it when goung to bed with a Lover black or white.?


Are you sure hubby has cheated on you in the past, how can you be sure.?

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One thing I left out in last post. His asking may very well be sincere. It also is a coping mechanism for a lot of people. Ask him this Were you surprised when you found out about my fling that you were also excited and felt a love for me that I am looking for in my questioning of your request? Are you wanting to genuinely improve, strengthen, and excite are lives? Or are you still in the "stuck" phase of coping and trying to do something to erase a feeling of hurt with a positive experience? Yes to first question and yes and no to 2nd question is what you need to hear. Why yes to 2nd he wants to work it out with you. No to 2nd question because unless he can truly exhibit actions that prove this is not a "last resort" type of maneuver and prove he is willing to try out maybe less aggressive bonds with you. Like be willing to be understanding and patient and taking steps to assure you that it's not questionable for you. Communication and talking with you. I am sure they are things besides sex he needs to improve on. I have not posted my experiences yet but I will shortly and I have been on the side and did successfully accomplish fulfilling fantasy but it was because of true true honesty, respect, and trust of each other. It was successful but it was not while I was "life" scared and with my girlfriend of 7 years.

I joined EP to further educate myself on many things and meet people whom normally would be to shy to honestly talk in person. This is one area I have been looking at. I am trying to introduce a bond and trust between my wife and I. I have seen so many questions or miss diagnosis of their husbands intent for the most part. there are always ones in the group. Listen closely my desire to role play co- worker,stranger,etc is NOT for me to role play different women or be with one.(never) It is purely about being with my wife and allowing her to be open with what she has been taught is taboo. I know she has had "bath time" with this fantasy and has these thoughts and I am so okay with this. Would love to try this out with her. Your husbands are wanting myself included to be with the beautiful sexy women you are. In fact sharing and doing fantasy is even stronger bond for us. But I do agree with women that they link sex and emotion together unlike men do in certain areas. Trust me on this that for most men this is no different than womens "taken" fantasy.(don't think the other word fits) . Now could are relationship go beyond fantasy and make it? Think about it he wants to watch you, make you happy, build trust,etc. Most men love, adore, and feel confident in their love for you. Maybe it's the wife that needs to be reassured about her own. Women pay attention when you first met you were open,free, and outgoing in the beginning. Then as time goes on you both become comfortable in that area and life just does that. But I and others are honestly trying to be better. It is hard for women to understand this fantasy because of are wiring. If any would like me to answer more in depth I will.

The man who I had sex with was a friend. No love involved. I was frankly in the position to be ******. I let myself in that position. I do not want to have my husband watch a black or anyt other colored man do me. It is not exciting for me but obviously it is for my husband. So eventually I will probably do it.

Beth, the friend you went to bed with and let him **** you was as you mentioned something you let happen you placed yourself in the position to be seduced and ****** by him you must have had some kind of desire or curiosity about being taken by a black man to allow that to happen and you enjoyed it, have you enjoyed any followup sexual encounters with him or others

Not with a black man

But you have enjoyed sex with white men since James seduced you .?

It sounds like this is something that is very important to your husband. Something that he greatly desires. Perhaps he is thinking of you...knowing that it would be something that would be so sexually satisfying to you, would take you to levels you have never been before were you to be submissive to his request and submt yourself to the black man. Your husband would reach new sexual heights as he watched your immense pleasure, you would be so pleasured, and the one taking you to these new heights would be fulfilled. Seems a winner to everyone. You say you will probaby do it. You are only delaying new sexual gratifications so far unknown to you.

I see what you are saying. I know my husband wants to watch me and it is a turn on so I should let him set me up and he can watch.

Your no!

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Well to answer the question I think your being a bit selfcentered. You had your time with your friend and now you would deny your husband the pleasures of watching you be taken by a black man? Without thinking you told your husband you enjoyed the affair now that your husband would like to become involved deeper into your life your don't let him in? Your marriage is not going to last if your wont do things for him as you would do for yourself. Think about it woman, do you love your husband enough to indulge in sex with a black man in front of him? You didn't say if you have any children? Would you love your husband enough to have a mixed race child for him? Do you love your man enough to keep a balck lover for all of you to enjoy?

If you don't then you should not have had your fling.

I probably will do it.

Just take it calm and slow and don't give in to to much pressure by hubby or a lover till you are ready for the next step, such as feeling more comfortable being ****** by someone other than hubby, maybe eventually you might feel more at ease about hubby seeing you get filled with **** by a lover.


Beth I say if he is going to be persistent and if you decide to go thru with it make it completely yours. What every guy you want. If there is someone else or some kind that you always wondered go with that. Make out the "terms" of this adventure to your liking. If you truly enjoy the experience with the other guy then it will let you know where you stand with hubby. He will either change his mind after on lifestyle or you will know it I is about your pleasure if he encourages it. Don't just find a guy find thee guy that you wouldn't mind.

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