I Got Fired - Ask Me Anything

I work as a temporary secretary, an ‘at will’ employee, so without employment law protection I accept that I will get fired more than most but it seems to happen to me all the time.  Granted I sometime bring about getting fired by my own actions (I got fired from my first job for getting drunk at lunchtime and I got fired from my last job for persistent lateness) but too often it is because of management wanting to show-off its power “we need to make savings, so fire the temp”, regardless whether that will actually save any money in the long term. 

Furthermore, even though the writing is on the wall and it is obvious I am going to get fired at the end of the week for whatever reason, it is always so humiliating; such a let-down.  The person who fires you puts on an air of empathy (‘I’m really sorry that we are going to have to let you go, but the department is going through a few changes’ etc etc) but also implying that out of the whole department that I am the least needed, the least missed.    Co-workers also add to the humiliation.  As soon as they know that I am leaving at the end of the week, they exclude me from conversations and jokes.

As an antidote to getting fired and as a way of preserving my dignity, once I realise that I am risk of getting fired I seem to work less (rather than harder), turn up a few minutes late each morning, dress down (often turning up in jeans).  This seems to appeal to my rebellious streak at the time but does not help get references afterwards.

MysticMeerkat MysticMeerkat
41-45, M
2 Responses Mar 9, 2010

I too have been struggling all my life so I can totally relate... it just happened to me. Dumped again. And they seemed so damn nice this time... Quite honestly, I think some employers get off on the power they feel by dumping people, perhaps because they are not so well-endowed physically in certain parts of their anatomy, and therefore feel inadequate, and need to take it out on other people who don't have the power to fight back. Take Donald Trump for example!<br />
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I advise you to try to break into some type of self-employment, starting a mail-order business for example, or being a merchant on Amazon... start with a small inventory and work your way up. If you're skilled with some type of craft, or can paint, etc., you might even want to market your own creations! Stop being a slave to small minded people who don't get the big picture of what you're all about, and are only using you. Say NO to slavery! Break free from all that nonsense, save what's left of your self-respect and take control of your own destiny! It might be a little scary at first (in the days of Columbus, they were afraid about falling off the edge of the earth if they travelled too far from the beaten path), but when you do, you will discover new frontiers that you never knew existed. So try it, and don't even look back!<br />
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PS. What I'm suggesting to you is my own dream too, and I myself am determined to implement it in order to improve my own situation.

Come here, I will give you a hug, yes?