I Am A Teen Mom. Ask Me Anything.

You can ask me whatever questions you have i don't mind.  My son is 16 months old now.

jessjess0625 jessjess0625
22-25, F
23 Responses Mar 11, 2010

Where are you pierced?

Just my ears!

I like doing things that any normal person does like going to see a movie (every once in awhile), swimming, and that's all I can really think of lol. Most of the things I like to do now I can still do with my son like take walks, hang out with friends, swim, text/talk on the phone, etc..I usually take my relaxing time when he takes a nap normally around 12 or 12:30 and he sleeps for a good 2 hours or so and then when he goes to bed for the night around 9:30 but I normally am really tired by that time lol. Thanks for the questions and comments all =]

so what do you do for fun? do you still see friends? do you ever get to just relax and get away from everthing even for only an hour?

Mmmm Im really tired of people telling me that..

TashaM - I am sorry that you endured the horror of rape as a teenager (though no time is a good time to be raped), and I have no doubt the trauma you consequentially went through has shaped your perspective of many things.<br />
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I would like to point out though, that every person being as unique as they are will all react to even the most similar situations differently. By this I mean for example, five people all unknown to each other, each getting a black eye - each will react and respond differently based on hundreds and possibly thousands of variables in each person's life.<br />
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For that reason alone, yes it is reasonable to assume that one may be able to give advice to another who has been in the same situation (per se or not), but that it is quite incredulous to expect the advice given to be followed as though it were gospel - this is where assumptions become presumptuous and offensive.<br />
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Again, I am sorry you were raped, but I will ask that no-one belittle's another's experiences (good or bad) based on their own or those of another, because even though there are people who are "worse off" than others in this world, there are certainly just as many in better predicaments as we too: And for that reason, my stand on such things is "Just because there are people worse off than you, does not make your situation right or justified".<br />
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Peace xx.

I never stated that she was a bad mom! And I kind of am in the position to preach. Ive been in a worse position than her.. I was raped when I was 16 years old and had the child and gave it up for adoption. I never said that you should regret having your child... When I had my baby boy it was hard for me to let him go.. I just hate to see younge teen girls that chosing to have sex then having a child because they didnt chose to stay a virgin tell marrige. If I had that one change to be a virgin again i would give anything for it. Im sorry if you took the things I badly but the truth is im truely trying to help you

Orckiss-Thank you..Honestly, it depends on who you are. I did not get another boyfriend to fill in the placement of his dad. It's a long distance relationship and I still am doing everything I can for my son. I'm even still in school and I'm getting about a B average. I think that people who just automatically say you're a bad mother because of your age is wrong, rude, and stereotypical. Yes, some teen mothers are bad moms but aren't some of the older women too? Same vice versa. I can honestly say my son has made me a better person and I never regret having him. Yes, I get stressed but who doesn't? That's all I have to say for now.

TashaM, can I just interject here, how can you preach what is right? Neither you nor I were in PG's situation, we cannot judge (and even if we could, we should not).<br />
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I don't believe PG is here to be patronized for having a baby at the age of 16. Being a teenage mother does not guarantee her to be a bad mother, why do people jump to such a conclusion so quickly?<br />
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As for recommending she remains single and finishes her education, I would consider that to be rude, offensive and ill-advised coming from somebody who does not know the situation intimately. What would be "right" for you, may not necessarily be the "right" thing for somebody else to do.

Okay I could understand that you didnt want to be with him. But another boyfriend? Just because you didnt want to be with him doesnt mean you have to put someone in his place, if i were in your position i would want to stay single for long period of time so i would have time to concentrate on me and my child and finishing school i mean that would be the right thing to do.

Okay I could understand that you didnt want to be with him. But another boyfriend? Just because you didnt want to be with him doesnt mean you have to put someone in his place, if i were in your position i would want to stay single for long period of time so i would have time to concentrate on me and my child and finishing school i mean that would be the right thing to do.

OrcKiss-Oh ya I get plenty of support from friends, school, family.<br />
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TashaM-I was having sex at the age of 15 because I was dumb I thought he loved me and I thought I loved him back and I didn't expect to get pregnant and I knew it was a possibility but I did it anyways. Yes, I have another boyfriend..some things happened and I didn't want to be with my baby's dad anymore.

Why were you having sex at the age of 15? Have you ever thought of waiting untill marraige.. I dont see why females put them selfs in that position. If you love somone and they truely love you back, you nore him should have a problem with waiting untill you can financially support a child.. Im not saying that you planed to have this child but if your having sex protected or unprotected theres always still that huge possibility that your going to get pregnant and you should expect it. And now you have another boyfriend? Are you also sexually involved with him?

Have you got support? Both emotionally and physically... ie. Friends, playgroups, relatives, co-workers, counsellors, etc..

I was 15 when I got pregnant..16 when I had him I am now 17..and flans you shouldn't just comment on someones story without knowing what your talking about..we did use contraceptives thank you.

i was 16 when i got pregnet. how old were you?

i was 16 when i got pregnet. how old were you?

MosiacManX2 go ahead and add me I'm sorry I didn't check my EP last night.

Yes i did and I did it for 2 weeks and i would of kept doing it but he refused to latch on.

They were EXTREMELY pissed off but like a week later they were very supportive.

How did your parents and family react when you told them you were pregnant?

feinarri-YES i am, he makes me the most happiest person in the world.<br />
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Snookybear-Nope but I found a new boyfriend who helps me with him.

Does the ***** donor help you in any way?

are you glad you had the baby?