Still In Denail

We do tend to blame ourselves when others are abusive to us. I've been through this with my grown son for years. Finally, the abuse was so outrageous and cruel, not even I could stay in denial any longer.



My family of origin was abusive also. It can take years to heal. It just isn't fair that it takes so long, but it does take time to heal. Do not let the abuse continue to occur. Get away from it, as difficult as that might be! You owe it to yourself.



Make an effort to find something good each day, something beautiful and meaningful.



There is something good, beautiful, and meaningful to find each day. Be sure you recognize it. Give yourself that as a present.



Take care! My heart goes out to you!

Thank you all! You give me hope ther is something more for me!

Love!

Thank you all! You give me hope ther is something more for me!

Love!

I know just how it feels to be a product of emotional neglect; that feeling that your likes dislikes and opinions are useless or not worth hearing or even your feelings are not worth even being validated! Can you imagine what it feels like to be told from the time your where 7 or 8 years "oh somebody looks crooked at your and your fall appart" and and refusing to listen to your concerns or fears? It makes you feel less than a person almost like a robot that can just be pushed around. But sooner or later, you will find some way out! I found my way out through relationships with many boyfriends even though my family, especally my "sister" who is filled with hate and is a racist , disapproved. While i was still living at home I found ways of coping such as yoga, art, a hobby , having many pets, working overtime at every opportunity at my job!! The most wonderful time in my life was when I found out I was pregnant with my first son and moved out with my boyfriend, whom I later married. I felt I could finally feel some peace with myself!!

I understand what you are going through. Believe me you can get through it. Not many people understand the scars that mental abuse can leave. I was once married to a man who mentally, emotionally and physically abused me.. I left him and the physical abuse stopped but the mental and emotional was much larger than I could have ever imagined.

I left him over 7 years ago and I am slowly healing but the scars he left me are forever with me. Sad thing is he does it to his children. I nver wanted to admit he could do such a thing to his children, but one is now a teenager and is now feeling the effects of what we have had to deal with.

First thing is you have to look in the mirror and tell yourself over and over, YOU DO NOT BELIEVE what they have said to you. 7 years later I am slowly realizing it wasnt me. It takes time to heal but time will heal you.

I wont waste alot of your time preaching what you may have already heard. just remember time does heal all wounds

When I am inside I am also afraid of everything.

But once I am outside It is better.

It's just the step to go outside I can't seem to make enough.

I get the same way sometimes, only I'm not in a ward - I am inside my house all the time. So I get afraid of that first step outside. When I'm inside I'm afraid of everything, but outside I am fine... So, maybe it's the opposite for me. My boyfriend keeps telling me He knows I can be strong - and when I was in an outpatient program I felt confident that I had changed... You aren't complaining, you're hurt. You have every right to talk about how you've been hurt and mental/emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse... I don't think "there's a way out". I think...I've learned that you have to learn and push through it and live through it...