My Grown Son (33) Is Abusive To MeMy grown son (33) is verbally very abusive to me. He has always been difficult, especially since I divorced his father (years ago). He was mean to me and his step-mother. I don't understand why. We all catered to him, spoiled him, I guess, but most sons don't react that the way he did. He has always been narcissistic. Felt entitled! He did not empathize or feel compassion for me or others. It was always about him. He would phone and talk for hours about his problems, and I listened. I was always very supportive. I told him I loved him. I would have done anything for him. But he didn't bother even sending me a birthday card. He didn't visit unless we were vacationing somewhere he wanted to be like at the beach. If I had a problem, I could keep it to myself. He had better things to do than listen. Hearing my problems was "boring," though I almost never talked about myself or my problems with him. Not unless it was something important.
The older he has gotten the worse he has gotten. I didn't think that was possible. I kept thinking one day he would mature and behave like a man. Unfortunately, my ex. did not teach him how to behave like a man. He never disciplind him. He let my son be abusive to his new wife and disrupt his entire household. He was afraid of losing his only son and always agreed with him. I am not his stepmother's champion. She had an affair with my husband while I was sick in the hospital. Still, I did not want my son to be abusive to people. I cared about his character. I do not like him, nor do I think he has a good character. It took me years to admit that! The last thing a mother wants to admit!
Lately, I am scared of him. Actually frightened of him. He has been outrageously verbally abusive to me. Hateful, as if he wants to hurt me. Hurt me bad. I suppose he is insecure and deep down feels rejected, but look how he treats people. No wonder he is rejected. That's NOT the way he looks at things. He never does any wrong!
Am I the only one with this terrible experience? I don't know what's wrong with my son. No one abused him, more like the opposite, gave into him. Apologized to him when he should have been the one apologizing. He has hurt a lot of people. He has hurt me to the point that I want nothing to do with him. It took a lot!!! I loved him more than life itself and would have done anything for him. Now, I am afraid of him.
I hope someone responds to my story.
seekinghope 51-55, F 13 Responses 1 Feb 17, 2011