My Husband Emotionally Abuses Me
I feel lost. Tonight, I was crying in bed. My husband asked me what was wrong. I told him something I've tried to talk to him about several times before, which was my mistake. I am having a hard time with my work/family balance, and wanted to talk to him about solutions since it just isn't working out. I also wanted to address our finances; not really money problems, but that he is very controlling with money and grills me about every dime I spend (I am quite thrifty; not a big spender by any means). He became very angry at me, accused me of saying that he doesn't do enough around the house (which I've never said - he does a lot and I appreciate it). After screaming at me and putting me down for a while, he threatened to have me thrown out of the house, to divorce me, and to take the children away from me. I didn't do anything to him - I didn't get angry at him, I didn't call him names, I didn't do anything except ask him for help. I left the room to get away from him, and after a few minutes he found me, trapped me in the laundry room, and started yelling at me. I told him that he needed to let me out, which he did, but then he put me down about that. He then said he needed all of the children's schedules, but wouldn't tell me why. He told me that he would call his parents and my parents to tell them that he can't take me pressuring him any more and that he doesn't think I love him. He told me to take his car and my cell phone and leave the house to move to Michigan, where we used to live, tonight. Then, he said he needed my schedule so that he can figure out if he'd be able to take the kids to see me sometime, and that I would need to move in with a friend there. I am their primary caregiver. They depend on me and they are my whole life. I am a good mother. He yelled and screamed at me, and cut me off mid sentence, and if I tried to defend myself or slightly raise my voice (I swear on a stack of bibles that I never once yelled), he suddenly calms down and says, "See...you're the one who's yelling."