Making Myself Happy

Once upon a time, I looked to others to make me happy (especially in relationships), but one day I came to the realization that I'm the only person who has control over my happiness.  I'm a much happier person because I've become more proactive in making myself happy.  These are some of the things I do:

1.  I stay away from people or places that make me uncomfortable or don't make me smile.

2.  I treat myself by going places and buying things that I enjoy (but don't overdo it).

3.  I stay productive in all areas in life, because when I allow things to go undone, I become disappointed in myself.

4.  I take a step back and look at the bigger picture.  If there is something I don't like about myself, I take the necessary steps to improve myself through research, collecting the tools I need, and following a plan of action that will bring me closer to where I want to be.  (This includes losing weight, improving my business, etc.)

5.  I help others and give.  Giving and helping others, making them happy doing it, always makes me happy.

6.  I maintain a healthy spiritual relationship with God.  Without Him in my life, I could never be happy.

7.  I also came to the realization that you cannot change people, and by doing so, you make yourself miserable.  I accept people for who they are, and if I don't like things about them, I don't try to change them--I just let them go.

curlycrowndotcom curlycrowndotcom
26-30, F
8 Responses Dec 1, 2009

Great advise! Thanks for sharing!

it feels so great to find people who think alike...i was also into a relationship for over 4 yrs....we loved eachother but we were never in peace... sometimes we were so felt like heaven..but mostly we were leading a life in hell...finally we decided to part....this was 2 mths ago...since then i m struggling to be happy....and then one fine day i decided ...enough of punishing myself...i am going to make myself happy...i'll control my own i found you....u share a similar story to mine...i m also trying to lose weight...careerwise i m successful but coz of my looks i suffer from low self esteem ....but m going to improve....your story and viewpoint has further motivated me...thnx a lot...

@migirl -- I'm so glad that you are in a place that you are happy. "Happy" is something many people don't know and a lot of it has to do with what we put up with. I was in a horrible relationship for many years, but blame myself for putting up with it for so long. It also takes rules to ensure we keep ourselves accountable, especially when things like that don't come "natural" for us. LOL... I'm really glad that you're the happiest you've ever been. So am I.

@Theshepardess -- I'll pray for your children. Unfortunately, kids think they know it all like I did when I was younger. It takes trial and error for some. Even if you tell them the stove is hot, they will touch it themselves to see if it's true. I have been like that throughout life, but now, I'm trying to learn from others' mistakes so that I don't have to make them. Thank you for your encouraging words.<br />
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@ANEWME -- It took me a long time to get to where I am, too, and there is still a long road ahead of me. But at least we both have the concept down that only WE can make ourselves happy, like you say. : )

It took me a very long time to get where you are--and now I am doing just that!! Only "we" can make ourselves happy--<br />
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Great post!

You have a good formula for a happy life there. I feel very much like you. I hope my children can adopt this attitude. It puts life into perspective. I've tried to teach them but they're still just a little too determined to find another way. I do believe they will ultimately come to this mindset. I hope so. Thanks for the wise words.

Thank you, chance1!

How very wise you are young lady. Very inspirational writing. Thank you!