Hi, My Name Is Abby and I'm a Sexaholic

Whew.  Glad I stood up and said THAT!  Now that it's all out in the open, I must confess that I feel a lot better about being addicted to sex than I would if I were addicted to heroine!  But, why is that????  I mean, sex can be just as lethal.  Why don't I Think about that?  Because that's how addicts think.  I guess I don't honestly think that being addicted to sex is the same as being addicted to a drug.  That's why it's so important for me to SAY it:  I am ADDCITED to sex.  It's true.  The more I think about it, the more I watch myself, the more I recount the years of my life, the more I see it.  I use sex EXACTLY the same way as I've used drugs...it's an escape....a way for me to avoid pain....it's a fantasy land...an adventure....an escape.  And, it causes SO much damage!!  I mean, the emotional scars I've dug out on my soul!  I shudder to think.  And, then!  Praise GOD I don't have AIDS!!!!  But, I have to get drunk everytime I go get my test results.

Gross.  Listen to me.  I feel like a stinking slave.  I'm enslaved to so many addictions!!!  Cigarettes, caffeine, marajuana, impulsive behavior.  I'm tired of it!  I'm GOING to make these changes and the first really big one is gonna be to give cigarettes up.  There's a place around here that's passing out free quit-smoking patches.  I want my quit date to be March 1 but, the anniversary of my husband's death is March 3 and I usually always have a really hard time around that time of year.  It might not be the best time for me to try.  I don't want to make myself have a nervous breakdown!!  But, I do feel like my ENTIRE life depends on me quitting cigs.  I mean, obviously for health reasons but, once I am able to accomplish that; once I am able to KNOW, (experientially) that I actually do have enough self-discipline; that I actually, honestly, REALLY can do that, that I'll never be able to doubt my ability to do ANYthing, ever again!!  And, I really want to quit.  I'm so TIRED of spending all my money on cigs!!!!  And, my lungs hurt, and I Stink.

And, I'm tired of sacraficing my well-being to romp in someone's hay.


MysticWriter MysticWriter
36-40, F
10 Responses Jan 19, 2007

Hi Abby,

The first step is understanding your problem. It sounds like you are rational about your condition and hopefully that will allow you to not be so critical about yourself. When I read your confession - it made me feel more secure with my issues. I am on my second marriage and I am just accepting the fact that I am addicted to sex as well. Years ago, I knew something was not satisfying me, but I somewhat blamed my relationship on my emptiness. Now, in my second marriage - I am dealing with the same urges. Stick with your progression, I hope that you find a light at the end of the tunnel. =)

can we talk? it doesnt have to be like that.... a relationship can truly be awesome beautiful n wonderful.. w or w out sex


Congratulations on taking the first step in deciding not to be a slave anymore. I have not arrived at the point where I just let it all out about how I feel, but I am inspired to try. I don't want to be a slave either, and i'm tired of ruining relationships, having intimacy issues, etc. Thank you for stepping up and taking action. I will push myself to to the same.

Shouldn't you say that you just enjoy your p-ussy being worked by as many d-icks as you can get? Having a d-ick slid in and out of you, massaging your c-lit to the point of c-umming does not make you addicted to sex. You simply want a lot of f-ucking. The damage you refer to is a social inhibition placed on you by the staunch standards of being a virgin princess being saved for the knight in shining armor.<br />
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I am a man. I had over 2 years between a bad marriage and a great one. during that 2 years, I had sex with over 150 different women ( a buddy of mine kept count ), and each one of them many times. I was never called a sex addict or anything like that. I simply liked f-ucking for the sheer pleasure of f-ucking. It was fun and I enjoyed it. No strings sex when you are single is the only way to go.<br />
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Any woman that says you are addicted to sex is either to ugly to have a stable of men or to inhibited and fears what others may say.<br />
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It's your p-ussy,enjoy using it for your own selflish pleasure.

Cigarettes, booze, drugs Iincluding pot, is not natural. F-ucking is natural as long as you do it for the pleasure of feeling a c-ock inside your p-ussy and c-umming and not as a driving desire as a psychological need of some sort. Consider those many c-ocks you want inside you to be items for your pleasure, then use them for exactly that. Then when you feel the overwhelming need, get yourself two or three dozen-packs of quality condoms and f-uck yourself silly, but while your are doing it, keep telling yourself it's for your wants and needs to feel that c-ock sliding in and out of you p-ussy till you are satisfied. Don't be concerned with his pleasure or your emotional need, just that meat inside you feeling so very good. Let him finish and enjoy the control you have over him and the feeling of his c-ock ******* when he c-ums. Using condoms prevents dlseases and babies. If you don't want it, don't do it. Your p-ussy, c-unt or whatever you call it belong to you. Use it for your pleasure only, not his. You are in control and the master of the situation,.

Hi Abby,<br />
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I am a sexaholic and attend three diifferent Sexaholic groups. <br />
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How do you determine if you are a sexaholic? One, it is all controlling in that a person constantly obsesses about sex. More than this, he or she goes out looking for it at bars, ***** joints, on the street prostitutes, and, the most provasive.... online ***********. <br />
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The key thing is if the addiction dominates your life by distracting you from your family, friends, and your job, when sex is more important than the things you love, then you are a sexaholic. <br />
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Men and women are sometimes forced to accept the fact of being a sexaholic when he or she is arrested, or when a love one sees **** on a computer or when he or she is confronted by friends or relatives. Then a person has no choice. He must get help or wind up in jail or ostrasiized by family and friends. <br />
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Bottom line though... a person knows in his or her heart that he or she is an sexaholic. Unfortunately, it takes a life shattering event to face the problem, otherwise, a person lives with it, sadly, in quiet desperation. <br />
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People are who they ARE, and to be LOOKED down upon because LOVE to have PASSION AND DESIRE in your life is SEX BS. Ever look at the people who are calling you an "addict", ever wonder what their SEX life is like? http://sexbullshit.com/2012/01/26/sex-addiction-is-another-word-for-teachers/ I making a stand against those, because denying who you are is just WRONG!!!

Do not worry so much. Everything you are feeling is natural. There is a way to enhance your life and improve it at the same time. It's just that you might not be ready for that ...

There is a twelve step program for sex addicts. Sex Addicts Anonymous...check it out on line. They have info on meetings, online phone calls, and online chats. The relief of not being controlled by your sex drive is wonderful...but at first it is one day at a time.

Yeah the 12 step program was CREATED by people who doesn't like SEX, or Jealous they don't have they PASSION and DESIRE!!! Ever look at our HISTORY?? Why is it now a problem, and NOT then?? Because cosmo has a bigger influence than you think!!! http://sexbullshit.com/2012/01/26/sex-addiction-is-another-word-for-teachers/

i know how hard giving up smoking is. and ill tell u the easiest way. go to ur doctor and ask for Chantix. it worked for me and everyone else i know who took it.

I wonder if there is a twelve-step program for sex addiction. I'm sure you can give up smoking if you try.