I was adopted when I was a newborn, in fact, I would not have existed if it weren't for my parents. My birth mother wanted to abort me, but luckily, my mom and dad were looking for a baby to adopt. And man, am I lucky they chose me. The only thing I know about my birth mother is that she was unmarried, around 30, and extremely poor. But that's what happens when you're a woman in India. I am Indian and my parents are also Indian, so no one really knows I'm adopted. I have my dad's skin color, and my mom's smile, so it's a secret that's kept in the family. You see, a lot of Indian's don't adopt other Indians, and some of my external family are ashamed of the fact that I am adopted. My parents told me when I was in 2nd grade. I remember it fuzzily. But when they told me, I never really cared. In fact, for most of my life I didn't care because my parents did everything in the world for me. They came to a new country to give me the best education, they let me have whatever I wanted, and they tried to make sure that I was well rounded. I took ballet, piano, basketball, karate...so many sports and activities. And never, once, did they treat me differently because I wasn't blood related. I love my parents so much, and I cry every time I think about how much they've done for me. I don't know if I deserve it, I sure don't feel like I do. Sometimes I wonder about my birthmother. But most of the time, I just appreciate what I have; a loving family, a great education, and just life in general!
inwarddispositions inwarddispositions
22-25, F
2 Responses Aug 21, 2014

That's actually kind of cool that your parents kept you in on the secret. I'm adopted too and felt like my mother had to tell everyone. My dad didn't do that. Maybe she thought it was a good idea but I'm not sure.

Its great that you have all that but it's also your right to be curious about your birthmom. I believe you have that right.
-KS

Thank you! That means a lot to me! I have been struggling with that for a long time now. I guess I am scared. I really respect my birth mom, because she did give me up instead of aborting me, and I appreciate that obviously. But I am scared that if I see her, then I'll see things that I don't like about myself in her...I don't know if that makes sense. I also don't want to hurt my parent's feelings. So I've been at this standstill for a really long time. I guess that was one of the reasons I shared on this site.

Well, my hubby found out his father wasn't his birth father at 17 years old. It was hard but he did end up meeting his birth father and they stayed friends. He in no way sees him as his dad but its nice to have him as a friend. Its one of those things that you will have to face on your own, if you d├ęcide to that is.

Wow! That's really awesome for your husband, I am glad it worked out! :) I guess one of these day's I'll make a decision, but right now I have noooo clue haha! Thanks for answering!