Sorry, But I Believe I Was Not Made To Be Loved Or Boyfriend Material!

This is all CRAP! i'm a male, 53 yrs. my hope has come this end and i may commit suicide now! i've been hearing trash saying such "love will come and stuff when i less expect it, etc..i know that one, how about "LOVE WILL COME WHEN I DIE UH"?. it is not that i am ugly instead everyone thinks i'm handome. i never had a girlfriend in my life nor my first kiss. yeah i am virgin!  i've been goin out as many times as possible at crowed places, clubbing, attend church, did voluntery i mean..i have done enough in order to meet my duties and enjoy life already. i get  depressed and frustated all the time tho. my friends are gone away on their own lives. my only best friend is my mom. that's it! i don't even feel going to work or go out. i hate to say this, but for those who are waiting for love out there. better think twice! 'cause not everyone is chosen(qualified) to find love in this universe!. sorry,*SNIFF, this is my last letter of the night..............BAAMMMMM!!!!!

chino4love chino4love
46-50, M
6 Responses Aug 3, 2010

rockguy747** your article truly woke me up once for all, that's what i wanted know! especially i believe the key of my problem is been this: <br />
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(4. Realize what women want - they want someone who doesn't fawn all over them. They want someone they can talk to and relate to. Someone calm, cool, collected. If you spend all of your time treating them like a princess, they will never, ever respect you.) <br />
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well, i skipped the part funny since i owned it already :) <br />
THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!! NOW I'M ALIVE!!! AND THANK FOR ALL POSSIBLE COMMENTS POSTED HERE!!!!

Look Chino, first off being a wuss (whining about your problems) is a massive turn off to women. <br />
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And I think you're kind of being a jerk by throwing out the "I might commit suicide" and "last message of the night... BAMMM" thing. Do you know that most of this world lives on less than $2 a day? Are you in the middle of nowhere with no internet or creature comforts that many Americans have and think they're entitled to?<br />
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You are not entitled to a wife. There's no government office where you can take a number and get one. You have to work smarter, not harder. <br />
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Be honest with yourself - what is your life blueprint? When you daydream about your "perfect life", what pops into your head? How does your partner fit into this ideal life? You have got to fall in love with the process. You have to get into perfecting the game. <br />
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I completely understand where you're coming from. The crushing pain of loneliness is almost equal to any physical injury I've ever had. And that's what will perpetuate the cycle you're in, if you give up. You will use the lack of a relationship to justify the loneliness, which then turns to another failed attempt, which then reinforces your belief that you are unworthy of love from a partner. <br />
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This is all about YOU. <br />
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At this point, I think you need to do four things. <br />
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1. Work on you - Look in the mirror. Now, ob<x>jectively ask yourself, and be totally honest - if you were not you, but a attractive, attainable woman that you would want to be with, would you date you? If not, what do you think needs to change? What could you improve? Improve is the key word here Chino, because even though I've never laid eyes on you, I'm going to guarantee that there's nothing really wrong with you, but there are things that you could probably do better. Remember, be honest with yourself. That mirror reflection is WHAT THE REST OF THE WORLD SEES. And they don't know your history, they can't read your mind, so they have no idea that you have a giving, sensitive, and genuinely good personality. <br />
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2. Read material from this guy. I did, and it really, really helped me. http://www. doubleyourdating. com/. The information REALLY WORKS. I am not lying. You have to stop thinking you have all the answers and take some advice from others here, because honestly whatever you're doing to try and get a woman is not working at all. So you can either keep thinking you know everything and FAIL AGAIN AND AGAIN, or you can admit you don't have all the answers and try a new approach. Please, just look into this info. I guarantee it will help you. <br />
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3. Try dating websites - EHarmony, Plentyoffish, and Match.com have all been good for me. I got plenty of dates from them. And a girlfriend (not with her anymore, but whatever). I got PLENTY of kissing, and a lot more, LOL. Get over yourself and create a profile and play nice. If you do it right, you'll get a date, guaranteed. <br />
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4. Realize what women want - Women want a guy to be funny... very funny. And, they want someone who doesn't fawn all over them. They want someone they can talk to and relate to. Someone calm, cool, collected. If you spend all of your time treating them like a princess, they will never, ever respect you. <br />
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Look, I'm sure you're calling B.S. on a lot of what I said. But hopefully you won't make that mistake. You're on the inside looking out. I am on the outside looking in, so by default I've got the compass here. Now all you have to do is try this. <br />
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The underlying psychology and meaning behind your words indicate to me that you're an all around good guy - you're just way too frustrated about getting a woman that you're focusing on the problem instead of the solution. And you don't want to give up, you know it and I know it. <br />
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I certainly hope you go for it. Be proud of who you are. Be assertive. If you want it, don't dream it... BE IT.

bonitasaha* thanks for your precious comment, but i've been trying what said since your age. :)

I feel for you,at least i can say i was with a woman,but that happened more than 10 years ago,now,like you,i am alone.

I'm truly sorry you're going through this. Just keep holding on. Let everyone know how worthy you are of being loved, and you'll find someone. It's never too late. Love can sneak up on you. (:

Man thats tough! i know what you mean good luck.