Should I Just Give Up?

Yay! You found someone! There is hope yet for all of us. It's good that you stayed true to yourself!

I think you succeeded because your attitude shifted... you stopped feeling desperation and became more comfortable just being yourself, and when you do, you become more charismatic to others. Congratulations, and good luck! (I've been there too, dude.)

I still don't think I'll find someone..

Well your update just gave me hope. I am really thinking of calling it a day and moving into the wilderness.

OK. I am eally intrigued by your posting. How different are you? If you have peticular issues, perhaps you should say what they are. People has very different ways of viewing others. If I were trying to find a partner in life, i would want to know all about that person. So disclose up front what you have on the table and perhaps you will find the person right for you. You know there are many many people that have issues just like yours. You are not alone. You will find the right person. Just remember, that person must be your opposit, or you will not get along. Two people alike in a relationship is a fire just waiting to burn.

Hey I completely empathize with you. I read this and was like "hey-when did I write this?" I hope you find the right path for you!

It was the same with me.. but i found my way out.. : ))

you are you......why settle for anythimg less?......seeing the world they way you do... is what makes you who you are....if you choose to settle for what you consider "normal" will not only make you unhappy in the long run... but will also stop the "normal' person from being with the one person that will truely understand and get them.... the right person comes along for everybody......if they are the one that is really made for you..... then they are worth waiting for.....most of the time we as humans fail to see what it is that we really need...... because we are to busy wanting and searching for it....if only we stopped and waited long enough for the stars to align......it is a horrible feeling, thinking that we as "oddballed" as we may be... will never be found be another such as ourselves.....but to settle.....is to lie....is to pretend....is to wear a mask....those actions will not make you who you are......question is.....do you like who you are?...... if you answered yes.....then you need to wait for someone that gets you....after all......who you are...... really is.....who you are.....

Please don't give up. Otherwise, I ought to jump ship with you. I mean that in all sincerity, my friend.

Its always hard when it comes to relationships, but i wouldnt suggest to anyone to change the person who they are to please anyone. You can should be you and someone will definately love you for you. Pretending to be someone you are not is Fake and eventually it is going to be unhappy for you...What i would suggest is continue be you and just have fun talking to people as friends and see how it goes. Being lonely is definately not nice, so its good to go out there and have fun with it and if you must flirt modestly, if there is such a thing.

Stop Trying To Hard Just Let Her Come Along You Don't Want To Rush It And End Up Bad So Just Be Patient And Wait She's Somewhere...

I feel like I can relate to you. Like I said in my story guys have to do all the work when it comes to meeting a woman and that makes it very difficult especially in a world where people are more and more self absorbed into there own little worlds. I am fairly new to singleness but I think I have a long hard road ahead me. But it's ok, the biggest thing is don't get deparate, I know it's easier said than done, but women don't like desparate guys. And no matter what don't change who you are to attract someone, if a woman doesn't like you for who you are thats her loss!

Never give up! Because even if you stopped looking, there is no guarantee that somewhere along the line someone may find YOU! Dating is difficult and when it stops being fun and starts becoming more of a "task" it could be a bit overwhelming :(... I tried online dating, made a nice profile on match.com. I met quite a few fun/ interesting individuals. :)



P.S most importantly do not change who you are. A genuine lady is attracted to men who are unique, confident and if you are a bit odd thats totally okay !! It is what puts you aside from the rest...

Your not alone! 6 years I've been looking! I have no problem attracting men. Just no conncetion there what-so-ever. I would rather be alone than with someone I can't stand and have no respect for. I've been in love before so I know I'm capable. Some people seem to think i'm still hung up on the ex and that may be so. I am getting desperate now and contemplating being with just anyone. But I know I would hurt them and I can't bring myself to do this.

Whats "Normal"? I dont believe there is a normal! Meeting and marrying someone because you dont want to be alone might just add to your problem, might be good at first, then you would have to worry about not being happy becasue you dont have much in common and you wont be able to supress yourself for too long. Have you tried joining groups that you have interests in. I'm talking about physically going out and joining a group, where you can mingle with other people. You are still in a good age bracket too meet someonet and get married!

I vote the thirds, and maybe you shouldn't looking too hard, people said you found the one, when you stop looking, maybe it works for you :)

OMG, you've just described me! The way I see it is if we give in and grab the first 'normal' person that comes along then we're doing ourselves and injustice. We would only end up hurting them anyway because we'd get sick of pretending to be 'normal', been there done that! I live in hope that I will meet another weirdo such as myself lol, I'm not prepared to just put up and shut, I have to believe the magic is out there somewhere and maybe destiny is just testing me really damn hard before it will let me that one true slightly abnormal person such as myself lol. Keep smiling, you're not the one alone, we're special and just because we're different doesn't mean we will always be alone.