I Don'T Know How To Date AnymoreI'm a 31 year old man, who hasn't dated in 7 years. I haven't been dating during this time, because I was taking care of a sick parent and didn't have time for relationships. My parent died in Aug. 2011, and I spent the last year struggling with depression and guilt.
I have recently decided to get back into dating, but I'm a shy person and have a hard time talking to new people. Once I get to know someone, I open up and can chat easily with them without being overly nervous or over thinking everything I say or do. But I have no idea where to go to meet people who are looking for a serious relationship, and not a one-night stand or friends-with benefits. I have no idea even on how to approach someone, to even ask them out or just chat them up.
I am so lonely and wanting to be with someone but, I'm too nervous about saying or doing something embarrassing to ask someone out, and even if I work up the courage to ask them out I will just be rejected. My friends say I am a very sweet, kind, caring person. Who will make someone very happy someday, if only I wasn't too afraid of opening my mouth and asking them out.
Thank you all for your kind words of support, I have recently realized that I shouldn't be afraid of opening my mouth to ask someone out. Either they are going to want to know a great person who got over a tragic event and is moving on, or they are too self-center to care. Either way, I can now feel comfortable going up to someone and talking to them, without fear that they will just automatically reject me. I hope this helps someone reading this.
**Update: So now I realize why it was so hard to go out and date. I was looking in the wrong area, now that I know where to look. I feel comfortable going out and meeting new people, thank you everyone who has shown support. It helped so much, for me to get where I am today. God Bless.
Bluephonebox 31-35, M 3 Responses 1 Jan 29, 2013