Nobody Wants Me

don't give up!

It is a horrible feeling being alone and knowing you always will be. Some days I feel ok but most other days I feel this deep emptiness and it actually hurts inside, literally. Makes no sense why girls don't like me, I treat them nice but maybe to nice and like what most of you are saying which is true, they always go for the a**hole. Life certainly is unfair, why can't we have the one we love so much and rid of this pain that hurts so much. :-(

wishing cant make it so. theys 2 options suicide or survive and adapt. be selfish pursue what else can mae you happyin life. dont be mainstream if you dont have to..as long as it doesnt hurt anybody else and you respect and love those that love you.. do whatever you want to.. because unfortunately peoplejsut arent going to change and we arent stupidenough to be fobbed off by cliches " oh they's someone for everybody" "you have a great personality" blah blah blah. lol... tonight for me. jack daniels.. ***********..and maybe some takeaway... live foryour own pleasure. nice people get **** on. and people rarely say what they mean cos they wanna appear to be nice all the time. the chicks especially most of the time. the ****** are at least far more honest.

I have the same experience and have been going through it for years and years. The feeling of not being wanted since childhood, has placed a deep hole inside of me. The sense of abandonment and lack of love, makes me cry myself to sleep almost every night. I have cried so many tears over the years. Ever since I was 14 I have dealt with the rejection, not just on a romantic scale, but trying to make friends too. Even my family doesn't care. I care enough about myself, but it's heart wrentching to know no one else does.

well we've always got face book and youtube

You took the words right out of my mouth...just replace "girl" with "guy", of course.

even tough we are many of our kind, we are all alone in our lone house, in our lone life, in our lone world. i use to have a friend who get hookups every montus or so, i just can't onow how he does... im 15, never kissed a girl, never was wanted by any girls, will never be aswell... i've been trying so hard to get a girl to love me that i dont even know why im still hanging in that lone chance of love while she's maybe getting banged by a ****** who doesn't give a **** of her! i cried so many times in this short life that i dont dven feel the falling tears on my face when i get to. as everyone say: we will get loved one day" it wont happen for the majority of us. those peoples are helpless, they wont stop telling you the same thing again and again! and that's the worse of it. they are loved, they just can't understand the real feeling of loneliness and they will never! my name is maxime, from charlevoix in the canada, i dont give a **** if people recognise me here (why the heck would they get here anyway) the feeling of being lone will just replenish itself as they will turn the page and look over other. i think of ending it often those times (hard times in fact) i have no regret of being that sad, anyway, who will ever help me? love me?? why? because peoples tells me ( and for sure they does for you too, so why would you be there anyway) that im ugly, that i better go for a date with the ugliest, that im desespered case. but no. i would better be alone and proud of it than lone and sad with someone i dont like. i think that every's question here today is: why is ithqppening to me?! well, there is no answer to that, really... there will not be any help from around me (and you) and we all know that. now you can comment on my message, i dont think any will notice it anyway...

I thought I'm alone ... Well I think I'll die an old virgin...

I feel the same why I'm in high school and no one wants to go out with me I'm ugly and pointless. There is this girl named Sydney that I like in my 6th period class my friend said she likes me but she is always flirting with my friend and its just sad because I really like her but know she probably likes him owell I have no use to keep trying.

Hmmmmm.... I could say I understand... I've never been successful looking for it, ever. But love has fallen into my lap a few times, so technically I've been luckier than you. But... all of them were finding me to be of use somehow. My wife, she wanted escape from her previous relationship. That has been a major strain on us... and now at the end, it made the fatal blow to our marriage easy to land. Before her, my ex girlfriend, she was a rich kid who was just acting out a normal life, not really having one. I was little more than a plaything to keep her from getting bored in the end... So, maybe I've been a bit luckier, but I'm also in a lot of pain for having been so lucky. Don't feel too bad... right now I envy you having loneliness because you are simply alone... being lonely when you're supposed to be mated to someone who doesn't care about you... you don't want to go there, friend.

Trust me, you're not the only one. I see the same thing day in and day out. I am so flipping sick of being told that it will happen or that I will find a "good woman." I've been trying for 20 years, and I would have a better chance of stepping on the only landmine in Central Park.



Women always say they want a good man, but I have yet to meet one who really means it. They always go for the "bad boy" who in the end will always hurt them one way or the other.



A guy I went to high school with was the classic "bad boy," but he was never hurting for dates, hookups, or girlfriends. They never lasted, but he always had more. Eventually he ended up going to jail for six months for breaking a woman's arm during a fit of rage. For the record, I did not associate with him, but he was well known in town so what he was doing was not a secret.



His next girlfriend was this woman who could not have weighed more than 90lbs soaking wet and probably just 5ft. tall. He was around 6'2 or 6'3 IIRC and built like a tank. Anyway, he beat her so badly that she ended up in the hospital for a month and he got sent to state prison for around 18 months on a plea bargain. When he got out, she was waiting for him. Less than six months later, he beat her to death. Thankfully he is now rotting in prison for the rest of his wretched life.



For some reason, women in our current culture have been raised to go for the lowest common denominator when it comes to men. Perhaps it is what they see on TV and in the movies; I don't know.

I totally feel you. I'm 37 years old and feel that I'm pretty. I am successful, compassionate, charming, confident, and yet even if I can get a guy on a date and I like him he disappears. I honestly don't know what's wrong with me. I try to be a positive person but sometimes I just feel so defeated. I have amazing friends and everyone is shocked that I am still single. I just want someone who I can be myself with; who will look into my eyes and see me for who I am. Ugh. I don't know what to do.

Yeah. I get tired of heading that I have a great personality though. It's annoying. It's what people say to you when they don't think you're pretty.

I feel the same way. I've prayed to God and nothing. I feel I'm pretty and have something's going for myself, but I never get asked out. Yesterday my friend told me in order to get the guy I want I should send him a picture of my breasts. Why should I cheapen myself. I'm tired of watching my friends get married, go on dates, have options.....while I cannot even get the 50 year old guy I like and I'm 31. What's that say? Even if someone 20 years older than me doesn't want me....who would right. I asked God when I woke up, does He care that I cry myself to sleep?

I hear you there cursedboy,

I had it all once, the job, the trophy wife even after divorce, the trophy girlfriend. I started working when i was 13, YEP 13, and even paid into the tax system then. When I made money hand over fist I had friends, a woman, and family. NOW however, I have been on SSDI as a result of a back injury sustained in the concrete business. Now, Nothing, not a dad gum thing! No Job (i.e. money) means, No girl, no friends, and yep, even family has turned their backs (for the most part anyway)... Sad, but true, people are always chasing the buck... So much for the cliché' "Money can't buy love" I say BS, money buys EVERTHING! BTW, FYI, My Concrete Co. Used to gross 4.3 Million a year (everyone was my friend) and now I live on 28K per year (and not a soul in sight)
I don't care what anyone say's... My problems would end if I had the winning Lotto numbers... (Just saying)

Huh. Strange to think that I wrote this 4 years ago. Almost to the day. Well, 4 years and 1 day ago. Yet it's still true. Even on the internet, all I seem to find is lies and manipulation and people playing games with emotions .... Still haven't had my first kiss. Or a cuddle. Or even held hands. Or even been out with anyone. I'm just ... worthless. Unwanted.

I'm right there with ya... :(.. This is one example of Life is Unfair

the mexican drug lord thanked the US for making drugs illegal because it made him rich. Here i am poor and disabled and can't even afford to keep the one i love most alive. The US spends billions of dollars on the drug war. war should be illegal. instead they can't help a poor man that doesn't have enough to keep his dog. while soldiers aren't even court martialed for shooting dogs. im glad if i die ill leave this place and im glad my dog doesn't understand.

its not about what girls I can and can't have. No one wants me cause im poor and disabled. I can't even afford to keep my dog alive with her medical bills. The government does not give me enough. I am not searching for love because I have in the past...lots...and everything failed. im just posting to relieve some bordom and speak my truth. cheers.

unlike probably all of you i actually get maced almost every time i walk up to a girl almost every time and what do i do to deserve such treatment absolutely nothing,i walk up i say hi and then i get maced explain that for me please.and no jokes im serious!

Well I am 55, slim, athletic. I workout every day. I have money, am pretty, people tell me but I can't find anyone. I don't drink or smoke and people like that are considered different. I just want an honest, old fashioned woman that wants only me. I had that but she is gone. I am a lesbian.

i can say, i'm a woman, a normal person by any standards, I don't have any terminal disease, or some scary **** std, or some physical defect, like nine heads or 12 tails, or green skin., or weird laugh, i'm not very skinny or very fat, sort of average, i like to run, i have a good taste. yet i feel like there is something inherently wrong with me. I have the same situation and I don't know what to do. I am not the most attractive but I am sort of average and with make up and right clothes I can look pretty good. I study, I have a good sense of humor ... yet none of that matters. When it comes to guys, it's always the same story - they take one look at my hot friends, with big boobs (which, of course, I don't have and never will) and I'm done, they don't even look at me. And what strikes me the most is that some of my friends, who are attractive and really nice persons, can't get men either. However, the other part of my girl- friends who look like dolls but they are kinda greedy, all about the money, clothes, expensive lifestyle and sucking the life out of a man - they all have guys.

When some of those "clever" persons tell me that I should find a guy or those who complain endlessly about their relationships or cannot choose, lie, are not honest, I really want to scream, because I would never do that, but I don't have a choice.

That's the essence of life to me. Honestly, i said i'm a nice person but maybe it has made me in a bit of a ***** because i have no compassion towards most men - most of them are so cheap, and unkind when it comes to women who are not so beautiful, it's disgusting. If i'm not interested in a man, at least I am respectful, polite, I will never address his flaws and i will talk to him anyways, try to know what kind of person he is, maybe he has something interesting to tell. But to men here, it's like if you are not beautiful, you don't exist, you're not even worth talking to.Oh, and actually all the bad things i've ever heard about my looks/me, has come from men who are totally average, not special in any way and not very good looking. But i guess getting bitter is a dangerous and useless thing because life is so short. That's just my opinion which I cannot help, it comes from many observations of my adult life and the only way how i can be "cured" is by a positive experience (many positive experiences actually).And what has helped me till now, is that i'm sort of a rebel inside. Life is kinda unfair and when it happens i just refuse to give up on myself entirely. If i cannot get anyone, at least i can try to do well my job and devote myself to something useful, or make money. Some would say it's pathetic but that usually comes from people who have a lot of attention and i would never choose that kind of life without family, if i would have a choice, which i didn't. Thank you, that was my story and i can say i totally understand you, i know how hard it is to always be alone against the whole world, but apart from those relationship problems, i still love life, all the other aspects of it. So think about it, I wish you well!

Well, I had a girl friend who also was my only friend. She left me when she got a new job. It was terrible

I used to feel the same way. Only the girl I am with now makes me comfortable, but she still seems to not want my love so it feels a little useless. She loves me for superficial reasons but I love her for a lot more. Before her, though, I couldn't even get support when I was charitable. I would make food for all the other students, but only a few tried it; even when it was excellent.

I feel the same. I get amazed on how much crap some women put up with in men, things I would never do. Yet no one wants me. At the same time, with all the yelling and screaming I grew up with as a kid, if that is what family live is like, why would I want that? Being alone is better than being with my family, but somehow I want to believe being with someone who really does care is better… I just don’t seem to know how to connect to people who care.

i have found a theory, its called "genetic pool disposal", some of the people born with it in order to reduce the human population, mabey the body or the brain send signals/hormon's that scare girl's away, i am working on a solution these days so i may find a cure just for me, but as for the rest of mankind i have no answer

Just my 2 cents. I read someone saying that they are not a doctor. well guess what Sir, I am, I have a nice body, drive one of the best cars and I am 35 but people think I am 28. No girl will ever go out with me, not even for a cup of coffee, even girls who have no education, work minimum wage and are desperate to find guys. I think that no matter what other things you have, if you are not confident then no body will trust you, not just girls, no one. Now I am not confident and getting rejected makes me less confident, which gets me rejected again which makes my confidence less, ..........

yes its life ...you have to face it ,,,..its very complicated to understand.....why ...only you ...but yet you r living ,,,there r people much more in problem after having a wife ....so i think you should thank god for he knows what is best for you ...yes you have to live because you r born to live and when time come you will die ,,,,thats his call .......so pray and wait and try to be happy thats your destiny,,,take it with a pinch of salt,,,ha,,yes thats life ,,god bless

my experience is a little different from yours I am a pretty girl and it is very easy for me to get a man but I only want the one im with. He has cheated on me and I know it he denies it and will never admit it and even when the girl called me i still stayed with him I do not know why. I love him so much and we have a beautiful baby girl together. I feel so alone and unloved. my mom walked out on me when i was only three my dad got remarried and had a new family so my whole family turned their backs on me I got married he cheated on me and we ended in divorce. I think i am unloveable and everyone will always walk out on me and love is just something i dream about and does not exist. all I want is for him to love me and not want another girl but i am never enough for anyone. love is not all it is cracked up to be at first its great but it always ends up being one sided and someone ends up hurt, scared, lonely, and dreaming that he would love me.

I have the same problem as Cursedboy, in time it seems to separate you as a person from everyone else. Like theres the world and then in the distance theres me , never seen or noticed. Your not even a member of society anymore your just an invisible blah that's hovering about while the world gets on with it's business. just can't seem to work it out - everybody should get one chance with a soul mate.