I Messed Up

Last night my gf and I went to happy hour with some friends. In the middle of our meal she got waved over by 3 guys sitting at a table next to us. My gf just gets up and does over there with no explanation. I get up and walk outside to smoke. I come back and she can tell I'm bothered, but I said we would talk about it later when we leave.

On the way home in the car we got into it about them. She said they were 3 guys that lived in her old building. She thought I remembered them but I've never seen them before. No big deal, I believe her. I was a little ticked how she just got up and was a little awkward about the whole thing, so I did think something wasn't right.

Well when we got home it escalated and she got mad at me back and said she doesn't deserve to be treated like that and I shouldn't have been mad about those guys. Well I was, it's not her say to tell me what I can or cannot be bothered by.

Things got a little heated, alcohol involved. I couldn't get a word in edgewise and she didn't want to talk to me anymore or hear me, so I went to another room but as I left, I turned and said "you are stupid"... Now what in the world am I thinking...I wasn't thinking...  I don't think she is stupid, I meant to say "this fight is stupid" but the alcohol took over my mouth. I'm not making that an excuse for what I said, but it seems like all of our bad fights are when or after we've been drinking.

I take her to work every morning and this morning she got out without saying a word. I've beSaen texting and emailing her, about 4 times apologizing even more, I apoligized last night twice and this morning twice... I don't know what to do...I don't want to lose her. She won't respond to anything I say. We live together, work is over in 3 hours... The weekend is here. I think she's going to end it. Please give me advice or encouragement.
viking770514 viking770514
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1 Response May 18, 2012

theres nothing you can do. We men say stupid shi* from time to time, all we can do apologise. What did you apologise about, did you apologise for calling her stupid or did you apologise for not trusting her with the 3 guys? Apologising is all good but saying sorry for the right things is even more important. What do you think.