Accepting My Fate
I am all but resigned to never falling in love and having someone love me back.I have never had a relationship (age 32) and have never known the happiness that comes from being with someone - just the cold, hard emptiness that comes from forever having been alone.
I have never had any luck with girls. I consider myself friendly, down to earth and with a good heart. Sadly, these attributes always seem to make me a friend and nothing more. I get too discouraged by often seeing the same girls end up with guys that don't make them happy.
My confidence is shot and the crippling loneliness has made me too depressed and anxious to ever be comfortable around a girl that I like. I'm beginning to think god really never intended for me to be with someone.
For the guys lucky enough to have found their special someone always remember to:
- Treat her like the princess that she is.
- Tell her every day how much she means to you.
- Live to make her smile and cheer her up when she is sad.
- Listen to her, share with her, and care for her.
- Always be there for her – no matter whether she is sick, sad, angry or happy.
- Above all, love her unconditionally.
ForeverSad81
31-35
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Sep 25, 2013
Hello ForeverSad; I actually came across this posting while doing a search in regards to something I'm writing. You are not alone; I'm a 28 year-old female who is still stingle, and I used to think just like you. I've only ever had one relationship, but he ended up being a sociopath who nearly destroyed me and my life. I just want to say that Jessica32 is right, and what she says is something I continue to keep in my mind as I wait for someone special.
Hi Mr. foreversad..I believe the gift of being single is only for those who can accept it... So if you desire to be in a relationship you will have it at the right time.. If you believe in Godalmighty He said "Delight yourself in the Lord
and He will give you the desire of your heart.
Thank you all kindly for the responses. I try and have a social life, going out to bars, meeting people through friends, and so on. I have tried online dating too, although not as often as going out to meet people.
I'd like to think I'm a decent looking guy and I make an effort to look good. I know I'm a caring guy and I would give my girl all the love and happiness she deserves.
I think my problem is I devoted so much time and effort over the years to study and my career that I've realised this destroyed my social life. So I become awkward when I talk to girls I am interested in, and they sense this, which kinda dooms me right there.
I hate saying that god intended for me or anyone to not find happiness. But I also believe things happen for a reason. Maybe I made mistakes in life and sacrificed too much on a personal level, in pursuit of my career, and now the price I'm paying is being too awkward around girls.
I don't know. Maybe I need to resolve my own personal issues first and learn to start feeling better about myself before looking for that someone. Either way, the loneliness will be with me for a long while yet.
You don't believe God intended for you to be with someone? I feel the same way sometimes. My youth pastor used to say God created a person specifically for everyone, but I always doubted it. I think stuff just happens. But if you believe in God: remember this. As much as the media tries to talk about Love Love Love all the time, as in romantic love, that isn't really important. In Heaven, there is only one kind of love: agape love, which means universal love. The kind of love that God has for everyone. People who are alone in this world never really talk much about it. We only see the people who are happy and enjoy broadcasting it. But we know there are lots of people trampled by society. Well, just remember one day you'll see that romantic love wasn't important. Only agape love. You'll be happy you had agape love while so many people didn't. You will feel no regret. I know it's really hard. I feel the same way, it seems like this unfulfilled desire controls your entire life. But i suppose it doesn't have to. Maybe your life is beautiful just the way it is. I bet God thinks so too. I will pray for you as I try to overcome this. Let us see what's important even if we can't have worldly happiness. <3
Don't get yourself down. I know it's tough being alone. I'm 25 and have never been in a relationship with anyone. I'm not sure it's the same as for you, but if a relationship is something you truly seek, then I am sure it will happen for you. I hope the best for you. Cheer up :) Maybe try on online dating profile or volunteer at a place where it is something you care about. I know women respond to men that have a mission or that have some sort of compassion for a cause they believe in. Just suggestions. Hang in there!
I feel genuinely sad reading this. You WILL find her! Think, have you done EVERYTHING in your power to find her? Do you go out enough? Have u put efforts into being happy in your own skin and sprucing up to attract her? (be real, it sounds shallow but this is what it takes). Have u joined online dating sites? Have you been speed dating? Have you practised your dating skills with your female friends? To get what you want in life, you HAVE to put the effort in. Don't feel lonely, you can always talk to me! :)