Since I Can Remember

The first time I can remember being rejected was in pre-school. Everyone was outside playing and I went up to this boy and asked him if I could play with him and his friends and he said "no, we don't want you." Totally devastating. Twenty years later I am still afraid of rejection, but not all forms, just rejection when it comes to relationships.

I consider myself to be fairly attractive, outgoing and intelligent and I feel like I have a lot to offer a man...if I could just get over this fear. This fear has kept me from ever having a serious relationship and it is very frustrating.

First of all, it is impossible for me to talk to someone I am interested in. I am not, however, afraid of the opposite sex. I have a lot of good guy friends and I can carry on conversations with men at bars and in public with no problem, but when I really like someone, all confidence goes out the door.

I hate it when people say "Come on, what's the worst that can happen? They say no." I just want to scream "Duh! that is the worst thing that could happen, and I hate feeling the way that I feel when I am told that!" Some people can just brush it off, but I can't. It makes me question my appearance, personality, intelligence, the whole 9 yards.

I just want to get over this!

sheenacurry sheenacurry
2 Responses Feb 19, 2009

It is better to have loved and lost than to never had loved at all...<br />
Everyone has a fear of rejection, and everyone has been rejected in one way or another. Either it will work or it won't work in the relationship. I think you can learn from everything, okay you are rejected,obviouslt there is a reason for you not being with or near this person, have you not ever in your life rejected someone? They say if you stop looking, someone you may least expect will come before you. If you keep this up, this fear, you will always be alone and not know the good you could have enjoyed and the bad you could have learned from.

don't be afraid to be rejected , don't be afraid you love , don't be afraid you get hurt , this is life , life is life