Miscarriage & Abortion.

Here is my story.

I had a miscarriage back in December of 2009 , My friend had an abortion...she tried to compare our situations...I did not agree with her.....Abortion & miscarriage are VERY different.

Abortion - a medical procedure in which a doctor takes a fetus out of the uterus.
Miscarriage - where you body rejects the baby.

One is what you decide the other is undecidable. 

These are not the educated definition they are mine but very similar to them. 

I was very mad at her for doing this , i had lost my baby unwillingly , i wanted my baby...she didn't lose her baby unwillingly , she did not want her baby
I know she regretted it but that still gave her no right to do that to me and what I was going through I did not argue with her I did not want to seem selfish because she knew she made a mistake a little too late but how is it a mistake when it is thought out for three months and you don't even think of the other side to things , i was considerate of her feelings even though i do not at all believe abortion is right....i don't know why if someone can have a baby they put themselves through that willingly i literally went through hell...Somebody even tried to tell me that a baby doesn't feel....when how would anybody know what a baby feels expect the baby itself?  It has a heartbeat so how does it not feel, anything that has a heartbeat is living, however I will never know if it does or doesn't feel in the womb I just assume the obvious. 

Now I was reading stories to the mother dieing at birth.....I read a story about a doctor who told his patient she was going to die when she gave birth to her child....if she did not terminate it , her mother had written this story for a reason this womans child was told she was going to die during the abortion there were complications and she died during the abortion....her mother had another doctor look at her...she was lied too , her and her baby would of been fine....now how can you trust what a doctor tells you?  How does one know the future if your going to die... which brings me to my other story.

A woman was told that she would die at birth yet again if she did not terminate the pregnancy.......
the woman took the risk....her and her baby had no complications at birth...they were both fine.
i really don't think a doctor should be misleading about situation like this...I honestly don't believe you know a person is going to die until it happens.  

This is just what I believe in if you disagree , feel free to put your thoughts on here, but please don't be hostile with me. 

there is good ending to this story I am now pregnant with a baby boy that is due in January...and I cant wait to meet him.
linduh linduh
18-21, F
2 Responses Nov 30, 2010

Most people who miscarry know that it's usually something seriously wrong with baby. That way<br />
they needn't feel bad. If it's because of problem causing premature labor, it hurts but they usually are able to take preventive steps in future. With abortion there's usually nothing wrong with baby and it's a conscious decision. If it's their decision, guilt can be bad after they realize what they did.<br />
If it's under pressure or coercion from others, it can often be unbearable. More often, the latter is true. We need ways to make sure it's an informed choice and only by woman herself. Maybe this<br />
will prevent terrible grief afterward.

thank you!! god had a plan for my little one and it wasnt on earth.. =] thank you for your support!!!!!!!!!