I Am Dating An Albanian Girl And I Am Dominican Would It Last?

we have been going out for about 3 month now and im in love... i really do care about her...and ive done research..it led to find that albanians parents are not into interacial relationship..can someone give me some advice ill really apreciate it..thanks
djaykrico djaykrico
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18 Responses Jul 10, 2010

All I can say it's not all doom and gloom like everyone has written....I'm a white British male Christian dating a beautiful Muslim Albanian girl....I have met all her family including her father and they accept me like a son of there's....

It won't work I'm not races. But family party's events kids down the road. Each others family's. Sad to say but albanians. Just started coming here. Our pride is our honor we will die for it. My father will diss own me and I'm a guy. Only albanian. Truth not being hard headed. Just like s Spanish mother wants her own kind for her family.

They're not bad people , it's just that they are big on tradition and keeping the family name going. They are the most proud and patriotic people you will ever meet. I'm Albanian and Kosovan and I've been through similar issues. They believe that if the family name has been going on for centuries that It's not right to end it by marrying someone who isn't albanian or kosovan.

Hey I'm an Albanian girl and I know that you're in a difficult position and I'm sorry to say this but I would break up because her family will never accept you. And it's horrible to be with someone if everyone is against it. I really hope you'll find a way...

First of all her parents are right you people speak Spanish to people that don't speak it not that good of a language.

I'm an 18 year old albanian girl. Im dating my black bf and we are in love with eachother . He knows my parents would kill me if they knew I was withh him . We sneak around and hide not only from my family but albanian people cause they talk and spread rumors . He is patient but he gets sad. I met his whole family and he wishes it was easy as do I. My no. Recently found out cuz I lie to see him and I also have a curfew am not allowed to date in general and I can't come home late. When she found out she started crying and freaking out cuz my dad would kill me f e knew and it would tear my family apart cuz my dad is not open minded at all. My dad is suspicious and TEY spy on me all the time . I told my mom I wouldn't see him but I still do and I try to make my way around it. I pray that my dad won't find. I will never give up on our love I tried explaining to my mom but she doesn't understand she rejects it only cuz of his skin color and cuz our culture or society WOULDNT allow it because it shameful. I'm not giving up and neither is he. We love eachother and we hope that it will al workout . I jst need freedom so I can go onmy own but I pray that one day my mom will a least accept it if my dad cannot and my brother as well. Any advice guys?

i wish i now ho you are and i would kill you *****

Go and **** yourself blerim12 it's people like you that I hate to be an Albania girl !!!!! Grow up man o wish that one day your only child will love a black man and after kill him or her !!!!! You don't have heart go and see a psy !!!

Having a black kid? and You call yourself Albanian?
Look you can have black, Mongolians, Tanzanian kids....
What you don't understand is that.. Black people have one thing in common: Cheat their wives with other White Women...
2nd is that: Your dad will put bullet in your head if he finds out you have a black kid or you want to marry a black person.
3rd: Don't call yourself Albanian... just call yourself ordinary American...

I'am An Albanian Girl, and i have always liked non Albanian boys. I was with Asian guy for 4 years we loved each other VERY much we were eachother a first love. However my family strongly disapproved of it so much happened where i got taken away from my family for a bit because of this. It was like a war with them & my love life. His family disapproved of me also because i was Christian & white. I was willing to take every shot of it however he wasn't and broke up with me. My brother and dad had threatened him so much as far as a family friend saw us and beat him up. Now thats history because he clearly didn't love me enough to take all the pain like i did instead left me having taken everything from me.

NOW i'am in a current serious relationship with a Christian Ecuadorian were crazy in love we have been together for a couple of years, we have met each-others family it was tough at first but my family accepted him. He comes around all the time they all get on. However his immediate family don't seem to keen on me and have disrespected me in the past. I just look beyond that doesn't concern me no more.

Albanians are very hard to win over especially when it comes to their daughters. However it is possible you aren't the first & certainly wont be the last. Albanians show a lot of emphasis to family do be as respectful as possible and show interest in their culture.

I know this is late but still good to take advice from people who gone through it.

Best of Luck!

I am a 20 year old male from ecuador, i was dating an albanian girl and all i can say is that it is all about luck. We were together for 4 years but we had to break up because her mother did not like my skin colour neither my culture. Even tho im a muslim she still rejected me. We love each other loads or at least thats what i think. We never broke up cause of arguments or anything like that, the only reason we broke up its because her family would not like me. Her cousin got married to this pakistani guy and they all accepted him, i wasnt even given that chance so like i said its all about luck. Give it a shot, i do not regret what happened all i regret is what we didnt get to do... btw she said that to me too, her dad will shot me lol however at least most of the girls family like you so thats a good advantage...

I am a Dominican guy and i am dating a Albanian girl which is very beautiful and we been together for 4 years now and we love each so much that she have been learning Spanish and i been learning Albanian. i have meet all of her family members even her mother, grandparents, aunt, uncle , cousins , brothers and the only one that i have not meet is her dad. she keep on telling me that once her dad see me , he will shoot me , which i think that wont happen cause he wont kill my love for her am sure he doesn't want to see his daughter unhappy and i will engage her soon but it might not happen now but it will happen later. ima be a man about it and do it in front of her dad, then her dad will see that i have a lot of balls to stand to him and engage his daughter. but well he is invited to the wedding and see his daughter marry the men she love.

He will shoot you. I am albanian and my dad puts it this way '' If you don't marry an albanian, I'll shoot you , i'll shoot him and then I'll shoot myself.'' I wish you the best of luck though

don't do anything crazy bruv, you'll get killed

Domenican Boy.... I'm not sure you understand what it means in our culture marrying someone else outside of Your nationality....
But about showing balls to her father... GOOD LUCK.... Because he will boil your balls and will make you eat your own balls!

Has it lasted? Have you met or seen her parents? I am a Dominican Girl in a Relationship with an Albanian guy for two years now. So far I've met both of his sisters and theyre awesome and i love them but... their parents are something else. I've seen them around and they know who i am and every time they see me they do not say a thing to their son or i. its scary bc they just act like they don't see us and it sucks because my bf has met pretty much my whole family or at least every family member of mine that lives in the USA

Stay away from us and other whites you ugly freaks

Racist !!!

im an albanian girl, dating a lebanese guy, we love each other very very much. and we wanted to get engaged, so i came out and told my parents, and they flipped, its been 9 months now, I'm hiding my boyfriend once again because they do not allow it, and its honestly caused so much damage to my relationship. it also hurts, putting yourself under this sort of pressure, I'm only 19, iknow I'm young, but its just really hard, and **** what albanians think, all i want is to marry my best friend and start spending out lives together.

Hey Albanian Girl..
At least Lebanese better then marrying black or Mexican.
You just need to convince your dad that Lebanese guy meets Your dads expectation, such as:
1.same religion
2. Can secure you and your future
3. He will not abuse and dump you
4. Has manners and his family are well mannered too..
5. Has respect for your parents

If he meets this expectation... I don't think there would be an issue...

well its no bed or roses- I am albanian married to a japanese man, and i certainly upset some members of my family. if your gf is living at home with parents, i reccommend you keep it a secret til she moves out- you never know how crazy people can be and albanian males have very sensitive pride (e.g., they might shoot you, worst case scenario but just saying, some surely would)

I understand exactly how you feel. Ive been dating my Albanian boyfriend for two years now... I have only met his sister and brother who seem to have no problem with me... but it's the parents that worry me... ive also done research and came up with the conclusion that Albanian parents don't really approve with interracial marriages... my boyfriend says that his parents wouldn't stop him from marrying who he wants... I really do love him, but I'm very afraid that once his parents find out, pur relationship will go down hill. Good luck with everything! Just remember that true love conquers all :).

Well dude you better wear a bullet proof vest, its going to be very tough. I am Albanian girl dating a coloured guy, we are very much in love. My family is going to have a heart attack when they find out. Looking at the above comments, generally its easier for a guy to marry who they want because a guy can either listen or not listen to their parents, whereas a girl is expected to always respect their parents. Meaning she should also marry someone from our culture otherwise they will dis-hone her and never speak to her again. What you need to do is prepare yourself and be as strong as you can for both of you. If you had to also learn our language you would prove soooo much, only then you possibly will have a chance to get her parents blessings and i am hoping the same. If you interact and speak the language more within the culture that would ease the tension and most likely there is hope! Good luck :)

Have u managed to tell your parents yet... Im albanian and i have a black boyfrie d who i have been with for 3years..and o dont know what to do

you should`t done that in the first place because you do know well the circumstances of the reaction towards what u are in. i think u better despair with him and never get back because you know what will happened. You both may hand up dead because Albanian parent they dont care that they have to go to jail when it comes to their children,,

U have a nasty blood bich

Well dude you better wear a bullet proof vest, its going to be very tough. I am Albanian girl dating a coloured guy, we are very much in love. My family is going to have a heart attack when they find out. Looking at the above comments, generally its easier for a guy to marry who they want because a guy can either listen or not listen to their parents, whereas a girl is expected to always respect their parents. Meaning she should also marry someone from our culture otherwise they will dis-hone her and never speak to her again. What you need to do is prepare yourself and be as strong as you can for both of you. If you had to also learn our language you would prove soooo much, only then you possibly will have a chance to get her parents blessings and i am hoping the same. If you interact and speak the language more within the culture that would ease the tension and most likely there is hope! Good luck :)

I'm Korean/Italian-ish-American,<br />
& My boyfriend is straight out of Lozhan, Albania.<br />
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we've been together over a year now,<br />
& I was soo worried in the begining of our relationship,<br />
Because some of his friends' families' didn't approve of intercultural/interracial relationships,<br />
& I thought my boyfriend's family would be the same way.<br />
<br />
When I met his parents & brothers for the first time,<br />
I was terrified, & it was really akwars; Especially since I didn't know their language back then.<br />
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But, His family has never given us problems about our relationship,<br />
& Have never said a bad word to me, Or about me.<br />
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In fact, His extended family is always asking my boyfriend & I when we're going to get married!<br />
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*I will say this though;<br />
IN GENERAL, Albanians are verrry traditional/family ba<x>sed people.<br />
Just have a good sense of humor, learn to roll with the punches, & Have respect for your girlfriend's family! They might be tough at first, But every family in every culture is like that when their child is dating someone new. Get to know them, Let them get to know you,<br />
& Things should be fine! (:

My advice is: eat **** and die.

Well im 22 and married for 2 years now to a albanian man and living in the usa. Im a black braziliaan girl i hear a lot about that albanian dont like black people. I know a lot of albanian parents who dont agree with interacial relationship. My husband family always has been very good to me but i know that other albanian judge them and feel sorry for them wen they found out that ther son is married to a non- albanian and she is black . <br />
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My husband brother has went back to albanian married an albanian girl. She doesnt agree that my husband married me coz he is betraying his people and she didt make it a secret that she dislike. At some point she made a comment to me in albanian thinking i dont understand albanian or i dont talk( i speak perfect albanian and understand it good) My father in law heard her and pointed out that i was a member of the family befor her and he doesnt like it wen people disrespect his family.<br />
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But since we where pregnant at the same we got closer and we give birth 2 days apart and both to girls.<br />
we are now like sisters and call each other somuch time that are husband are getting sick about it<br />
I have now 3 children. twins boys of 11 months and girl who just turn 2 weeks. And my ''albanian mother loves to help me out with the kids. <br />
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So i pretty blessed with my albanian family and of course my braziliaan family