I Feel It Too

I'm a college student in my third year. I really needed money so I decided to stay on campus during thanksgiving as the RA on duty.



 I feel so alone - there is no one else on campus. What's worse is that I made the decision to stay here instead of going to some friend's houses.



My mom just called. I had to fake that I am ok, but in reality I haven't stopped crying since she hung up.



I am so alone.



I'm planning to do homework all day tomorrow, and I'm so poor that I doubt I'll be able to eat much more than cereal or cheese and crackers for all of thanksgiving. Campus feels deserted. I'm trying to be thankful regardless, but it's so hard. I wish somebody was here... anybody.
whoopiegirl whoopiegirl
18-21, F
3 Responses Nov 22, 2006

If you don't mind my asking...what school do you go to? I go to UGA...anyhoo, I'm sorry you were alone. I was too :(

If you don't mind my asking...what school do you go to? I go to UGA...anyhoo, I'm sorry you were alone. I was too :(

Dear Whoopiegirl, <br />
<br />
I have been exactly where you are right now, and I promise that things will get better for you! Your experience will make you a stronger person. <br />
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I used to be an RA when I was in college; I did it for the money and the free room. If I hadn't been an RA I couldn't have gone to college. My parents lived in another state due to military service, and I had to stay in the hall over Thanksgiving because no one wanted to make the ten hour drive to get me. I had to learn to get by on my own without my family. I spent my Thanksgiving eating Ramen noodles and painting the windows in my hall funky colors, so that the light shone in like a rainbow. That cheered me up more than you would think! I blasted music in the halls and danced while I was painting. When the campus police came by to do "rounds", the cop felt sorry for me and came back later with some fruit and cookies to supplement my Ramen. A real feast! <br />
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Here's some more (unsolicited?) advice: Use your time to stretch out a little. Being responsible for so many people is a serious strain, and today you are not responsible for anyone except yourself. Take care of your body: go for a walk, take the longest, hottest shower imaginable (hey, at least in the residence halls hot water is stil free), put on some decent clothes and fix your hair, makeup, etc. If you have cheese and crackers for dinner, fine! Put them on a plate, listen to some smooth music (as loud as you please, who's going to write you up?!), and give thanks that you are who you are, where you are. Since when was Thanksgiving strictly about the turkey and stuffing? Take a little comfort in the fact that your family misses you, and that they will respect you for being independent. <br />
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If you need further distraction, I recommend making an extra decoration for your residents' doors (doortags, we used to call them). Include something uplifting, like a quote or a song lyric that inspires you. When the girls (or boys, if your hall is co-ed) get back, it will be full speed ahead to the end of the term, and they will appreciate the extra encouragement. <br />
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I also wholeheartedly recommend making a search of the halls where the international students stay. Most of them don't go anywhere for Thanksgiving, either, and you never know who's available to share your cheese and crackers . . . (I ended up marrying one of those guys!)<br />
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Best wishes, <br />
eixxirt