Always Slighted, Insulted and Treated Like Crap

I don't understand why people think they can be so cruel and insulting,


you've gained weight,

your house is dirty

you're lazy

you're smart, how come you didn't finish college

why don't you have a job

you're hairs a mess,

you're getting fat

you can't do anything right

i don't want to be seen in public with you

you have a big butt


those are some of the nicer ones.


I've been hearing insults and ridicule all of my life.  It has really taken it's toll on me.  I have no self esteem left.

No one remembers my birthday or invites me over for holidays.  The only friends I have are on EP.  I wish you all lived closer. 

Tumblindice Tumblindice
36-40, F
12 Responses Mar 27, 2008

welcome to my effing world

Wants2Vent.........thank you for your comment, you couldn't have said it better. I totally feel for you, have had all the same things happen to me, guys and their bs, friends who are too busy to give me the time of day but you see them online posting quizzes or throwing sheep ate people, referring to facebook, btw, it's funny, just been insulted again, my brother, who I do everything for, is having his second child baptized and I was not asked to be a God parent, again, yet he is Godfather to my daugher, I just gave him half my life savings, manage his properties, watch his children. Some of this is because I have low self esteem and do not stick up for myself, but certainly, we have to recognize there are many selfish, rude, self absorbed, pretentious people in this world that do not care how they treat others........thank you for your comments and your kind words of concern

Thanks Sasquatch, <br />
I just feel that throughout my life I was often overlooked, and not treated well. My brother only calls when he wants something and I had some so called friends that just threw me aside when I got depressed and behaved like they didn't even know me. After awhile, it gets to you and you start believing what is wrong with me?

Aw, it's okay. People do the same thing to me too. The only thing that matters is what you think. People insult others just to make themselves feel better. I'm sure you're not lazy, and you get some things right. Don't listen to them. You seem like a very sweet person.

I know I'm about to be slighted and passed over again by my brother. It makes me angry. I get used alot by friends and family.

Some people are plain mean! Very often, they don't bother examining their own faults/flaws before spouting insults casually. I've learnt to zip up my own mouth because I believe what goes around, comes around.

Hon,<br />
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I'm not rude and I'm not harsh. <br />
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You are so busy wallowing in all this to realize that the one common factor in all of this is ... YOU.<br />
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If you are truly happy living in the circumstances you describe, with no one remembering your birthday and no one inviting you over for holidays, then good for you. Clearly all your "self-examination" has led to what you truly desire.

Illiona, my comment is directed at trying to have the life you want. <br />
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I appreciated your comments. I thought hers were harsh and rude.

Trying to have the life you want, <br />
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although I see where you may be trying to give me some positive feedback, i look at you as the same type of people who come into my life and make these rude comments. why is it ok for anyone to say these things?<br />
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I am a person trying to live my life, I don't hurt no one and I don't think it is ok for people to hurt me. <br />
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why do I attract rude people in my life I don't know? self examination for over 30 years has gotten to nowhere?<br />
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you talk of positive life changes, I choose these things, if I am unemployed, it is by my choice, the only thing I want to change is getting back into shape.<br />
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the fact is many people do associate with me outside of the internet, but many of them are rude, users who stop by my life to make me miserable.<br />
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I see your point about positive changes, but you didn't have to be a ***** about it.

then we agree to disagree.No props!

You have just described yourself as an unemployed college dropout with poor grooming who lives in filth, and with whom no one you know outside of the internet will associate with.<br />
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Assuming that none of this is true, you continue to expose yourself to these people because ..... ????<br />
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Or in the alternate,<br />
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Assuming that some or all of this is accurate, if that is truly how you come across to the world, you may want to start making some changes for you own sake in order to give yourself a shot at future happiness.<br />
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Sorry, but having "attitude" about things for which there is no positive side is the wrong approach to take. <br />
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In her own words, she has "no friends". Something about her is putting people off, and if she doesn't sit down and do enough self-examination to find out what the real problem is ... she will always be as lonely as she is right now.

know a good line to throw back at em!<br />
you're lazy,well i just enjoy life!<br />
you've gained weight,well at least no-one blows me away!<br />
your house is a mess,so what,do you live in it?<br />
You have a big butt,can i help it that men like to squeeze them?<br />
your hair's a mess.No,that's the new rage!<br />
see,it's not too hard,just let em see that you've got attitude too!What do you care what they think!We don't!We only care what you think!Well,i do anyway!"hihihi"