I Am My Own Worse Critic. ...

I am my own worse critic. I can really beat myself up at times. I don't have a problem with taking a good hard look at myself and point out what could use a change.
Aries78 Aries78
26-30, F
16 Responses Mar 27, 2007

Omg me too...and what makes it even worse is I have become a perfectonist...

Wow

AFTER GETTING REALLY ******* FURIOUS WITH THINGS I TOOK MY ANGER OUT ON A SEAT,...YES A SEAT,I POUNDED IT TO ****,BROKE IT'S BACK,AND THROUGH IT OFF MY THIRD FLOOR BALCONY..TODAY I WAS CLEANING IN BITE SIZED PIECES,WAS UP AND DOWN THE STAIRS NUMEROUS TIMES WITH BUNDLES OF RUBBISH LADEN TESCO'S BAGS,ALL GOOD EXERCISE REALLY,BUT STANDING DOWN BY THE BINS THERE WAS A TABLE!ON THE COMUNAL BALCONY,******* WELL BLOCKING MY VIEW OF MY FRONT DOOR THAT I HAD LEFT OPEN SO WANTED TO SEE MY FRONT DOOR FROM DOWN IN THE YARD,SO ALL THE WAY UP THE STAIRS I WAS GETTING EVEN MORE ANNOYED WITH THE TABLE,TILL I GOT TO THE TOP OF THE STAIRS,OPENED THE BALCONY DOOR PICKED UP THE TABLE AND LAUNGCHED IT INTO THE YARD FROM THREE STORIES,LATER MY NEIGHBOUR ASKED WAS THERE ANYONE DOWN THERE AND I HAD TO GO ON TO EXPLAIN ''COULDN'T GIVE A ****'' DIDN'T LOOK,DON'T CARE!?!... TWO PEAKS OF ANGER! IN ONE DAY BUT KNOWONE WAS HURT AND I COULD HAVE JUST AS EASY BUMPED INTO SOME SCUM THAT DESERVED A ******* GOOD KICKING,AND I'D PROBLY BE SECTIONED NOW FOR SIX MONTHS.THE CONCLUTION WAS ME GETTING ******* ANNOYED WITH MYSELF,SO I PUNCHED MYSELF IN THE TEETH,WHERE MY MIDDLE KNUCKLE HIT MY TEETH THE TOOTH ******* WELL BROKE,I HAVE TWO BITS SAVED FOR THE DENTIST TO GLUE BACK ON OR MAYBE A CAP,ANYWAY THAT'S A DAY WITH MOSTLY ANGRY VERY OFTEN FURIOUS,BUT I TAKE MY ANGER OUT ON INAMINATE OBJECTS BUT EVERY TIME I GO OUT I'M READY TO BLOW GO TO ******* WAR AND TRAMMPLE ALL IN MY PATH LIKE SIX POWERFULL STEADS CANTERING AHEAD

Perhaps you should take the time every now and then to look at yourself hard and recognise all the little things that absolutely do not need to be improved...

Yeah, that's pretty much how I feel too.

I am the same way.

Are you tired of feeling down? If you are pick yourself up by POSITIVE THINKING. Don"t you agree others does the negativeness enough. If you truly took a good hard look at yourself you should be smiling. The ones that may need to or the ones that never does. You on the other hand has a big heart and you have much love to share with others, you may not understand why others are the way they are I sense alot of ME thinking in you! :) Use to be Me I will say because I got tired of beating myself up I moved out of "Get over it Town!" I use to have pity parties all the time no shows! So I learn to love me if everyone hears you feel so bad about you by you you may convince them is this your goal? Well if someone need an honest opioin about you do you feel you should give it or someone else? I have a gift is why I do not believe you are as bad as you say. I feel you just have been through some preety hard situations that you could not change. You can only do what you do pray for the rest and God will work it out Take care and make a positive story ba<x>sed on these comments and be happy with yourself!!!!!

Sometimes you have to say to yourself ' I have faults but am still a good person". It is good to improve but everyone should take some time to relax and feel ok about themselves.

I sometimes find that I'm my own worse critic too, but who else could possibly be as critical? You know your own faults, that's all. It's important to improve yourself, but just make sure you keep a positive perspective, and speak to yourself in a polite, helpful way. Don't sit around and think things like "Arggh! I ****ing hate that! I wish I didn't ****ing do that! I should just **** ing go and shoot myself! ****!" because that doesn't lead to an answer to the problem, it just becomes another problem. Just think "Oh, that's not good. Crap, I should definitely try and not do that next time." which is the kind of thought that makes you feel like you've found the answer, which stops it from bugging you all day.

Me either.

I look at myself and see a lot of mistakes and shortcomings, but when I remember my parents, how smug they were with themselves - horrible. I never want to be like them and so I somehow put up with my own critisism, because - wrongly or not - I think it keeps me from becoming complacent and - dead. There is always room for improvement. But also improvement in loving oneself. Fine line! Not easy!

yes, it is a good idea to sometime take the time to look at ourselves and see what needs improvement but that could also be a bad thing if you overdue it. you must also give yourself room to make mistakes...remember you learn from mistakes....

This is true. Many people aren't as harsh on us as we are on ourselves. We fault ourselves for the things that we cannot change, instead of accepting them. I can honestly say that I have many, many faults, but some of the faults in which I have placed on myself, others see it as something to be admired, and NOT to judge myself too harshly for. I too, am going to start being a bit more positive in my day-today living. Like I have stated in many experience that I have shared on here, I tend to want to help others before helping myself, and while that is an admirable trait, I do know that I need to start focusing on myself more. That is one goal that I am trying to attain, and hopefully, I will eventually reach it.

I know that change is good but sometimes I feel that I need to reinvent myself

I didn't understand very well english but and i am like you, i think that we have to be more good with ourself soo we can be happy with ourself

I think honest personal evaluation is admirable. I try to really see myself in a fresh way too - in order to improve. I agree though, this can usually make me my own worst critic. One of the new ways to help improve myself this year will be to focus on the GOOD!