I'm Chinese American

Parents are immigrants, I was born in the US, so I'm proud to say I'm an American.

TheAsianSensation TheAsianSensation
18-21, M
4 Responses Feb 17, 2010

Hahaa, I'm sure you don't talk like a two year old!<br />
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And yes, my parents are able to talk to them on their phone. My aunts and uncles all like in the city, but they aren't rich or anything. <br />
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And you bring up a good point about the being proud of your culture. Being overly proud can definitely lead to problems, and embracing your culture as well as other cultures is probably the best way to go.

I understand about most of the family being left behind. My husband is part Indonesian. His grandfather had to flee Indonesia because he was part Dutch. His wife could choose to stay behind with the family or be with her husband. Obviously she chose her husband. My mother-in-law was born in Indonesia along with one of her brothers, but she moved to Holland when she was 3 so she fully adapted to the Dutch culture just like you fully adapted to the USA culture. At least I'm assuming you have. <br />
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I also moved from the USA to Holland and I also don't get to see my family that much. Despite what some forign people think most Americans aren't rich. I've only got to go back to the USA twice since I moved here 5 years ago (It'll be 6 years in May.). My mom has also only been to see me once. <br />
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Are you parents able to talk to their siblings on the phone? I know that my grandmother-in-law is unable to because they only have one phone in the town they came from. However, I don't know if your parents came from the city or a village and of I have no idea if villages in China also only have one phone. <br />
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I don't think anyone should be ashamed of their culture. However, I don't think you should be overly proud either where you think your culture is the best. Every culture has its good qualities and its bad qualities. I think people should embrace the good qaulities in their cultures. That's just my opinion though. <br />
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I also understand why it's hard for you to read and write Chinese since the alphabet is completely different. Sometimes I wonder how all the Asian immigrants and Greek immigrants can learn English so well. Other Americans may not think their English is so well because of the accent, but I think a lot of forign people wind up learning English well. I had to learn Dutch and I still have an extremely hard time speaking it. I talk like a two year old.

Yes they miss it very much. It's cool that you know a lot of Chinese immigrants, but I think almost everyone will say they miss it. This is because with immigrants from Asian countries, only a few from a family actually leave the country. The rest stay in the homeland country. <br />
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This is true with my family. My dad has 5 other siblings, my mom has 4 other siblings. Only my aunt from my mom's side lives in American, everyone else (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc) live in China. And we usually don't see them for the holidays or anything else. We probably see each other once every 2 or 3 years, so it can get very hard.<br />
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However my parents know that living here will give me and my brother a better chance at becoming successful in life. America was built on the motto "land of opportunities," whether that is true or not is a different story.<br />
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Also I do know Chinese. My grammar and choice of words may not be correct, but I know enough that I could live in China if I wanted to. However reading and writing is a different story. I use to be able to do a little of both (my mom tried to teach me), but it's hard and slowly I've started to lose that ability. <br />
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And I definitely understand about the cultural thing. The weird thing is people like you WANT to celebrate their culture. But first generation people (like me) are embarrassed when they celebrate their culture. I use to be like this but have since realized that I should be proud that I'm Chinese, not ashamed.

Do your parents miss China? I've known a lot of Chinese immigrants, but I was always afraid to ask if they miss their home country do to some controversial issues. Do you know Chinese or did your parents on speak English in the house? I personally always thought you should embarase your culture even if you were born in another country. I wish my family would have done the same but after so many generations being born in the USA they just forget about their origional culture. <br />
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I'm glad you are proud of being an American. I wish I could say the same. Well okay I sord of am, but not aa much as most Americans.