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Introducing Extroverts, Introverts and Ambiverts

This story was prompted by a recent post by one of my very best friends here on ep.  He wrote a story; and for the first time I actually bristled a bit.  All of his writing, ramblings and blogs I have great respect for.  With that said, I found my ego and emotions getting in the way.  I even found myself feeling a bit bruised (not necessarily warranted).

I stated in my comment that I was a complete extrovert with friends that are introverts.  This is not entirely true.  In further research, I found that I am neither an extrovert or introvert, but rather an ambivert.  Hmm…, you ask what is an Ambivert?  Please read on.

DISCLAIMER:  This story is not intended to offend.  It is purely my opinion with a bit of research done prior to writing.  If your comments are mean spirited, please refrain, as my intent was not to create division or disharmony; just another point of view.

Extroversion and Introversion

Extroversion and introversion are very popular terms and are widely used in personality tests. People often regard themselves as being either an extrovert or an introvert. Below I have outlined what I have researched; what each type is as well as their strengths.

Extroversion

What is an extrovert?

Extroverts are interested in the external world. Their focus is on people and objects. They enjoy being with others and like group activities. As such, they like to be noticed. Extroverts find it difficult being alone and feel lonely if they are not with other people. Possessions and success are valued by an extrovert.

It is estimated that extroverts outrank introverts 3 to 1.

Research carried out by Twenge (2001) found that extroversion appeared to have become more prevalent in the US over the years. This may not mean that there are more extroverts out there – rather it could be that extroversion has become a more acceptable personality trait than it was decades ago.

What are the strengths of an extrovert?

Extroverts like to focus on concrete reality and as such are practical and have common sense. They make decisions easily and quickly take action. Extroverts are sociable, enthusiastic and eager to try new things. They can live in the present, without worrying about the future. Their desire for success means they relish achievements.

Introversion

What is an introvert?

Introverts are concerned with their own thoughts and feelings. They are quieter than extroverts and prefer to be removed from the social world. As such they are happy being alone. Introverts do socialize but it will be with a few close friends rather than large groups of people. They will probably feel lonelier in a crowd than on their own. Introverts prefer to plan and analyze things and are careful in their decision making.

What are the strengths of an introvert?

Introverts are capable of introspection and self-knowledge. They value their own standards and principles and as such are independent minded. Other people are not needed for their entertainment or stimulation. Introverts are interested in what is going on underneath rather than being concerned with trivial matters. An introvert will be imaginative and intuitive.

Assumptions made about introverts

There is often a tendency to see introversion as a problem that needs to be corrected. This is not the case. Introversion is not about being shy, depressed or lacking confidence. It is not about having bad social skills either. They just do not need the external world as much as an extrovert for their happiness. Introverts are happy as they are and do not need to be taken out of themselves. Introverts may not give much away about themselves. It is therefore important to not make assumptions about what is going on for them or what they really want.

Ambiverts

Remember, we are all unique and have our own set of characteristics. It is unlikely that a person is totally extrovert or totally introvert. In fact most people are probably ambiverts – sometimes concerned with their environment, sometimes with themselves. This idea is important as it can help you see that you are not all or nothing. It is also an idea to reflect on when you hear someone refer to themselves or another as extrovert or introvert.

 

childoftheland childoftheland 46-50, F 10 Responses Oct 3, 2009

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I think you need to better define the Ambiverts, it's definition here is - lacking something.

From one who is probably mostly an introvert at the moment, but have moments of the other. I think if you look at it, the two points are more like a scale of 1 to 10, let's for example say Introversion is a 1 and Extroversion is a 10, Now rate your self as honestly as you can.

I am probably around a 2. It give's more meaning than a simple differing position of Ambivert.

I have always been coined as an extravert, life of the party type. However... I believe in my experiencing PTSD I am now introverted as too much with people is absolutely draining. I don't. Really like being around many people at all anymore. I spend much time alone My career is also creative and I do my best work without any people... even though my work revolves around people. Its a very juxtaposed concept. Recentlly dating an extravert and I feel claustrophobic.

@koyptakh<br />
I am the complete opposite of you. When I took personality test, I am scored extrovert (not even in "tend to extrovert" box) but one time my friend said "You're an introvert, are you? You keep your problems to yourself" I was so shocked! I always think I am an extrovert, and in my personal opinion, I don't agree to keep problems to oneself.

When I received results of my own testing I also was listed as an ambivert with a slight shift toward extrovert. As well,. my test results indicated my work style and environment preference as being in the center between "expert and generalist" . <br />
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I wonder if this may lead to a perception of unpredictable behavior when shifting between extremes in the personality traits. <br />
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I wonder if themselves more willing to work outside their own comfort zone and leave there peers behind when exploring into other social groups and work groups.

Great post! I am a perfect ambivert. I was tested and scored smack in the middle, which didn't surprise me at all. <br />
I like being around people, but at times they can drain me. I also have no problem being alone, and I use that time to reflect, learn, and recharge. <br />
I'm very happy the way I am and I'm glad to see there's a group for us. <br />
As you said, there are probably many more, they just don't know it yet!

Very fine story indeed and Id say that Im an extrovert for sure!

Thanks Koy and Frito! <br />
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I am so right and left brain, that I really don't fit into either category of Introvert or Extrovert. I spent the last 48 years of my life thinking I was an introvert.<br />
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I like that one more label was created - Ambivert I think fits us all to some degree.

wow...I think this is so true for so many....I know I'm an extrovert is some situations and a complete introvert in others...depending on the situation the label would change...now I can be a definite Ambivert! :D

Hi childoftheland <br />
wow! THANKS!<br />
When I was at school the teacher asked the class to say if they were extrovert or introvert. I said introvert and everyone burst out laughing. I had to take this as an honest ex<x>pression of what they thought of my reply. They could not have orchestrated their laughter. That might sound odd but I really felt sure about my answer. So I have finally had the question answered: I am an Ambivert. Funny as I also prefer Mu!<br />
:)

Hello angel<br />
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From the analysed, confirmed and reported introvert.<br />
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love<br />
b