Amputee and Humor

I have been called many names in my life, but I recently came across one that I found to be quite exceptional; not because it was extremely cruel (which it was), but because I found it to be quite humurous.   The term was "nugget," and it was used to describe a person without arms or legs (quadruple amputee).  I feel even more alone, and like less of a person, just because I thought this word was funny.  Am I crazy?  I need to know how other amputees feel about associating humor with their condition.  My friend is making a "nugget" love song.  How far is too far? Thanks for any help.

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14 Responses Nov 6, 2008

my leg was amputated in 1966, due to a bone decease, after i got my prosthesis, there was this one kid always a smart-***, called me " have leg will travel'' of course you would have to be over 50 to know what it means; i never took anything personal, even the old " i'll take your leg off and hit you over the head with it" if i had a daller every time i heard that one, i could have retired by now.

Being able to laugh at your condition is extremely important, especially for those, like myself, that are just entering into life as an amputee. Words are just that, words. they have no physical presence and the pain they cause is purely mental. Being as young as you are, I would expect that what others think of you is still of concern, but the truth is, the only opinions that matter are those of your friends and family. If someone you don't know wants to be ignorant, let them. As far as how far is too far goes, there is no too far, lol. Laugh hard, laugh long, laugh often. Trust me, my amputation occurred 4 months before my first child is due, I've got more important things to worry about than getting my feelings hurt because someone wants to hurl what are inevitably unoriginal jokes at me. A good sense of humor should be the backbone of every amputee's recovery in my opinion.

Hi Ms.Wordy,I'm Kent a BIG TEDDY BEAR OF GUY.I am not a amputee but I am disabled so what I get it you can make a bad word lose it power but it's up to you..I am looking for a disabled girlfriend maybe a amputee lady could you help me out..thank you!!

When people ask what happened, why I lost part of my leg, I tell them I broke it off in my exes a**. LOL.

I think to be able to find humor in your amputation is a very improtant, it shows a great & positive attitude, it may not come easy but after awhile, hell, why not, its not as if your lost limb is going to grow back ( as much as we wish it would- LOL ).

ireaaly relate to what you have said wordy dont worry your not no way alone sowordy dont worry we all feell as amputees or other things that bother us its just the world has kept us closed in we are very inteligent people remebger this god says he created us inhis making we are beutiful nho matter whato.k. you are wonderfull and funnny dont feel lonly ithink and know your gooodlooking dont be upset elisa i also am a amputee icame out of my coma woke up had no toes on both feet ha...ill be a friend nomatter what...elisa...

i think humor is a good way to deal with it. Im a bka and i have a shirt that says "its all fun and games until someone loses a foot". I think people that can poke fun or laugh at themsleves have a speacial quality to them. It makes them shine even more and honestly being an amputee and showing it off just says your bad as* in a good way :)

hey i like yor stle the way you talk this is the way i see it you say it like it is and thats cool im an amputee also and cacer surviver ans3months in coma 3childrenthat died andphisicaalyabused byexes married divorsed remarried have 1 daughter she has c.p. shes my life shes smart li8ke you aloimmentallyabused to the person i married to but i continue mydaughter weighed 11 oz. and 13 in. long she beautiful and shes snar and an artist so all and all your a very nice andlovelyladyyour very understandin and say it like it is theres other things ihave happen to me mush more but i think iprobably put you to sleep lol...if you want to be friend let me know o.k. elisa...

I lost my leg when I was 3 so I growing up through the 70's and 80's hearing all the names. I don't think it's funny at all. However some very funny things have happened to me. Like the time I sat down on a ski lift and my leg came loose, twisted around backward. It hurt my knee and I cried that it hurt (I was about 10) and my dad said "It doesn't hurt!" twisted it back the right way and stuffed it back on. The poor lift op nearly died right there!

My husband and I had to deal with his life and death struggle honestly and with humor. I had all but lost him in the hospital on three different occasions from two episodes of cancer and one stroke. And no, people never seemed to understand our personal humor, it was too dark and too honest. But everyone is different. The term was not a personal humor FOR you, it was ABOUT you. <br />
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Try not to take it too close to heart.

I don't think there's anything wrong with finding it funny. If you're telling a joke about someone, and they GENUINELY think it's funny, then why not? But if he's making you uncomfortable, that's also totally understandable (and then he should stop). But as far as you finding your own situation funny... That sounds like perfectly healthy coping to me.<br />
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From my own perspective, I've had a brain tumor for 8 years and make jokes about it. I even named the tumor. After receiving MRI results that showed the tumor bleeding into my brain, my mom started calling me Blood Head. :) I appreciated that sort of approach, rather than just awkwardly avoiding the issue. But different strokes for different folks, I say.

If you are questioning it, then I am guessing your not that comfortable with it ... so tell them.

aww, i dont take comments very well when people talk about me. even if there joking. i've had this amputation for 12 years and im still not used to it. i hate it.

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Well I guess it's only funny if you feel comfortable with it. I can see why it's funny, I'm not an amputee so it wouldn't make me feel bad, but if you are, then it's different I suppose. And if your friend is making you feel uncomfortable you should say, they probably don't realise.

Well I don't care what others think, but others do. I can see why this would be funny, but if it bothers you that he's wrightin' a song then stand your ground, if they are your friend they need to concider your feelings. It is only to far if you think it is. Just cause you thought it was funny dosn't mean your less. If that was the case then any blond who laughed at a blond joke is less then.