The last time I admitted to being an Anarchist online I was invited to join an Anarchist organization. I asked who was in charge, was given a name of the leader and his deputies, and I therefore politely declined.
Anarchist Organization is an oxymoron. You can't have an Anarchist leader. Anarchy is about having no government, not about replacing the current one with a bunch of thugs with huge egos. Anarchists may create support groups and study groups, but probably don't need to.
Anarchy is not about violence and mayhem. Quite the opposite in fact. It's about self-responsibility, and interaction with other people in a fair and compromising way to enable everyone to get along.
Yes, it is Utopian.
And we as a species are not ready for it. Some individuals are, yes. But the majority of human beings could not cope without laws and leadership, and removal of any type of government, no matter how corrupt and cruel, would lead to a far worse situation. Ever read Lord of the Flies? You get the idea.
An Anarchist is not a person who refuses to be told what to do, and then behaves badly. That is a sociopath. An Anarchist is a person who can behave without being told to. Behaviour in this sense being co-operation with others. He can play nicely in the sandbox without supervision. He never makes the others in the sandbox cry by taking the sand away they were using, or by pushing their faces into it.
I am an Anarchist. I could, given the opportunity, govern myself, co-operate with others of a like mind, so that we could carry out our lives by mutual agreement without needing a 3rd party to intervene. In my daily life this is actually what occurs much of the time, because I live in the country and follow an attitude of live and let live with my family and neighbours.
But as soon as I leave home I come up against humans who are not Anarchists, even if they hate being governed, they are unable to conduct themselves in a way that allows me to deal with them without outside intervention, such as traffic laws, for example.
My children have been raised to be Anarchists, while still understanding that certain forms of authority are necessary while you are young for safety, and while you are learning true Anarchy. They are unable to live fully as young Anarchists in a school environment due to non-Anarchists such as bullies and ineffective teachers. They know that will be living in a world where the true Anarchist has to tolerate government as a trade-off for protection against non-Anarchists. They cope with all this just fine.