An Angry Adoptee
I have just returned from looking at a post where the person says something to the effect 'of your parents cared for you enough to take you in''so be grateful' with regards to people who find themselves adopted out when they were babies. This sort of comment makes my blood boil for the following reason. The people who adopt babies/children have a huge need for something missing in their lives it is they who have needed us not us needing them, We do them the favor not vice versa. I refuse to say I am grateful to the people who "took me in" In fact my own story as an adoptee, how it came about, the lies that were told, the secrecy and the refusal to let me be an independent human being autonomous and individual because my adoptive parents were after a clone of themselves makes me sick to think about. I aknowledge that since my own adoption took place which was in the 50's things have changed quite a bit and these days people wishing to adopt have to go through rigorous assessments which would eliminate those who did have this sort of crooked thinking however these sort of comments are still being made particuarly from the older generation and I feel really upset when I read or hear them.