Still Not Happy About It

Technically I'm a wife but I'm still not used to being that. Sometimes I feel more like a girlfriend that a wife sadly. My name's Lina, I'm 17 years old and married Trevor over the summer. We're about to have our first child together, Adriana. Her due date's the 26th but I feel like I'm going to pop any moment now....I haven't really known Trevor that long, we got married too quickly probably and we definitely weren't ready to have a child. Its been a rough six months. We live with my twin sister and her boyfriend in a tiny apartment, also with their daughter, and I know Trevor feels like hes letting us (me and Adriana) down somehow. He works 2 jobs, in the evening and at night, and I work and go to school during the day so we don't see each other and we still feel like were barely scraping by.

So two months ago or so, maybe two and a half, Trevor basically came home and was like I'm enlisting in the military and that's my decision and it's what's best and I'm the man of the house etc etc....and I was so upset with him. He hadn't officially signed anything yet but he'd made his decision without me. And it hurt and I tried to talk him out of it but basically it came down to I could either leave him or support him....so I guess I chose support him.

He leaves in March for Basic Training, late March. I feel like its really unfair. I dont know what hes gotten me into and its not really something I wanted. Trevors gonna be a good soldier I can see him being a soldier but I dont know if Ill be a good military spouse....so I dont really know what to expect. So if anyone has any advice I will be happy to take it....
LinaAndLovey LinaAndLovey
18-21, F
3 Responses Dec 11, 2012

Firstly not being rude but you are seeing the negatives out of this situation........probably being so close to giving birth and getting married young, hormones etc. is putting a strain on things. so im here to tell you DONT WORRY. heres why.

think about the things you have got.........your partner who loves and cares for you and your baby, a sister etc.......

i actually agree with him the army is the best thing for you both. people watch to many movies and listen to what they hear in the media to much.

its really not that bad. yes they go away but not all the time. and major deployment they get the choice to go.

but you will recieve health care, housing and all kinds of support, good money etc etc...............not something to turn your nose up too in your situation.

good luck :)

While he is in basic training and AIT, it will be really hard. You're going to question a lot of things. BUt, Love never fails. God has a plan for you, and you wont be let down. Its not as hard as it seems right now. It is a decision for the better. Best of luck to you.

Congrats on the marriage and baby! All I can is look at the positives of why he wants to do this. Maybe it is for the better but also tell him your views and how & why you feel the way you do. Everything will work it for the best. Stay strong & positive.btw you and your sis are pretty!

Aww thank you :) And I know. It's just hard because he just went ahead and did it. I just feel like im clueless and im scared because idk what to expect....

I could understand that. There is plenty of support on here & people to talk to!

True! Thats what inspired me to come back on EP haha