Being An Army Girlfriend Is Tough, But...Being an Army girlfriend is tough. When I see my friends with their boyfriends, I always find myself staring at them like a creep, wondering if they know how lucky they are to be able to be with their man everyday. At work during the holidays, women come in with their soldier in his ACU's, and I feel frustration that my soldier hasn't been granted leave but happiness for her getting to have her man for a few days. There are a lot of ups and downs; highs and lows. As much as we want them to, our friends who are single or in normal relationships will never understand the silent pain we endure. They'll never know about those times that we said "I'm going to the restroom" or "I need some fresh air" and we actually just needed a second to gain our composure because we were having a rough day. We wonder if we should talk to them about how difficult being in a military relationship can be or keep it to ourselves because we made the choice to take on this challenge.
It takes patience.
The amazing thing about it is that, at the same time, it's incredibly easy. To be with a soldier requires an incredible amount of love for that person. And when you love someone that much, they don't seem so far away. Your time apart doesn't seem that long. And the prospect of being with him for a month, 2 weeks leave, a 4 day pass, or even just a weekend is enough to get you through the months apart. And we all know that we want to kiss whoever invented Skype. If we just remember that we still have our own lives to live, goals to reach, and things to do on our own, we can get through these months, this deployment, or this enlistment with strength.
Let him know you're doing ok.
Let him know you're proud of him.
Let him know you're praying for him.
Let him know you miss him.
Let him know you love him.
Let him know you're patiently waiting for him and that you'll see him very soon.
It's tough, but it's all worth it.
We're all going to be ok.