Do I Really Have What It Takes?

Let me start this off with a simple introduction.
Hello out there, I'm Shannay and I'm an Army Wife, clearly. I'm 20 years old and I've been married for a little over a month. I just moved from Florida to El Paso, Texas and it's definitely a change. I met my husband in middle school, we were more of acquaitances then friends back then. We ran into each other around Christmas time while he was home on leave and immediately clicked. We decided to give it a try dating, unfortunately we made that decision the day before he had to go back to Ft. Benning. I fell head over heels for him and when he said he wanted to marry me I jumped for it because I can't think of spending my life with anyone else.

Now that I'm here in El Paso I realize that I am a fish out of water. I have no idea how to be an "Army Wife". I'm having a hard time adjusting to life here. Ive been spending a lot of time in our duplex and it's starting to get to me being alone. I realize that this is something I'm gonna have to get used to quickly because at any moment the Army has the capability to take him whereever and whenever they want/need him. I feel selfish because as each day goes by it gets harder and harder to adjust. I'm not house wife material, I like to work and get out of the house. Its difficult with only one car and me not knowing my way around these parts.

I don't really know my purpose for writing any of this, I'm just hoping to talk to someone that might be able to understand and help me feel a little better.
Fishoutofwater0407 Fishoutofwater0407
2 Responses May 19, 2012

I know how you feel!! When I married my soldier it was a big change for me. I had to learn how to be a wife. I guess growing up I was a little spoiled so my poor husband had to teach me everything, from paying bills to cooking dinner. It gets easier. Being away from home will also get easier. Don't be afraid to go out and meet new people, keep in mind that all those wemon at one point went through the same thing you're going through. When your husband has time go out on the town with people from his platoon. Just hang in there :)

Hey I'm an army wife to I'm also 20 and I also met ma husbend in high school we were high school sweet hearts it's hard for me I haven't seen ma husben in 2 months he's been in training I've been very lonely! I finally get to go see him graduate from training in June on the 12 but I could say things will get betta but they will only get harder just be strong and hang in there :)