First Deployment

Coming into the relationship I knew what I was signing up for but I didn't expect it to be so hard. My husband and I fell madly in love extremely fast, like REALLY fast. We were married a short 4 months after meeting and very quickly started our family. We planned our pregnancy to work around his deployment that was coming up. We decided it would be best for me to be pregnant during his deployment so he would not miss his child's first year of life, but a month after finding out we were going to be parents his deployment was rescheduled. Six weeks after our son was born he left for a twelve month deployment. We are currently two months into that deployment and it's hard. Already he has missed our son rolling over for the first time and he's going to miss so much more! Does it ever get easier? Since the day we met we never spent a day away from each other. He's the love of my life and hurts I miss him so badly. I know this is just the beginning since my husband plans to career out, which I support 100% since jobs are hard to come by and lets face it you can't beat the benefits. Any advice on ways to cope?
KatieDarracq KatieDarracq
22-25, F
1 Response Aug 23, 2012

My husband and I got married on September 11th. We met last year in october on and met in person in December.He is stationed in KY and I am from NY so we did the long distance thing for awhile. He has been in the Army for 8 years and he is doing the career thing.He deployed last Sunday for his first deployment since being married. I support him but, like you, I didn't realize that it would be so difficult. That I would miss him so much. I used to think that military wives were so strong and brave...But now that I am one...I realize that we just try to hold ourselves together for our husbands. I have no idea on how to cope...I read a post last night when I was crying that you should think about all of the good times that you've had together...that helped. Just know that there is another new military wife who is sharing your pain. Well, except I dont have a baby. I am here if you want to talk...