If I Can Help
Let's see another deployment last night our guys boarded the plane at 2:00 a.m This is our third deployment. I just actually found this site by accident which will help me alot due to the dreaded "Officers wife" stigma that we aren't allowed to express our anger and frustration we need to sit quietly and sip coffee. That isn't me. I give my friends the exact information I get I do not hide anything. and i tell it like it is. I have broken all of the rules.
Any advice I can give I will in anyway. You try to stay busy but once you sit down you realize it is too quiet, all of the Army gear is no longer thrown around your house, you overbuy on groceries then realize there is no extra person. As far as sleep goes I have found that tylenol p.m works best for me I think I started that at very first deployment 6 years ago.
Take it one day or one minute at a time you will burst into to tears at any moment, you will be angry that the world continues to move on and you will think ,"don't they know my husband is gone?" Why are people going on with their everyday life. Real good advice I have found that I have given is when your soldier does call or write you tell him, "everything is fine" even when it is not. You fall apart AFTER you hang up. He can't concentrate and come home if he is worried about home. Little advice my husband gave to his 178 soldiers last night he will lead into combat : Even the strongest man cries, let it out cry the entire flight if you have to because when we land-we have business to tend to.