He Just Told Me About 15 Minutes Ago

My husband just told me he has been seeing a shrink since he came back from R&R.

The shrink told him that us getting married was a mistake.

He told me that he wasn't in love me with me

He loved me because of my kids

Then says it's all good

and we'll see when he gets home

 

What do I say to that?

What's happening here?

 

vickigarcia vickigarcia
31-35, F
11 Responses Feb 18, 2009

I don't even know what to say. My husband kind of freaked out a little, but that was only cuz we r young. I couldn't imagine ur hurt, but stay positive. If you want to talk I can listen. Just email me or something.

I don't even know what to say. My husband kind of freaked out a little, but that was only cuz we r young. I couldn't imagine ur hurt, but stay positive. If you want to talk I can listen. Just email me or something. Theresavulpittabmc@yahoo.com

that is very sad...i dont even know what to say to that.<br />
it is very messed up for him to be leading u on this long if u need anybody to talk to i am here for support

Yea, We had a HUGE problem like that with an Army shrink too. (ain't gov heathcare great) When she returned from Iraq we (some of the spouses and myself) had a sit down with her and her commander. She tore apart our units and platoons. Her commander had new professionals come in and work with all of us. I am sorry this happend to you both! I hope you can both work this out, I wish you both happy.

I'm glad that you guys are working it out. Too many couples seem to be ready to throw it all away. Good luck.

YES LADIES IT'S AN ARMY SHRINK AT IT'S FINEST, I FEMALE THAT HAS BEEN DONE WRONG HERSLEF ON TOP OF IT!

Wow. That is painful beyond belief. I (and hopefully you!) feel a little better after reading your second post saying you had talked to him a little more , and things were sounding a little more positive.You are living my worst nightmare. That is and always will be my worst fear, that my husband , once away , would feel differently about me once he gets gone. What a terrible shrink! Is this an Army shrink??

Well thats good.

a lot of what he said was very textbook shrink stuff, I am soo gonna find out who she is! Anyway, we talked some more. The shrink thinks we got married too soon....blah blah blah...we decided that maybe we did, so we are hitting the rewind button a little and gonna fall in love with each other again

Gosh.. I think you should go set up an appointment to see the mental heath professional on post too. Establish someone that you can talk to if this turns out poorly. <br />
Secondly on a more angry note. what kind of shrink tells a man his marriage was a mistake?! That quack should get his license to practice taken away. People take psychologists very seriously and saying something like that can ruin lives. Hopefully your husband can work through whatever it is he's having problems with and this will all repair itself. I'm here if you need me. <br />
Bless

OMG girl Im so sorry to hear that but does he believe all that? That your marriage was a mistake? was the conversation bad from the start? omg I dont know what to say Im here if you need anything have you told any one as far as a friend that can go see you? my heart goes out to you write me so we can talk