Taking It Over Bored

Ok here I go, alot of you probably aren't going to like this but some of you well I'm sure.  I have taken the empath tests and quizes on line, not just one several, also taken skill tests and they have showen I have a high skill.  Empath is not a power it is a skill, you feel empathy for someone, something, or a situation.  As human being we try so hard to fine an explanation for our actions or feelings that we are willing to baleive or make up just about anything.  Acording to your test I am a natural boren empath, or maybe it could be that when I was very younge a had a friend that woke up one morning and could no longer walk,  while he could no longer run around with us a school I would say inside and help him with the physio they were doing with him.  I baleive I would have been in grade 1 so either 5 or 6 at the time.  Time went by and he started to develop movement again, and could eventualy walk, I had my friend back and he was thankful for me standing by him and that mad me feel good.  Or in the play ground someone would hurt themselves you'd help them up because thats the way I was raised, and nobody in this world can say it doesn't feel good to get gratitude from somebody when you help.  So naturaly I grew up wanting to help people and doing so when I could and I am no 27.  I also developed the ability to read people, through their voice, facial expressions, overall body language and actions.  This is why I hate talking on computers and text msgs.  Over the years I have learnt that people in general always put themselves first, so naturaly as a defense I read everyone all the time.  Yes some things you can read through texting a computer like spelling, spacing, usage of words, well give you a vage idea but not enough to fully relly on.  Same with a written letter except you have a couple more, such as size of writing either getting bigger smaller through different parts of the letter, pressure on the pen or pencil.  So yes I do have a very good idea when someone is lying, I am probably right over 90% of the time, but there is also a reason an empath doesn't like to confront their lier.  There is the chance you may be wrong and if you had powers like you think you do that shouldn't be and issue.  No you might have missed a sign so you aren't quite sure.  I do confront them because I can give them the traits they do when they lie and that is alot more convincing then say " I just know you are".  Ok now the fact of dealing or being affected by others emotions.  This is does not have to be a bad think, but to be consumed by them is.  Maybe the fact of the matter is we just aren't that happy with our lives and are to scared to do something about it that we well consintrate on helping others all around as because there is the possibility we might fail on ourselves.  The point I have is you feel the pain of a loved one from the otherside of the world.  In todays world comunication is easy weather it is internet, phone, texting we can always comunicate in some form or a matter with people everywhere.  So you notice your auntie living in Japan hasn't been on facebook for a while, so you get nervous and you start processing information you gathered over the last little while about her life, and you don't even know your doing this.  Then your over active parinoya compiles an accident or an injury, and you know you might be right she might have had a heart attack, but her face book status last week said "these knew heart pills are keeping me up"  "damn cat jumped out of closet this morning almost gave me a heart atack",  "sure wish I could aford a sick day not feeling very well, and pritty tired".  Do you see how this could happen I do.  I'm not saying you are stupid, or nuts or anything like that for baleiving in something, but lets take a step back and look at the whole picture.  Maybe there isn't a gift maybe we just have an issue we need to deal with and are scared of.
Lyle332 Lyle332
26-30
5 Responses May 4, 2012

I don't think this really has anything to do with being an empath. I think you're just a realist. You have to see everything exactly how it is. You're probably highly self critical and it makes you mad when you see people you feel you are "better" than living an easier life. If you have to be constantly reminded of your short comings why shouldn't they. <br />
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You're obsessed with the truth, but you don't care if you should be. ie: If someone is lying you're so obsessed with that fact. You don't care why their lying. Most people will lie because they don't want to talk about something. And most people will not call them out (empath or not) cause that's a kind of a **** thing to do.<br />
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Look I'm not trying to be mean about this, but it sounds like you really need to give yourself a break. Stop obsessing and comparing yourself to other people. Maybe you just have an issue you need to deal with and are scared of and your projecting it onto others because you don't know how to deal with it. <br />
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Look inward<br />
Don't be afraid to ask for help<br />
Good Luck

I think you might be mistaking peoples' assertions that they are empaths with them claiming to be psychics.<br />
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Empaths simply pick up and "feel" what people around them are feeling and understand tiny cues that a lot of other people cannot. It is a skill, and probably one most feel that they have always had (this is how I feel). Everyone has similar skills, just in different areas. So, an empath is no "better" or "smarter" than anyone else, just a bit different.

I have to disagree with you on some respects. Yes it is true that your mind does pick up small clues. I know this because in my dreams my subconscious will tell me things. This is why I pay special attention to *all* my dreams.<br />
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It is not my place to say if you are or are not an empath. But you seem to be one of those people who read microex<x>pressions fairly easily. (Look it up if you're game enough)<br />
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Empathy is something that everybody is capable of, however being an empath is very rare. We're born with a natural tendancy to understand those around us, feel how they feel and sometimes even understand how they think. Whether or not you believe it is spiritual or psychic is up to you. I believe it to be science.<br />
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It's easily explainable actually. The human body has an energy field around it (Yes, Aura's are scientific, I researched this). Some people can feel it easier than others. The feeling of it runs through us and can affect us in both negative and positive ways.<br />
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We as individuals have to learn coping methods, and as most empaths will tell you, it is can be a gift or a curse depending on how you perceive it.

I do bleive in god and we all have a soul. All I'm saying is people find a reason or an excuse for something they are either unsure of or unable to understand. I do baleive yes there are sertain people that do have a certain gift when it comes to dealing with people. I've been told many of times I have it, and if you read the traits of an empath I fit to a tee. All I baleive is it is getting pushed to far, the first few things I read about being an empath I was intreaged and felt similar to the way you described you felt. Then I read further and thats when I lost intrest in it and felt it was being pushed to far. Some people do have a gift when it comes do dealing with people, but it's not super powers as some have put it. My hole life I have put the needs of others befor my own and at the age of 27 I am physicaly and emotionaly drained. Alot of this came from when I did actualy look inside my self, it was probably one of the hardest things I have ever done. I do baleive somepeople have a gift but it's not to the extreme it has been pushed to. That is what I ment by my statement, I just wanted to show a possible and fully explitational reason for people.

Lyle, sorry man, but I have to disagree with your assertion above. I do believe that intuition can be honed as a skill in such professions as interrogators and investigators, but even that is not a natural "knack" so to speak. I believe I am an empath, if not some psychic gift of some sort, then at least I have similar traits to those that also state they think they are empathic. I don't care much for labels, but I have found a lot of relief after decades of thinking I was just some wierd runt odd-man-out to discover that many also have similar characteristics, curses, what have you.<br />
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It is in our being to try and feel some-what in control of our lives and ourselves. However, I feel your post was merely your own rationalizations and an attempt to convince yourself that God doesn't exist, or there can't be a soul, or whatever you're into. I will tell you that I was born the way I am and this so-called gift I bear has haunted me all my life. It's no skill I have worked on, yet it intensifies as I get older. I'm 42 btw...<br />
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So as much I can appreciate and seek to understand another's opinion, there are just too many out there who claim to be just like me in too many oddly coincidental ways that I can believe your theory holds much water...