I Desire Infj Friends

There are less than 1% of us in the entire world. Love it!

It makes me really happy to know that I'm not the only one whose thoughts cover ground in leaps and bounds. My thought process is full of tangents that twist into the same chain.

Some people say I am weird, and even question me. Since i am introverted, i don't speak back since i hate to fight. I really want a friend that can understand me fully but i have given up on that search two years ago. It's somehow funny, we can understand them and their situations but they can't understand us.

To: ckirby129 Hi! :D I think your real friends will understand that you tend to internalize. You are an individual. I say stay around those who respect, appreciate and treat you well. Enjoy solitude when you can, and enjoy socializing in your own way, on your own terms. Keep in mind that you can't help some people, but only enable them. (It was a hard earned lesson for me.) Keep chatting online. There are folks here who will appreciate you. This one does. ;)

I would just love to have friends that understand my "weirdness". I think if I reached out more often and showed people that I cared it would be easier to keep people around instead of keeping all of my feelings inside. On the other hand, when I do show my feelings some take advantage of my kindness and leave anyway. Has anyone found a way to keep people around?

this story and it's consequent responses made me lmao....

translating intuition into logic is like the bane of our existence.. u can get good at it...... but you'd still be spewing out a bah-jillion unnecessary words to arrive at that same conclusion that you no longer give a s*** about



Peregrin,

your story's title was enough to make me erupt w laughter...

i love that i am naturally a wholistic thinker and can see connections in people and circumstances..I dislike not being able to put it to pen in a business plan! It's like a void to enter and all the coaxing in the world can set it straight.

@mused You wrote "......how I can get from point a to x in three hops in a manner of seconds."



I wrote about this in one of my post! It was really frustrating when I was younger because I would arrive at a conclusion and then teachers would tell me I was wrong because they didn't know how I got there. It made me doubt myself a lot. Some people who don't know me very well think I'm very logical. I'm not , I'm intuitive but I learned that other people understand better if you present your conclusions with logic rather then expecting other people to follow your intuition.



Whats so hysterical to me now is people who are intuitive and get there the same way I do ask me why I'm droning on ( when I'm in logic mode) It just make me giggle inside.



It takes a lot of energy to try to convert intuitive insight into logic and I always feel exhausted afterwards.



I don't worry about it so much now as I realize that 98% of the people aren't going to really get where I'm coming from and rather then waste my energy making them understand I need to make sure I understand myself and whats going on.



A psychic friend who is dyslexic sometimes cheats when trying to understand new concepts. Instead of listening to words she goes inside peoples heads to pull the idea.



She told me once out of the blue that doing that with me always gave her a headache because I always had about 10 different thought processes going on.



I think what INFJ's do is correlate a lot of data using 6 senses rather then the usual 5. If we are in the right frame of mind we can do it pretty fast.

Oh I wish I had connections like that with people. I want INFJ friends too, one of the reasons I love EP and this group especially. I love lots of things about being an INFJ, but it is hard. I guess my favorite thing about my personality is my ability to intuitively help others (though I wish I wasn't so much of a people pleaser and I wish people were more open to "psychic" natures) I also love my ability to think so deeply. Really the only thing I dislike about being INFJ is other people's lack of understanding. I do want others that know me to be able to read a description of an INFJ, though, I'm not entirely sure that would help much as I am so very complex. I dunno. . . It's just so nice to read things on here and go *phew! I do that too, people like me really do exist in this world* :D

to jtab4995: INFJ is one of the sixteen possible personality types according to one of many personality type "systems". (google MBTI, keirsey, infj etc.)



i'm a infj too - and it's funny reading this post, i just had a close friend of mine tell me the other day how hard it was for her to understand me sometimes, due to what _she_ said was the nature of my thought process. i guess this is common for most infj, and perhaps several other, less common p.types.



i'm not completely sure whether it's due to personality type, or just that some people share a certain common understanding of the world - but some people, whom i even spend a considerable time with and have a great desire to connect with and understand, i just can't seem to 'level' with, or arrive at the same 'wavelenght,' and things must be explained thoroughly by them for me to understand, and vice versa. it's very taxing to be in a relationship like that, for example, due to the mere workload of making everything clear in conversation.



With some others, however, (and they have without exception been highly likely infj's, tho this is not confirmed), i feel an instant connection, where every word and expression makes sense to me, and i completely understand where the other person is 'coming from' in a conversation, and so on. which is extremely liberating, to say the least...



has anyone had similar experiences - of a certan instant connection with someone that is infj? or perhaps it's not due to personality type, but rather something entirely different?



this is my first post, so ... hope it wasn't completely lost upon everyone. =)



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