Intuition Vs. The DopplegangerI have a story and a very interesting challenge that I am going through in my life right now. One that I don't know if it is my case in particular, or if other INFJs may have gone through the same thing themselves.
My entire life my intuition has been my best guidance for me. Even though I may have ignored it, it has always been right on the spot, every time. I can be doing a dozen things at once and keep up with them all and not have anything to keep me in loop with how, other than my gut. I can talk to people and figure out what is really going on because of my intuition. And you know what, my intuition has the better judge of character than I do.
Over the years I've learned to trust and develop my intuition and I have finally reached a crossroads.
I have met a fellow, a fossil if you will, and I am happy. We are in no rush but it is very obvious we are very happy with each other and we aren't interested in anyone else. The only problem is his "Sister" and best friend.
This "Sister" is someone who has been a bit of a problem for me since I met her two years ago. From watching her manipulate people to get what she wants to seeing her steal, I really have a hard time accepting her as someone to be around. In fact, I had made a point to avoid all contact with her for a period of time. But when my fossil and I started to date, she started to come around again, because, after all, the "sister" and best friend is always going to be there to "check out the competition."
If you're a sister, how am I competition?
Well, for him, I made an attempt to reconnect, and on her merit, she had improved. Her drug use had gone down to the occasional use of pot, she was in college and she wasn't cheating on her boyfriend.At least that I knew of.
One night she even stayed over for a girl's night, and that led to the beginning of changes.
At one point in the night she confessed that she wished she were in my shoes, that she had my life and that she could have what I had in every sense of the word.
I didn't think of it at the time, but over the last month I've noticed some minor changes.
The first was the glasses. I have always had the thick rimmed black square glasses. I blame it on Velma From Scooby Doo, She was sexy in them, and not to mention they fr
That was when my intuition twitched the first time. I felt like I was staring at a taller me with green eyes and bad teeth.
Since then, she's gotten her teeth whitened, which I'm delighted for, she's bought grey contacts for outings, and every time I see her I just feel this bump in my stomach feel less and less like a bump and more and more like a warning.
Today when I saw her, she had on a pair of jeans and a top that were of the same brand and style, and I thought that maybe it was a top that I had lent her, but no, she had gone out and bought a "few new little things" which consisted of several outfits similar to mine.
Now I'm starting to feel red flags.
Am I overreacting or should I be trusting my intuition? It hasn't steered me wrong before. I know the actions could just be a series of coincidences and I'm just full of myself, but I strange things can happen in reality.
So, some perspective would be appreciated. I'm happy to give more data to help explain, this is just a general synopsis.