The Need For Love..

well, hello, im very excited in using this site. I am a brand new member & I already feel welcomed, so thank you(:

I am INFJ, ive known since I was 15 & ive always had a problem with always being loved & being obsessed with love & I want to know if you guys need love, like me.

I always think people don't love me, like my family.. Sometimes when people hug me, I feel confused. I do like to be alone & sometimes I like to be with people, but ive used people in the past, just to give me compliments and make me feel specail & it hurts me really bad when people don't show love
towards me, like my parents. I mean I usually search for love all the time.. I don't know if theres more people like me, but its sort of my weakness.
jaynotjay jaynotjay
18-21, F
2 Responses Sep 18, 2012

I completely understand this, I'm the same way. Your not alone, even if it feels like it.

One of the INFJ's biggest struggle is accepting Love, and finding that perfect relationship. There will always be a part of you that keeps a distance because there are so few out there who will understand your needs and desires.

It will not mean someone does not love you, chances are your lack of comfort arises from your inner self knowing they will not understand you, and your fear of that understanding automatically removes them as a possible inner circle friend, or mate.

You seem to be looking for that unconditional expression of love, but it simply is not something people can show all the time. Life plays a part in distracting us, keeping us from focusing on what we enjoy.

Understand that a gesture of that unconditional expression of Love means that when things become hard, people will pull through and be there when you need them. The rest of the time....well....Life happens, and it is important you are able to show your support.

Welcome to EP....and a generally quiet community of INFJs.