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Lonely

Ever since I can remember, I've always felt alone, even in a crowd of people. Either I feel misunderstood or don't feel compabitility with others. It's hard for me to make friends because I'm often in my own little world. Though in the evening, when I'm at my loneliest, I feel like there is hardly anybody I can talk to. I've tried to find friends online but I feel desperate and usually don't find many friends. I like to have strong, long lasting relationships. I don't want to be alone or feel alone anymore, so tired of it. :(
rachelrose9 rachelrose9 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 24, 2010

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Hi

My situation is same as yours

Aby

Lonliness steals from a person the posibility of solitude. In solitude, a person becomes the support for her/himself; When the list runs through I need someone to ...; Solitude puts the responsibility on the person stating the need; I need someone to care for me -- I care for me; I ...

In coming to an embrace with oneself, a person feels less lonliness and more confidence without compromising one's own little world, from which we derive our spiritual strength. This makes one available to be attractive to and of other people without having to worry about the ones who ignore. It is a journey, not a destination, a process not a solution, no magic here, I wish you wonderment in your self-discovery.

Wow. I'm guessing this is an INFP thing because I've always felt that way too.

I can relat to what your saying,,I was married 43 years my wife died in 04,,I have ben alone every sence ,,the only friends seem like is so far away,,,

I know exactly how you feel. You sound like me - someone who is a loner but doesn't necessarily want to always be alone. You want to be your own person with your own identity and you don't want to appear desperate or sacrifice your dignity by throwing yourself at people's feet in the hopes that they willaccept you as a friend. The only thing that would be worse is if you actually did compromise your dignity and didn't get friendship from it. And though the online realm seems the more ideal route for people like us to take in terms of finding friendship, that's not something that always works out either. Even online people will reject you if the catch a wiff of the scent of desperation on you.

Me too! You are not alone.