Surprise! Things Finally Make Sense...

I am an INFP. This is not a definition, it's freedom. Freedom from the tyranny of a world that says "You don't measure up and you don't fit in." I grew up wondering why I struggled with relationships. I can still remember a guy saying to me, "Why have you hidden yourself away." This was a revelation! It's true it took awhile to put all the pieces together. (My mother use to call me a late bloomer.)

Check it out - there are good things about being an INFP.
- We care deeply for our close friends, family and our beliefs. In fact, I read that we have a "capacity for caring which is not always found in other types".
- "Cool as a Cucumber" - My calm demeanor has come in handy in stressful situations. (True, I may go home later and fall apart but I have rarely lost it at the time of crisis.)
- I want to make the world a better place - not just occupy space.
- I love being able to jump in any time and anyplace to help someone.

Of course with the knowledge of the good things also comes the weaknesses: Loneliness, short attention-span (The distraction of "bright shiny objects"), sticking to a goal all the way to the end, following a schedule and thinking logically-Ugh!

Still overall, it's nice to be one of the "few".
FunnyGirl5729 FunnyGirl5729
41-45, F
5 Responses Sep 2, 2011

FunnyGirl, good story. You have set up your profile so no one can say hello to you. do you want that?

Love it that is soooo me

I really enjoyed reading your story and I totally agree. It's freedom. <br />
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As you say, it's both good things and bad things in being INFP, as it is with everything. However, after finding out I was an INFP I focused very much on the good things, as the bad things I was already painfully aware of. <br />
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"You don't measure up and you don't fit in"<br />
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The story of my (earlier) life. <br />
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But now I'm happy to know that I actually will fit in and measure up in most situations, I just see things differently from the majority. <br />
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And I also care much less what people think about me. I know I'm not alone. <br />
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The only thing I really don't like is that it's very difficult to find love being an INFP guy. <br />
I'm always seen as the very close and good friend, I'm never the guy that light the stars in a woman's eyes and sweeps them off their feet.

I second the distractions of bright shiny ob<x>jects! xD

good on ya