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I Am An Introvert

But My Husband Still Doesn't Get It

By: agyrlt
Written on May 4th, 2012
Im am finally at such a great point iny life with who I am, my husband however still sees my "introversion" as a flaw. He is constantly telling me that I need to get out with friends and do more because he does those things. I have tried many times to explain to him who I am and what I prefer to do with my time. I don't know if he thinks I'm to shy or insecure to get out and do things or he just has no respect for my desire to spend time alone. Either way I know he sees my personality "type" as a flaw as many do and as many introverts have mentioned, I'm just so tierd of defending the fact that I enjoy thinking, reflecting and I happen to love my own company.
By: agyrlt
Age: 41-45 , Female
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    Liminalghost
    Liminalghost

    I would agree that it can ruin a relationship. I know of an experience where a woman did not have alot (any?) close friends but instead chose to mainly use the Internet for companionship. Suffice it to say the marriage did not survive... it does not sound like you are doing the same thing though...

    Oct 26, 2012
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    tjstefan
    tjstefan

    One thing I am grateful for is the fact that most of my friends get my introversion now. Romantic pursuits, another story. Some people just don't get the fact that I'd rather read a book than talk to ANYONE sometimes. Nothing personal. But in a world of extroverts what can you expect?

    May 15, 2012
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    NewAntoinette
    NewAntoinette

    I understand how frustrating it can be when others in your life cannot accept you in your entirety. I feel like I shouldn't have to defend myself to people like that and either just eliminate them from my life or tell them that they are the ones with the problem, if they are so bothered by my introversion. Maybe that should be your next approach: Don't answer to him, make him answer you: "I'm perfectly comfortable being this way, so what's your problem?" But I'm also rather blunt, and considering that he is your husband, you cannot just "eliminate" him (ha!). But this problem isn't going away anytime soon, and it can ruin a relationship if not settled. It's great that you are comfortable with who you are. That is definitely most important.

    May 6, 2012
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